I agree, donate it. Sure, hydrogenated oil isn't great but most things are fine in moderation.
On the subject of food, I'm trying to switch Zoe and me to healthier food but it's hard for both of us. Neither of us eat PB&J often (she does more than me) so I figure it's not something to worry about since she doesn't have health issues that would be aggravated by it. I do plan to switch to something healthier once what we have is gone.
I've started checking labels at home today, too, and have been relieved that few of the things we eat on a regular basis have HFCS. Even the Wonder Bread is HFCS free (I know, it has other issues but we're trying

). We're already planning to go pick blackberries soon so we can make our own jam (the Smucker's jam we have will disappear once we've done that).
Overall, I try to get food that is as close to its original form as possible. When I get "processed" food, I try to be sure I know what the ingredients are (not always but I try). For example applesauce should only have apples and maybe cinnamon. I know we're lucky that we don't have any food allergies or sensitivities to worry about but I encourage Zoe to make the right choices at home so she'll be more likely to do so away from home. One other thing we've done is to not buy so much snack food. I've learned to only take Zoe shopping with me if she's already eaten. If we go when she's hungry, she focuses on snacks. If she's full, she's more interested in just getting out of the store and says no to snacks when asked.

When she gets hungry the next day and wants a snack, I give her options like yogurt, fruit, etc. and remind her she didn't want to get other snacks when she had the chance.