Disgruntled wife-you want to what $%@?

[frannn]

DH and I have been talking about a trip this Oct (he has time off this March, also, but DD will only be 6 months) so in Oct DD will be just over a year, and will be able to enjoy WDW at least a little bit. He calls this AM and says, "When did you want to go again, after the Oct trip? Were you thinking about next March?" After I got the warm and fuzzy feeling, thinking yipee!, two trips, DH goes on to say, "because if you were thinking of going again in March, why don't we just skip Oct and just go then". What? I have been begging and pleading for the Oct trip, so why don't we wait another 5-6 months after Oct? No way!!! I proceeded to explain that is the point of buying APs, so that we could go in Oct, and then again whenever. Also, DC is ending 2003, so we would lose all the ticket, merch, car rental, etc discounts from that.

I hate to be selfish, knowing I am lucky to go at all, but if we can, why not? We were there last Mar, when I was 3 mo pregnant. It will be 1.5 years by the time we go (if we do go) in Oct. I have been doing the reward programs and putting aside some $, so that's not really a big issue. The trip could be free and I'd still be begging DH to go. Could I have a "cyber hug"?

 

[SeaWitch]

A cyber hug for you
Take a deep breath... and give yourself time to think of the best way to explain this to your DH so that he will understand all the hard work (and anticipation!) you've put into planning this. I'm sure he will come around!

Keep us updated!

 

[frannn]

We have 215 credit with Jetblue that expires 3/03-6/03. We got this because the flight cost went down, then they lost our bags, twice (from the same trip). We will lose this if we don't book flights this year.

 

[beansmom]

tell dh you understand completely and will be happy to pick up some ears for him when you and baby go.

Seriously, we are facing the same type of dilemma-dh is getting ready to change jobs and we don't know if he will be able to take the week off that I HAVE to go.

Told him last night that dd and I are going anyway, although it won't be as much fun, and he and I can go next year with my AP.

 

[abeyst]

Another big hug for you!

I know what it's like to go through the hassle the hubby give you. Mine did the beginning of Feb so we went without him. We had the money to go, I'd been saving since September 2001, but he still fought me on going. He'd rather spend it on remodeling the house instead of good family time at Disney. The vacation, however, with my 4 yr old DS didn't go too well. He missed his dad and DS who was 5 months. We cut our trip in half.

Back in February of 2000 we took our son for our first family Disney trip and he turned a year old while we were there. We had a great time. He was the perfect age to eat regular food, but slept alot and didn't give us a hard time about the rides we wanted to go on. I'm planning on making reservations for this September when my DD is one so we can go as a family and make up for our not so great trip a few weeks ago. I had such good luck with my DS when he was one I don't have any reservations about doing it with my DD.

Talk your DH into going, I'm sure he'll be ok once he knows how much it means to you-plus I know you need that break away from home for a vacation-let him know that, too! You're going at a non-busy, still warm time of the year.

My bargaining tool- I pick the vacation this year, you get to pick it next!

Keep us posted

 

[Poohnatic]

Sprinkling some of my recently received MK pixie dust for you (did you know it is shaped like Mickey heads?)

I'm blessed...my husband almost is more into going than I am! I'm booking October next week. Shhh, don't tell him it's the Poly this time!

Suzanne

 

[awdwnut]

Enough of this husband bashing! I have this same problem with my wife eveytime we go. Those of you who have spouses that love WDW as much as you do are very luck indeed.

awdwnut

 

[jultomzach]

My DH does not enjoy Disney as much as I do. I could go once a year. He has "been there, done that" attitude. He enjoys fishing in Canada. (does fly in trips with remote camping, days at a time - no running water, toilets!) I feel we need to respect each other's differences. Luckily, he doesn't even try to get me to go to Canada! We do have a 4 year old son. DH certainly wants to be a part of a Disney vacation with him!
This January, DH came for a Fri, Sat, Sun, Mon and Tues. I meet up with friends who were there for the week. Aside from record breaking lows, the arrangements worked out great. The only thing I will change is DH should join us end of the trip. My 4 year old had a rough couple days as he got used to the changes (hotel, car, routine, etc.) I would suggest that you look for other family, friends, couples, etc. who enjoy going to Disney. I already have the next year lined up, going with my sister/her kids in JAN 2004. Because I know a lot about Disney I find many people are interested in going with me. I do promise to spend some time orienting them to the parks (I love doing it too!) I have learned this lesson the hard way forcing husband to go a few times. It is much more fun to spend time in Disney with someone else who is also enjoying it! And my DH enjoyed the time he was there!

 

[khawk]

Im going to WDW in May with my 2 daughters and my parents. IM DIVORCED!!!!! Yeah... My ex was always getting my hopes up and then crashing them down. I Have been divorced for almost 3 years and Im not currently dating but I have promised myself that if I ever get remarried that my wedding will be at disney with my daughters present (and his kids if he has any). I am being very picky next time around and he has got to love disney as much as I do. You should just have a heart to heart with your hubby and tell him how you feel. Maybe he will learn to love disney as much as you do. IF he doesnt want to go would he get upset if you went with another family member or friend? Good luck
Kim

 

[jamsmom]

Let him know that you and DD will have a really good time bonding and then you can all go as a family in October. Explain ant this should be a tradition....once a year alone with hte kids and once an year as a family

 

[magicplace4me]

Maybe the October and March trips just seem to close for him. So tell him "that's okay Honey I think after we go in October we can wait until next September for our next trip. " Explain all the money you will save with ap's and throw in a sad look while your at it!

 

[ReneeQ]

My husband only wants to go to Disney once every 3-5 years. We don't have any children, so our situation is different from yours. I go to Disney at least 2-3 times a year. I just find other people to go with or go by myself. Sometimes I take one child with me (either my goddaughter who is 7, her brother who is 10, or my nephew who is 5, so I have done the trip with kids OFTEN).

I save any birthday or Christmas money for my trips, and have some money from each of my paychecks go directly to a savings account for my trips, so when I do want to go, the money is there and isn't an issue.

Since my husband doesn't want to go, I don't pressure him to go. He knows how much it means to me, so he doesn't pressure me NOT to go. When we do go together those trips are great, as he's not had Disney overload (whatever that is! I can't relate!).

Good luck!

 

[Nathan's Grandma]

My DH loves to go to Disney, just not the parks all the time.

His big joke was "You can't go to Disney again until you have a grandchild to take."

My DD who was only married 1.5 years came over (in shock) to tell us she was going to have a baby.

She had a rough pregnancy - threw up for four months - 24 hours a day. When my DH "little girl" was in labor she asked her Daddy if we could go to Disney.

So we will be there when our Grandson is 10 months old. He is even thinking now of getting an AP pass. How people change when they become a grandparent.

Now I know we will go every year since I will have a grandchild.

With everything that is going on today, I thank God everyday we have a job and we can afford to go on vacation.

Kathy

 

[Minnie's Mate]

Do what I would do with my wife. I would take the October for now and after I got back I would figure how I could talk her into going again in March. This worked for me five times last year! Did I mention we are AP holders.

 

[kimlooman]

I understand the "need" to have your fix at Disney! We joined the Disney Vacation Club to help us out financially to afford a vacation every year to two years and that way I am guarenteed I can go sometime soon! My husband loves to go to Disney, but it is harder to get him to commit to the planning/time off work, etc, so by joining DVC it makes the resort planning easier and don't have to have the cash flow up front for each vacation (we financed so we pay a little each month and that is easier for us) Hope you get to go to Disney soon! We are going Dec.5-12, 2003.