Disney haters...

[pikaboo27]

So, this weekend, some couple friends of DH’s and mine who hate Disney decided to play a little prank on us to further mock our love of Disney. We were on Facebook and they checked in on foursquare at DL and they started posting on Facebook about all the fun they were having there. Well, we were pretty hurt that they had gone to DL without even inviting us, given how many times we had asked them to come with us over the years. But then we noticed they had only stayed a couple of hours. And given that just a few days ago, one of them posted on Facebook complaining about how DL had raised their prices and how he couldn’t believe that they were spending 1.2 billion on DCA instead of giving that money to charity (because Disney is charitable foundation rather than a corporation, I guess?) And we couldn’t believe they would spend $101 pp for a couple of hours!

Then we realized what they had done. They had hacked four square to show they were in DL and were just screwing with us. I know it’s kind of vain to think they were aiming at us given it’s on Facebook, but they mock us about it so frequently that there is no doubt in my mind that they were screwing with us, specifically. If it had been over text or something private, it might have been funny. But they chose to do it is a public forum like Facebook and that hurt even more. It’s not enough for them to mock us to our faces, but they have to do it in front of so many people. It seems like whenever they are bored on a road trip, they do things like this. Like we are their in-car entertainment. And some of them have not been so harmless.

I know I should let this roll off my back, but I am so sick of these people doing things like this. What’s worse is that we leave in just over a month to go to Hawaii to celebrate the wedding of one of the couples. We are spending over $2,000 to go to and be there to share their day, when my DH has been unemployed for over a year and this is how they treat us. On the one hand, I want to call or e-mail them and let them know that what they did was wrong and to find a new sport to amuse themselves, but on the other hand, I don’t want to encourage them by letting them know how it made us feel or makes things awkward in Hawaii. Plus, DH thinks of these guys as his brothers and doesn’t ever want to think badly of them.

I guess I just needed to vent a bit. I know there is nothing I can do, and DH doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. I’m just so mad at them. And the fact that my anger is probably out of proportion for what they did only makes me feel worse. I know people here on the boards have experienced Disney haters, so I know at least some people here know how I feel.

Thanks everyone for reading. I’m just going to sit here and wait for Halloween to come so I can go back to my happy place: Disneyland!

 

[nunzia]

I don't think it is funny or harmless at all. Friends like these are not friends..I'm not sure why your DH wants to be friends with them? Anyway..if possible I would try and cancel the Hawaii trip...really, you can't afford it and that's a good out. Then I would slowly distance myself from these people so it's not so noticable and I'd never talk about Disney in front of them..

 

[DanT]

find some new friends

 

[bumbershoot]

I think it's awful when friends mock the interests of other friends. I'm sure you don't mock their interests, right? So why do they feel it's OK to mock your interests?

Then again, guys sometimes behave differently than women do, and your husband might not feel as strongly as you feel about this.

I would have to tell them that they need to stop, b/c it's not nice of them...and hope that they do!

 

[elbowglitter]

I agree, these don't sound like good friends at all. It's fine to not understand someone else's interests, but you shouldn't mock them for it. We're all different.

 

[SeattleTink]

Friends (real friends) do not treat each other like this....plain and simple this was rude.

It doesn't matter what they were mocking you about, it isn't funny. It is just hurtful.

I'm sorry you had to experience this childish behavior.

I agree with Bumbershoot, I would tell them how hurtful this "prank" was...if they are true friends they will listen. If they aren't true friends, well time to find someone who is.

I know it is complicated since your DH feels like the guy is like a brother....best of luck to you.

 

[BELLEDOZER]

I can't believe that these so called friends would do that to you and your DH. Sounds like they are not very good friends to you if they pull stunts like that. Since you are putting out a great deal of money that you can't afford, unless you get an apology ouf of them regarding this, I would suggest that you cancel you trip to Hawaii, since you can't afford it, and the money would be better spent on household expenses.

 

[SD33]

I say you take the money you were gonna spend on Hawaii and head to Disneyland for a week

Some people feel the need to hate on other people's affinities because they are insecure about themselves. I have some friends who definitely give me a hard time for my greater-than-average love of Disney parks. Especially since I am a twenty-something, heterosexual, male. Shouldn't I be more enthusiastic about something less family oriented, colorful, and childlike? lol I don't really care. The people I look up to in life are the ones that can be themselves regardless of what others think. I agree with others on here...if friends can't love and appreciate you for who you are then they aren't really your friends at all.

Maybe your husband does take it differently than you. Major stereotype here, but I think guys often respond to hazing more casually than women (maybe it's part of our culture as dudes). But as a guy who is generally pretty good about stuff rolling off his back, I think you have a genuine reason to be miffed at this one. Their teasing seems excessive and in really poor taste. So in the interest of symmetry, I will go back to my original point: $ 2000 goes a long way at Disneyland

 

[superme80]

That is hurtful! I would definitely be looking into new friends. And hacking into an account is not only rude and disrespectful, but also illegal.

 

[Kittyskyfish]

I'm sorry your husband has friends like these, but some guys hold buddies to different standards (much lower standards...jmo) than women do with their friends. Your DH might not like the razzing over DL, but behavior like this might be something he finds normal and acceptable as guy-friend behavior. Some guys give each other **** as a fun way to get a rise out of each other, and they overlook the frustration it causes because they're "friends". Your DH has a buddy group that seems to be particularly aggressive this way.

Teasing both of you on Facebook is meant to make you mad. Don't show them how hurt you are. That's exactly the reaction they want to see.

Unless he reaches his tolerance threshold for this type of horseplay, he's still going to value their friendship and overlook their jerking around.

My advice? Get them a really, really tacky wedding gift. Something you made with glue, macaroni, and glitter, perhaps? Oh, no...wait!! Get them a Disneyland wedding-themed picture frame for their wedding.

 

[Disneylander55]

For those who get it, no explanation is necessary.
For those who don't, no explanation will do.

 

[Todd Lee]

As previously mentioned, I'd check into canceling the obligatory hawaii trip. These "friends" aren't friends at all. Ditch them as inconspicuously as you see fit. $2k is a lot to spend on people that don't seem to like you very much.

And yes, I'm a guy, and yes, I teased plenty when I was a kid/teenager. I grew up though.

 

[Funball]

Life is to short to be hanging out with friends like that.. if they do not understand you and your DH’s love for Disneyland then they are not your friends at all(because they are not supportive etc.) to do a stupid prank like that is just showing how they don’t care about your feelings…

I suggest instead of spreading the fuel in the fire, I would just take a step back from those people-don’t call them, don’t email them and knock them off your face book page and just find some new friends to hang out with (at Disneyland also!), in time they may find that their stupid prank has cost them a nice friendship. I know that’s it hard for non Disney lovers to understand the magic that we Disney lovers feel for Disneyland and Mickey mouse—but that is why we hang with “our own kind”; other Disney lovers—because we understand each others passion

Here on the dis there is a ton of people that share the same love as you and your DH do for Disneyland, which is of course why we all are members! So I am sure that some other couple would love to meet with you guys and hang out and before you know it you guys will have a strong Disneyland friendship!! And yes I only hang with Disney lovers at Disneyland!!

 

[Disney Dreams]

Are you mad that they don't like Disney or are you mad that they were poking fun at your love for Disney.

I don't think a few posts on THEIR profile on FB should bug you that much, but if it does, then you either need to discuss it with your friends or decide to either a) let it go or b) chose to not be friends anymore.

Personally, I would have never said a word to them. Then, they would never know for sure if you saw it or not and would have wasted their time on a bizarre "joke."

-Dreams

 

[DisneyStitch626]

For those who get it, no explanation is necessary.
For those who don't, no explanation will do.

Well said!

 

[Padstack]

Oh, no...wait!! Get them a Disneyland wedding-themed picture frame for their wedding.

This!

 

[Belle Ella]

No offense here but I think you're taking the whole thing a little too out of hand. You have no proff, simply speculation, that they haved into whatever it was to screw with you. I don;t know much about Facebook and have no idea what this foursquare is so I'm not sure how you know that they weren't actually there. Is it not possible that an opportunity came up and they went? You don't have to be addicted to Disney to enjoy yourself at the Park and you can complain about the prices of something and yet still gouse their services. Is it possible they had free passes where spending a day or even just an afternoon isn't a big deal?

 

[MomToOne]

I'm guessing they don't know you are as upset as you are. I'm not faulting you for being upset - I would be too - I just think they don't know you are. Guys are clueless like that sometimes

If the friendship was forged via your DH (i.e. old school buddies, etc), then he needs to tell them to back off - in a very serious manner. If it was you, you need to. If they are co-friends, they you can draw straws or do it together.

But before you write off the friendship, make sure they understand you really are upset first. I bet once they get that, they'll not do it anymore.

 

[Funball]

My advice? Get them a really, really tacky wedding gift. Something you made with glue, macaroni, and glitter, perhaps? Oh, no...wait!! Get them a Disneyland wedding-themed picture frame for their wedding.

Ok kittyskyfish—that is funny!

But I agree also. ditch Hawaii! At least save your money and wait till the new Disneyland resort is open and you can go with your DH alone! I am sure you two will have WAY more fun that way.. and like SD33 said, maybe also pocket some of that cash and go to Disneyland … SD33 is right, a certain amount of money can go along way at disenyland…besides going to a wedding in Hawaii with childish friends like that is overreated!

 

[tinksdreamwishes]

our non disney loving friends tease us about going to DL- alot! But they arent that mean- LOL! Cancel the trip- and use the money to go to DL! Send them a postcard from DL saying how you wish they was there! And send a a disney gift-