Disney VACATION/BIRTHDAY PARTY DILEMMA wwyd??? SOS

[Lives4Disney]

Hi, everybody......well it came in the mail today. The dreaded invitation to a birthday party at Chuckee Cheeses scheduled for the Saturday before we leave (Thursday) for our absolutely expensive, deluxe, dreamed of and planned for 6 months, highly anticipated 12 night Disney vacation.

I feel so bad because my daughter (6 yrs old) ALWAYS 100% of the time without fail gets the blurpy stomach flu after a visit to Chuckee Cheeses. Then of course at least 3 of the 5 of us catch it.

I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, most of all a little bday girl. I do not know these people, other than the little girl is in my daughter's kindergarden class and did come to her bday party in January.

I just told my 15 yr old son the situation and right away he said "Don't let her go. There is a 100% chance she will get sick." He is right. My 9 yr old said the same thing!! They KNOW! I feel so torn. I am just so afraid to risk those strong CCheese germs against my vacation.

What would you do??? What should I do??? I don't want to come off as neurotic, but I am serious, no two ways about it - that place makes my kids ILL.

Thanks for any advice!!

Lives4Disney

 

[kat3668]

Dont let her go!!!!! Chucke E cheese is a virtual germ factory.. Would'nt risk my vacation for that silly mouse...
Does she know about the party.. if not then you are golden... If she does know just explain the situation to her most kids I know would understand.. and plan something else fun for the day to keep her mind of of it...
Good Luck and have a magical trip!!

 

[Lives4Disney]

Dont let her go!!!!! Chucke E cheese is a virtual germ factory.. Would'nt risk my vacation for that silly mouse...
Does she know about the party.. if not then you are golden... If she does know just explain the situation to her most kids I know would understand.. and plan something else fun for the day to keep her mind of of it...
Good Luck and have a magical trip!!

THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! I thought I was being nuts, but I would prefer to keep my kids locked up for the whole week before we go on vacation!!!

WHAT should I tell the mom??? I really feel bad about it and still would like to get a bday gift for the little girl.

My daughter does not know.... My older daughter said to pretend I never saw the invitation! Mean, but my kids really know how these things turn out. We have a history of it!

Lives4Disney

 

[huey duey & luey]

I am thinking of a quarantine for my kids before our cruise. Seriously, I wouldn't risk it

 

[JoiseyMom]

Keep her home!!! Don't tell her about it. Since they didn't come to your DD's party, did they give her a gift? If they did, then yes, give a gift, if not, then no, don't gift. Tell the mother you are sorry, but your dd can not attend. Why do you need to give a reason?? You can't make it, and you are very sorry. If you are lucky you will get an answering machine .

 

[Lives4Disney]

Joisymom, maybe I wasn't clear. She did come to my DD's party. I will drop off a gift. That would make me feel better about it all. Yeah, I always feel the need to give a reason. I will hope for an answering machine - that would be the best.

Thanks for the responses. It just makes me feel better about my decision. I really do not want to risk it and thought "Is it just me???" We have had enough WDW vacations with somebody getting sick while there. I am praying for a healthy trip this time.

THANKS!

Lives4Disney

 

[rkandmjsmommy]

I would call the mom and tell her you have something else planned that day and PLAN something else maybe a trip to the disney store to buy disney dollars?????

Try not to sweat it, when your dd gets older, tell her the truth she will appreciate missing a bday party so she isnt sick in Disney, I would do the same thing

Have a GREAT trip

 

[mama22]

Another vote here for not letting her go! Hopefully she won't remember it once she is on her way to Disney, !
I did the same thing before our trip in December, so if you are neurotic, I'm right there with you.

 

[mom2boystx]

JMO here but since when do you need a reason for not being able to come?

We can't go to our son's friends parties all of the time (7 & 4) due to other commitments. Those could range anywhere from a baseball game, school events, fishing, being sick (that has been the problem lately actually!!) or just spending much needed family time together! Does that mean I tell them our reason for not coming...no. Just a simple 'we already have plans for that day but thank you for inviting him' and leave it at that. Our schedules are so busy as it is that taking a weekend off to just be together and spend time as a family is the number one priority for us.

If you feel the need to give a gift, then do so.

I agree about CE Cheese too....for the sake of the disney trip....let her miss this party and enjoy DW.
Looking forward to our first trip in October! Of course that is for my boys' birthdays so we will be having our own party in MK!

stay well!

 

[cheryl111]

Thank goodness for this thread, the last time we went to Florida we didnt get time to do the chucky cheese restaurant and we said we would do it this time! Out of curiosity what type of meals are there, I'm guessing cheeseburgers, chips etc am i right? Cheryl

 

[dsnymomof4]

We do not go to Chuck E Cheese for that very reason. I would definitely keep her home. In fact, the week before our trip in July I didn't even want my girls to go to my brothers house to play with their cousins because they are frequently sick. I was really worried about them getting something before we left. Of course, as luck would have it, my DD4 ended up with a stomach bug while we were in WDW - thank goodness only lasted the afternoon! I don't think you're being neurotic at all, just precaucious. After all, you want to have the best possible time you can in the world! Have a great trip!

 

[tcolbert]

If it happens everytime without fail, then she should definitely pass on the party. If she insists, keep one of those hand sanitizers handy (Bath and Body Works is having a 3/$10 deal right now.) There will be plenty of other parties, you just want her to be healthy enough to enjoy her vacation. Maybe take her out for lunch the day of the party, as an alternative, and make it a mom/daughter thing.

 

[tcolbert]

Maybe send a gift or card for the little girl, or tell the mom you have previous plans.

 

[DaisyD]

I always quarantine DD 10 days before a trip! LOL! She goes to school of course but is not allowed at parties or the play area at the mall. Chuck E Cheese is always out of the question even if we aren't going on a trip~! What I do is call the inviter and tell her why my DD isn't going. I then send over a gift or giftcard to the birthday kid.

 

[3mickeys&me]

I think you are doing the right thing by NOT letting her go to the party!! Just tell the party Mom you already have plans.

 

[tjmw2727]

I wouldn't send her, in fact my kids rarely even want to go to those types of parties anymore and it's never been a problem. I would just call and say that you can't make it. I never give a reason anyway, esp with a school friend except to say thanks for thinking of XX and maybe we can get the kids together to play another day.

Honestly I have never given a reason and never been asked for one so just be kind and politely decline.

TJ

 

[Lives4Disney]

Thanks for all the replies. I feel much better about not sending her. It just doesn't make sense to take such a big chance.

I will drop off a gift and RSVP as suggested. There is just something about me that I feel the need to give an explanation - but you're right - I shouldn't feel that need.

THANKS!!!

Lives4Disney (getting excited!! Under 2 weeks!! )

 

[pyrxtc]

Thank goodness for this thread, the last time we went to Florida we didnt get time to do the chucky cheese restaurant and we said we would do it this time! Out of curiosity what type of meals are there, I'm guessing cheeseburgers, chips etc am i right? Cheryl

Actually, they serve a very tatsy pizza and have a salad bar with a lot of good stuff and also serve beer and wine for the adults. They also serve hot dogs and a few other tasty little things. They don't do burgers or chips. We were at our closest one last week and my kids had a blast. My kids only used to get sick when they had that ball pit. they get sick mroe at the cDonalds playplace and my DD used to get lice after every visit to McDonald playplaces, so we don't do them anymroe. Last time we tried, a little boy ther had peed in his pants and the mom says, "ok, 3 more times down the slide and then we have to go.". DISGUSTING! He had left small puddles in the tunnels and the slide was wet. My kdis were really upset I wouldn't let them go on the structure anymore but as I l;eft, I told an employee what happened and they kicked everyone out and locked the playroom door. I so wanted to tell that mom off and how she ruined my kids fun.

that all said, I wouldn't let her go. Just say you can't make it and let that be the end. you have a lot more fun coming up and it wil all be forgotten by the time you come back from vacation.

 

[jenr812]

ITA with everyone else. One thing I might do though is plan a special playdate for your child with the birthday child for AFTER your trip

 

[staci]

I wouldnt let her go either.

We left on a Friday last trip, and I refused to even allow ds around other little kids that week! There was NO WAY I was dealing with a sick kid on our family vacation! I wanted to make sure he was 100% ready to experience the magic.

That being said, I am sure some non-disney-loving parents may not get it, so I would rsvp that you had plans, and send a gift. Then come up with something to do!