We'd like to have some time factored in for relaxing (although the more I read on these forums the more I think that Disney isn't for relaxing!). I'd love to be able to hang out at the pool at least 2 or 3 times during our 6-day stay, but it seems to be a tight squeeze in-between lunch and dinner after factoring in transporation to and fro, changing in and out of wet bathing suits, etc. When do people swim?!
Are we being lazy by not going back to a park after dinner? In theory I'd love to do that every day, but in reality won't we all be pretty much beat by dinnertime?
We went last year w/ our 2 girls (almost 6 and just turned 9). I think the key is to be flexible. We did get a stroller a few times (when they were wiped out). Keep that option available. Yes....4&7 is old for using a stroller at home when you are going to the park or the mall typically but you will be walking more than normal at Disney and it can save a lot of anxiety for them and you if you know exactly where they are.
As far as dining goes- we did spend time swimming and relaxing at the resort, etc.
I'll give you an example of our itinerary/dining plans so you can see how we did it.
arrive Saturday afternoon....downtown disney and counterservice...swimming at hotel
Sunday- late start MGM @ 11 for 50s PT cafe and then Hollywood and vine fantasmic package for dinner (back to hotel to crash after that)
Monday- bright eyed for opening at MK- CS lunch at 11 and then back to hotel to relax and swim by 1- back to MK by 5 for the evening parades/fireworks, etc
Tues- late start to AK, arriving after 10- CS for lunch and then dinner at Boma at 5:40. To hotel to swim for night
Weds- Epcot for lunch w/ Princesses in Norway 1:25 (swim in morning at hotel) and then epcot Future world until dinner at le Cellier at 8:30-
Thurs- Chef Mickey breakfast and then to Blizzard beach all day- hotel to swim in the evening.
Friday- Typhoon Lagoon AM- hotel for food court lunch, epcot world showcase after lunch w/ biergarten for dinner at 6:30.
Saturday- MK at 9am last chance rides before noon return to hotel for Magical express.
We had plenty of downtime. We did have parkhoppers but didn't use them at all. I think the key is to just let your kids really guide you. If they are early to bed types, then plan on one or two late nights and the rest early ones. If they prefer to be up late and sleep in, then plan your trip that way. Nothing will spoil a trip more than grouchy kids!!! Don't be afraid to scrap plans. I totally missed illuminations all 3 times I tried to see it. Oh well...there's always the next visit. My little one missed the MK parade too. She said now we HAVE to go back!
We were beat by dinner time a lot. Don't feel pressured to see it all and do it all. You won't succeed anyway and you'll be miserable trying! I'm convinced you'd need to stay a month in order to actually see and do everything at WDW.
Have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself!

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