Disney haters...

[Kittyskyfish]

I hope so!

 

[mdsd8700]

Hopefully your friends didn't realize they were being hurtful and were only trying to be funny. Although your DH wants to let it pass, I think bringing it up and and talking about it is the best thing. If they are receptive to your feelings and understand your point of view then I would say your friends didn't intend to hurt your feelings and thought they were poking harmless fun at you. If you bring it up to them and they think you are out of your mind, then I think you need to re-think your friendship. Real friends will try to understand your feelings and would be sorry if they hurt them, even if inadvertantly.
Good luck.

 

[skiingfast]

You may want to tell DH that you understand that it is not a big deal to him and that they may be his friends but you found it terribly hurtful. You may also say that you don't feel comfortable being with them at thier wedding and would like to spend as little time there as possible. You wouldn't want to ruin there day with your upset attitude. Maybe DH can help accomodate your needs regarding this.

 

[Funball]

i think she should hijack all the disposable digital cameras they will have at the wedding and disney them out on photo pass site!! and then give them the nerdyest, tackyest mickey and minnie figureine! remmber the name "twinkle dinkle happy package for disney haters!

 

[skiingfast]

i think she should hijack all the disposable digital cameras they will have at the wedding and disney them out on photo pass site!! and then give them the nerdyest, tackyest mickey and minnie figureine! remmber the name "twinkle dinkle happy package for disney haters!

I think this could inadvertly egg them on. Though if it wasn't I would bring a few Disney figures take the cameras and take pictures of the figures on every single camera so they end up with a hundred Disney pictures.

 

[Funball]

I think this could inadvertly egg them on. Though if it wasn't I would bring a few Disney figures take the cameras and take pictures of the figures on every single camera so they end up with a hundred Disney pictures.

haa haa of course you would!!

 

[pikaboo27]

OMGosh everyone, you have me laughing so hard. The Mickey and Minnie picture frame is now on order. What a great idea!

To those who said I am overreacting--You are probably right. I'm likely being way too sensitive. I actually do know that they didn't go to DL, they texted my DH when he asked. They were just messing with us, and I'm sure they didn't mean any harm, but they do this kind of thing a lot, so it is really frustrating.

For those who mentioned not going to Hawaii, that would probably be the best thing financially, but the guy getting married was DH's best man and DH would never agree to missing the wedding, no matter what they had done.

Thank you everyone for making me feel better. I knew I could count of my fellow DISers to put me in a better place about this.

You guys rock!

 

[Funball]

*bowing* thank you thank you...we rock!!

 

[azdisneylover]

Peek,
To me, these friends sound a bit jealous of you and your hubby. There is friendly teasing, then there is being mean and these people fall into the latter. They see you both love something and enjoy doing it together. It must really bother these people you and your hubby having a great time EVERY TIME YOU GO! There are many couples out there that can't stand to do things together, they may be some of them. Too bad the Disney resort in Hawaii wasn't finished, you could have booked there and had a good time.
Maybe you will make Disney friends you can do more with, and less with these friends.

Life is too short. Enjoy every minute you can get to the parks with your DH and know you have many friends here that understand the joy and wonderful feeling you can get only at DL!

 

[darph nader]

I've been to Hawaii. Very pretty,very nice weather and 'expensive' as all get out. I've been unemployed for over a year myself and $2,000 would go along way to better things.

 

[cooniez]

find some new friends

Where is the "Yeah, that!" button? But on a serious note, regardless of what the topic was they were mocking you about, what they say hurts you and/or DH which shows they have no regard for your feelings. You don't need these kind of people in your life. It sounds really cliched to say it, but really life is just too short to be hanging around people who make you feel bad, you know? Feel better and have fun at DL come Halloween!

 

[curiouslittleoyster]

It seems like whenever they are bored on a road trip, they do things like this. Like we are their in-car entertainment. And some of them have not been so harmless.

I read your post and this bit above stuck out to me. It seems sometimes that in a group of friends, you see a certain breakdown with a "leader", "leader sidekick", ones that kinda just go along with the flow/easy going, and then there's sometimes the one who ends up as the butt of jokes/entertainment value. Everyone makes fun of this person but it's always "all in good fun" and not meant to harm anyone.
I don't think your friends really realize that they may be acting in a hurtful or cruel way. I think they think they are just having fun you guys. I don't think you will be able to stop being friends with these people if your DH doesn't think it's a big deal and especially if he considers one of them his "brother". Don't feel like you are over reacting. You are definitely entitled to your hurt feelings. Is there someone in this group that you feel a bit closer to that you can share your feelings with?

 

[ChickenCarlos]

Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces.

 

[nunzia]

No offense here but I think you're taking the whole thing a little too out of hand. You have no proff, simply speculation, that they haved into whatever it was to screw with you. I don;t know much about Facebook and have no idea what this foursquare is so I'm not sure how you know that they weren't actually there. Is it not possible that an opportunity came up and they went? You don't have to be addicted to Disney to enjoy yourself at the Park and you can complain about the prices of something and yet still gouse their services. Is it possible they had free passes where spending a day or even just an afternoon isn't a big deal?

Now see, if this was a one time thing..a joke gone wrong between friends, it wouldn't bother me. The phrase that got me thinking more seriously about it was this one :
<<It seems like whenever they are bored on a road trip, they do things like this. Like we are their in-car entertainment. And some of them have not been so harmless. >>

Clearly this is a trend, and some of the 'jokes' sound like they may have been much meaner. When 'friends' do things that are "not harmless" then they are not friends. I can take teasing and such just fine and it's fun to dish it out at times, but there is a line..these people sound like they are just not good to have around.

 

[Todd Lee]

Now see, if this was a one time thing..a joke gone wrong between friends, it wouldn't bother me. The phrase that got me thinking more seriously about it was this one :
<<It seems like whenever they are bored on a road trip, they do things like this. Like we are their in-car entertainment. And some of them have not been so harmless. >>

Clearly this is a trend, and some of the 'jokes' sound like they may have been much meaner. When 'friends' do things that are "not harmless" then they are not friends. I can take teasing and such just fine and it's fun to dish it out at times, but there is a line..these people sound like they are just not good to have around.

I agree with this! I don't know how old you guys are, but this kind of teasing goes on in middle school, and should taper off in high school. As a married couple, you should have more respect for yourselves than to put up with getting teased. Especially since it sounds like it's an ongoing thing.

 

[Funball]

I think the “friends” should be served with the “Disney haters twinkle dinkle happy package”…. Kittyskyfish and I can make one up for you.



Seriously though, as I said before and everyone else has said, these people are not your friends dear.

Friends do not do that kind of junk to other friends! And umm 2k for Hawaii, I think you should put that to better use like save it or use it for your house or to pay your water bill etc…

besides what if you guys go to Hawaii for the wedding, then regret going –well BAM! Your out $2K! besides it's just a wedding, it's not like you been saving up for this for ages and it's something that you and your hubby want to do together..

 

[MineMail]

I wouldn't give them the Disney wedding gift because they'll just use it against you. "Can you believe those idiots gave us a tacky Disney picture frame?"

I say go to the wedding, but blow them off as much as possible while you're there. You're paying $2,000 to go to Hawaii - enjoy it with your husband. Don't think of it as their "destination wedding," think of it as your own vacation. You're sacrificing a lot to lay out that much money given your financial problems. Honestly, real friends would understand why you had to bow out. Your husband's loyalty is displaced - he really should be focused on the financial picture of your family. You didn't say that HE is going to be the best man, so I'd guess that while he considers them "brothers" they don't feel the same way about him. It's sad, but it happens more than most men realize - it's a one-sided relationship.

Plan sight-seeing and activities as a couple, not a group. They've already ostracized you with their repeated insults and mocking, so their only reason to include you is to get new material for their comedy routines.

Don't offer to do anything for the couple - it's their wedding and they seem to be superior to everyone else, so they should be able to handle everything on their own. Do NOT be at their beck-and-call when they need last-minute help. Be ready on time for the required events but don't spend all of your time with the group.

If they question you, say that you and your DH were really looking forward to a romantic trip together. I wouldn't dignify their Facebook behavior with a comment - they're not worth the recognition. If they bring it up, say you were really hurt and you don't want to discuss the incident. Repeat if necessary, but don't lecture or bring up every slight. They're not worth it.

They don't sound like particularly good friends if they make fun of you or talk about you behind your back. I'd shake them off after the wedding, maybe even "unfriend" them on Facebook. When someone makes a joke at your expense more than twice, it's not a joke anymore. It's an insult.

 

[Disneylander55]

I wouldn't give them the Disney wedding gift because they'll just use it against you. "Can you believe those idiots gave us a tacky Disney picture frame?"

I say go to the wedding, but blow them off as much as possible while you're there. You're paying $2,000 to go to Hawaii - enjoy it with your husband. Don't think of it as their "destination wedding," think of it as your own vacation. Plan sight-seeing and activities together.

Don't offer to do anything for the couple - it's their wedding and they seem to be superior to everyone else, so they should be able to handle everything on their own. Do NOT be at their beck-and-call when they need last-minute help. Be ready on time for the required events but don't spend all of your time with the group.

If they question you, say that you and your DH were really looking forward to a romantic trip together. I wouldn't dignify their Facebook behavior with a comment - they're not worth recognition. If they ask about it, say you were really hurt and you don't want to discuss the incident. Repeat if necessary.

They don't sound like particularly good friends if they make fun of you or talk about you behind your back. I'd shake them off after the wedding, maybe even "unfriend" them on Facebook. When someone makes a joke at your expense more than twice, it's not a joke anymore. It's an insult.

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[pinktink83]

Kitty Sky is right...guys do stuff like that to each other a lot. The guys my husband works with are always giving him crap about stuff, making fun of each other, insulting each other, etc. Its just part of the pack mentality they have I guess! Guys are just different with their friends. I could definitely see one of his friends doing something like that.

I also make fun of him and his friends about their hobbies, aka, Warhammer and stupid xBox games, LOL. Its all in fun, but seriously, can you say GEEK?! LOL. They know I'm just giving them a hard time.

If they were just bored in the car, I could see how they might think its funny, even though you did not. Their judgment may have been thrown off by sheer boredom.

I really wouldn't let it bother you.

 

[MineMail]

Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces.

That's deep, man.

This doesn't sound like guys teasing guys, unless their wives/SOs are also into the mocking. This isn't the first time it's happened, so it's a pattern. It sounds like the group has outgrown the OP and her husband, so they feel they can laugh at them. Boredom is no excuse for cruelty.

Since they're really HIS friends, it would good for the OP's DH grow a backbone and ask his buddies (nicely) to lay off. If he's not willing to do that, the OP should find new friends that share their interests, like DL.