Disney alone with 2 kids??

[gower525]

Well, he has DS6 this weekend. DD3 is home now, but going with my mom and dad on a little trip tomorrow. I am a teacher and have lots of supportive friends at school, so I am OK. I will not ever go back to that church. He actually quit a few weeks ago, so he is not there either. He told the church that they were not supportive of his ministry - sure - he just couldn't handle the guilt of being the youth pastor while doing this to his family. We are out of school all next week, so the three of us are taking a little trip to cave city to visit Mammoth Cave and Dinosaur World. Our motel has an indoor pool. It is not much, but something to look forward to. I also have lots of very supportive family in town. I am going to start going to church with one of them. I just can't decide which one.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Well, he has DS6 this weekend. DD3 is home now, but going with my mom and dad on a little trip tomorrow. I am a teacher and have lots of supportive friends at school, so I am OK. I will not ever go back to that church. He actually quit a few weeks ago, so he is not there either. He told the church that they were not supportive of his ministry - sure - he just couldn't handle the guilt of being the youth pastor while doing this to his family. We are out of school all next week, so the three of us are taking a little trip to cave city to visit Mammoth Cave and Dinosaur World. Our motel has an indoor pool. It is not much, but something to look forward to. I also have lots of very supportive family in town. I am going to start going to church with one of them. I just can't decide which one.

Oh my goodness, was this child in his ministry? If she is then he will be dealing with her parents. I wonder if the church found out about this before you did and kicked him out instead of his story? I also wonder if this young girls family sent her away to separate them? The whole string of events seems fishy to me.

Your trip sounds just wonderful. I do think of it as a huge deal, its your turn to have an adventure with your kids AND you will have a pool I tell my kids all the time their kisses are magic. No matter how sad I am a few hugs and kisses from them and my sadness is lifted... magic

 

[gower525]

No, she did not go to the church. She doesn't even claim to be a Christian. He did have her help out as a "counselor", however, over the Summer. Apparently the youth really liked to have her around. She was friends with some guys that were in his first youth group (they are 25 now). That is how he met her. I don't think anyone at the church even knows about her. I want so badly to announce it to everyone that thinks so highly of him, but I am trying to be the better person and rise above it.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I am so very sorry for you. I think he will end up with the short end of this stick, not you.

 

[I believe]

Sorry for your situation. I would say you should definitely go with your kids. There is so much to do, you will be fine. I only worry when I have to bring my kids somewhere boring for a long time. That wont' be a problem at Disney World! Disney World is the most magical and exceptionally fun place on earth. I think you have thought your self up one great opportunity to start new traditions and new happy memories. One other great part of your idea to go next summer is that you can start to plan your trip right now with your kids. I think I have as much fun planning as I do on the actual trip. The possibilities are endless and all good, when it comes to Disney World. Keep your chin up and try to remember that everything happens for a reason. Whenever a door closes there is always a window waiting for you to find it. I say start planning now this might just be your window!

I am wishing right now for the best vacation planning times for you and your family starting right now so muster up a little courage, and set your new good times free!

 

[LuvOrlando]

How was your weekend Gower 525? Have you settled on your plans for WDW?

 

[momsoftwins]

just another soon to be single parent checking in. hope all is good and everyone is gettin ready for turkey day. (even though its a hard time for me and others) i have alot to be thankful for.
well have a great night all

 

[noahdove]

I am so sorry to hear of this..whatever you decide, go to Disney..in fact, let your little ones help you plan. Get the DVD, and use the disney site to allow them to look at all the great stuff that they may want to do. Just remind them, that they may not be able to do everything..but they will have a great time. I will be there with my granddaughter 14 and my sister's grandson 8 next August 10-15 if I can be of any help. I can't wait. The 8 year old has never been and the 14 year old has no clue she is going....I will be praying for the 3 of you...It's sad enough when anyone has a someone on the side, but being a pastor it's tough....to think he was working with youth...talk about mix messages....have a great and blessed Thanksgiving and enjoy your time with the children...

 

[Camster0307]

My husband left me for another woman four years ago. I was determined to continue our family's annual trip to Disney each year and proud to say I have gone every year with my girls since 2003 (and I have one child in a wheelchair!) Suffice it to say, I'm LESS stressed with just me and my girls than when I had my ex with me!

Go to Disney and ENJOY! You'll have a great time!

 

[NewRocDad]

Gower525, my heart goes out to you. You didn't deserve this, and it's only natural to be angry. I'm angry about it, and I don't even know you! I'm glad you have your folks available, and if you make it to Disney it will surely be a treat for your little ones.

My goodness, I can't even imagine how you feel. All I can say is, in time you will feel better. Just remember, it wasn't your fault, and one day your children will understand that, too.

 

[gower525]

Thank you everyone for your great messages. We are definitely going to go. I haven't set a date yet or made reservations, but I will. Our little trip to Cave City went great. We even went horseback riding ( a first for all of us). I think I have been so dependent on him for so long that it is just scary to think about doing something like Disney by myself. I know I can do it though, and it will be fun. It will be easier in many ways without him. I am typically so worried about trying to please him that it makes things much more stressful. The kids and I are already talking about ways to save up money!

 

[Irish9697]

Just wanted to give more support.

My ex-husband left us at the beginning of June 2006 for a 22 year old. They'd met the previous September when he (age 32 at the time), as an executive, took her to lunch because she was a new hire straight from college as a "welcome to the company" thing. Starting around November/December, he made my life miserable and told me how terrible I was and that I'd ruined his life. It came out of nowhere and caught me off guard. I worked my rear off trying to change for him. He swore there was no one else. And, then...a week after he left, he told me about her and it all became clear...he made ME miserable as a way to ease his guilt. Whatever.

They're sure to be engaged soon and I'm divorced, but the settlement definitely went my way. I have my kids 90+% of the time and they hate spending time with him. And, yes, I have my down days, but overall, I am very happy.

And, yes...you can do Disney on your own! I too was so worried, but planned it anyway. Was so nervous the night before, but we had a BLAST and I promise, I didn't even miss adult companionship. We did what we wanted, when we wanted.

So, plan it and do it. You won't regret it!

And, hugs to you!

 

[LuvOrlando]

Thank you everyone for your great messages. We are definitely going to go. I haven't set a date yet or made reservations, but I will. Our little trip to Cave City went great. We even went horseback riding ( a first for all of us). I think I have been so dependent on him for so long that it is just scary to think about doing something like Disney by myself. I know I can do it though, and it will be fun. It will be easier in many ways without him. I am typically so worried about trying to please him that it makes things much more stressful. The kids and I are already talking about ways to save up money!

I am so happy to hear you are going to WDW, you guys all really need something to look forward to as a family.

Are you off from school all week for Thanksgiving?

 

[gower525]

We have been off all week for Thanksgiving. It is almost harder to be home, however, than at school. It seems like the busier the day, the better.

 

[lpandorf]

I've gone 3x with my two kids. DD is 7 and DS almost 4 now. We just got back from a 5 day trip last week. DH won't go and I love it so I take them alone. It is fine and we have a great time. We fly from Ohio, get a 2 hour direct flight. Then hop on the Magical Express and they take care of the luggage. You can print boarding passes and check your luggage at your resort for many airlines so makes it easy to head back. One thing I found at the airport that really helped is a sit and stand stroller. DD is too big for it. But I put DS on the back and my carryon on the front seat and go. Then I gate check it. I like having the stroller around and not have to rent. And in a pinch if DD is really tired she can ride on the back for a few minutes.

We pace ourselves if a summer trip. Pool and naps in the afternoon. Me too! I've also used Kids Nite Out babysitting service or put them in one of the Kids Clubs that some resorts have. Head to the spa or treat yourself to a dinner. That way you get a break and my kids love sitters and kid club. This past trip was a short one and they kept asking for a sitter.

Rides are easy with the 3. Most rides you can do 3.

I'd say to go for it! I even took them at ages 2.5 and 6 and we had fun!

 

[december]

I just got back from my trip a few hours ago. We had a great time! As I said before, my kids are older (10 and 8) but the 3 of us fit together on one seat for most rides. For others, I rode with dd and ds rode in front or behind us, or they rode together. She even did some things (like Expedition Everest!) that I never dreamed she would do-just so she wouldn't disappoint her big brother. We enjoyed every minute of it-I got so many hugs and kisses and I love yous!

I'm 34, and dh and I have been together for almost 20 yrs (in Feb), so I understand how lonely you must be right now. I can't even imagine trying to start over at this point. I hope you have a great time planning this trip!

 

[angel*lady]

I don't have any advice but I wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers.

 

[girlsx2]

My heart goes out to you. You and your children will be in my prayers. All will be fine in time.

I just decided yesterday that I am going to take my three girls next summer. My DH doesn't want to go. Hates Florida. His job is seasonal and he can not get off in the summer anyway. I am a little scared as I am a little affraid to venture so far by myself without him. We will fly down and stay about a week.

Have fun with your children.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. If you don't mind a recommendation, I found books on tape to be enormously helpful during my "I can't stand to be alone" periods. My all time favorite series is Harry Potter, although there are tons of choices available. I think the CD's are great because the distraction can follow me from the car, into the house, and anywhere else I need to be. I guess they are so helpful because they fill my head and drown out the rest of whats in there when I need to be distracted but can't sit still for a book or movie etc.

Just keep reminding yourself, "This too will pass"...the older I get the truer it becomes.

 

[RedAlfalfa]

I took my 2 alone last month(DD4 DS just turned 2). My DH was supposed to come with us, but got a new job and had 5 weeks of training out of state so it was me & my munchkins.

I was lucky in that the trip we took was given (room at least) to us by my old boss so we stayed at the Beach Club. It made it pretty easy getting around (didn't have to hold my 2 yr old while trying to fold a double stroller for trams or buses). But that is not usually in my budget so I did get lucky.

The only real time I missed having another adult was when I got food. It was not easy to push a double stroller and carry a tray of food from the counter to the table. Leaving a stroller at a table (even in sight) with a 4yr old and 2yr old was not an option for me. 90% of the time though someone would offer to help me out so even that wasn't a big deal. I did forget straws, napins & utensils our first meal so if anyone saw a Mom letting her 2 kids eat Mac-N-Cheese w/ their fingers one day last month that's why. (after that I had a supply in my diaper bag....and don't worry I did have baby wipes for their hands). And with your kids being a little older you might not have that kind of issue anyway. =)

All in all it was a great trip and I'm sure you'll have a great time.