Sorry to hear you had so many problems at the Poly! I've never stayed at a Deluxe resort (would love to, though!), but I will be spending my Honeymoon at POFQ. I've been paying attention to resort reviews too, and got a little nervous whenever I would read a bad one concerning POFQ. Usually they concerned the food court or the size of the rooms, two things that I could care less about. The way I see it, this is my first time staying on-site, which is something I've wanted to do ever since I was a kid! I consider myself very lucky to be staying at a romantic (moderate!) resort and, heck, we'll be in Disney World!
But yeah, I can see where you are coming from. I would feel pretty cheated too if I stayed at an expensive resort and it turned out to be less than I expected. I've heard similar things about other resorts (not as old as the Poly), in terms of lack of maintanence. I hope Disney will someday take care of these issues that are causing their guests discomfort! I think that the Poly and the Contemporary are both very exciting resorts and should stay in WDW forever!