DISappearing Peeps...A fastpass to THIN! Part 4

[pandorabox82]

Hello everyone!

The Fourth was fun here, as I got to watch about 3 hours of fireworks, starting on TV with the NY fireworks, then the D.C. fireworks, then the GR fireworks, and finally, all the people setting off illegal fireworks until about 1 in the morning! I never do get tired of seeing bright colorful explosions, even though it's been the Fourth for about a week by my house, what with all contraband being set off!

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!

pandorabox82

 

[lovetoscrap]

Thanks for the welcome! The embarassing photos of Utahmama will have to wait until next week because I got sick yesterday and wasn't able to get back here to post them and frantically playing catch up today to get ready to go to the beach tomorrow.

Of course I could work out a deal with her that I won't post the photos of her if I don't have to post a photo of me in a bikini!!!!

 

[Wonders10]

Hi everyone! It does not feel like Thursday here. More like Monday. Although the bright side is that tomorrow is Friday! TGIF!

Eeyore and HockeyKat...prayers and good thoughts sent both your ways.

There were a lot of people in the area by me setting off big fireworks. Including my crazy neighbor. We, too, had paper all over our cars and driveway this morning. Luckily it was very rainy and wet yesterday so there wasn't a huge fire concern but still.

And thank you for those of you who thought about Phoebe! She does not like fireworks. She was okay with them in the beginning of the night but once my neighbor started, she had had enough. Everywhere we went she wanted to be and she would not go outside for anything! My mom and I went in the back to watch some of the city's fireworks going off and Phoebe was barking the entire time...wouldn't even walk to the door to bark though. Then I turned around and I couldn't see her. We both stayed outside maybe 5 more minutes when curiousity got the best of us and poor Phoebe was huddled on her bed in the corner of the kitchen. She was petrified, poor thing. This is the worse she has been since we got her. But at least she was ok as long as one of us was with her.

 

[Wonders10]

And the saga continues...crush update

I mentioned that I sent him an email, very casual, gave him my # and offered to get some coffee on the 4th if he was looking for something to do. I didn't get an email reply or phone call but it was kind of last minute and the weather was gross...plus it is one of his few days off.

Anyway, he is like the first person I see when I get to the clinic today and I feel really awkward. Later on I was going downstairs while he was going upstairs...and we practically ran into each other opening the door. We gave a smile and hello. Then as I'm almost passed him, he grabs my shoulder and gives me this pat on the back and tells me that he got my email but he was really busy with school stuff, but thanks for the offer. Then he said he'll catch up with me soon.

So that was that. I swear we were stalking each other today. Everywhere I went I passed him and vice versa. I actually made a joke out of it at one point. It was freaky. Then we chatted a bit before I left, but there were a couple other girls in there working. But it was more socializing at least.

There you have it...the crush update.

 

[punkin413]

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

 

[punkin413]

thanks for those who commented about my house....you flatter me! it's not my dream home or anything, but i like it.

eeyore - about your nephew and niece. they'll be in my prayers.

 

[eeyore45]

Shannon Thanks for the update

Punkin How horrid - there are so many different ways to take the "cheated" to your pysche - and its NOT RIGHT! adding and ixiedust:

OK - so who is the biggest saboteur on the PEEP thread????

Yes, that would be me! Why would I so seriously sabotage my efforts? and why always on THURSDAYS? (Oooo I just realized, could it be when I stepped on the scale today, I have NO weight loss? so why not eat that bag of chips???)

*sigh... I'm eating prunes, and drinking lemon water!!

going to the pool - cant swim till 7, but I'm going to try... I HATE this about me!

 

[Wonders10]

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

I know how she feels...I'll definitely send pixie dust her way that she feels better soon.

 

[Eventer98]

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

Unfortunately I am a pessimist. I wonder if he was so wonderful with the WDW trips b/c he felt guilty and Tuesday was NOT the first time. My bf of 3 years in high school cheated on me ALL THE TIME. I was weak and kept taking him back. Before he told me of the latest infidelity he would buy me roses or other gifts. Eventually I became stronger and after he admitted that he went on spring break with another girl, not just with the guys like he said, I left. I can only hope DSis is strong enough to not take him back or forgive him. I cannot judge of course but she deserves better. It's hard to remember the bad when you survival instinct only keeps the the wonderful memories in the front of your mind. I'm sending strength and pixie dust your way. Can she come to WDW with us in Sept for some girl time?

 

[punkin413]

Unfortunately I am a pessimist. I wonder if he was so wonderful with the WDW trips b/c he felt guilty and Tuesday was NOT the first time. My bf of 3 years in high school cheated on me ALL THE TIME. I was weak and kept taking him back. Before he told me of the latest infidelity he would buy me roses or other gifts. Eventually I became stronger and after he admitted that he went on spring break with another girl, not just with the guys like he said, I left. I can only hope DSis is strong enough to not take him back or forgive him. I cannot judge of course but she deserves better. It's hard to remember the bad when you survival instinct only keeps the the wonderful memories in the front of your mind. I'm sending strength and pixie dust your way. Can she come to WDW with us in Sept for some girl time?

i don't know him that well, so i can't really say if i think he's done it before. but he was wonderful to her from the beginning - he asked her what her favorite flower was like a week after they went out for the first time and she told him she didn't know, that she'd never gotten flowers before, so he had different kinds put all over her apartment to surprise her. he just did little things all the time that were so sweet. and they had the same exact sense of humor. anyway, this happened tuesday night and he called her today and said he wanted to come see her. they didn't talk much yesterday because she had to work all day. he came over and told her face to face what had happened. of course he was upset, but she made him leave and take all his stuff with him. he's called her about 3 times since then and the last message he left he told her he'd call her later tonight because he knew she didn't want to talk to him right now. so sad because he seemed like such a nice guy. i just can't believe it. i doubt it about the WDW thing in september. she's trying to find a job right now in the research science field (she has a degree in biochemistry and molecular biology) and if she finds something then she'll be really busy with that. blah! what a crappy day!!!

 

[punkin413]

also, tara, you may have some input on this. jon (my sis's now ex-boyfriend) is in the military. when he and his friends go out, they drink BIG TIME. NOT that it's an excuse (at all!!!!!) but he says he was drinking when this all happened and was hammered and that he realized what he was doing and made the girl leave very soon after it started. not going into details because who wants to hear about that, right? anyway, i know that your ray is/was in the military. is that something that happens with guys in the military - i mean the drinking-til-you-fall-down thing? i've never really known anyone that closely before that's in the military so i don't know if it's a normal sort of tradition that they have or whatever. it doesn't excuse his behavior in the least....i'm just trying to understand what the heck he was thinking and to get a better grip on the situation!

 

[dance2874]

There you have it...the crush update.

Ah...those were the days. I can feel the awkwardness from here I used to try not to date people I worked with and that was so hard when you spend tons of time together...but boy it sure made me enjoy going to work more!

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

I feel for her. Been there before too, unfortunately. From what I know of military guys, there is alot of peer pressure there. Maybe he was out and the drinking kept escalating and he was sort of pressured to keep up. Or, the other guys were encouraging him to get with this other girl? Not an excuse, but if he was so wonderful in other ways I would certainly not blame her for at least wanting to hear him out at some point. No matter what, it is gonna be a long road for her. Glad she has you to lean on

 

[Wonders10]

Ok this should be called the dating drama thread...I have something to ask.

A. (the crush) is ridiculously nice and kind. So nice and kind that practically everyone in the department jokes that he would come to your house and change a lightbulb if you asked him. He will literally (and I've witnessed it) drop whatever it is he's doing to help you with whatever it is you need.

That is definitely one of the reasons I like him.

However, it poses some problems. One being, how do I tell if he is just being his super nice polite self or being super nice because he is interested? My girlfriend said I should just ask him for lunch or something, very casual, don't even say it's a date. Just ask him so we can be alone. Now if I even built up enough courage to do this, I could see him saying yes just because he's nice and not because he might also want to spend some time alone with me. I wouldn't know the difference. And then we'd still be nowhere.

I don't want to rush things or anything but this semester is coming to an end shortly and I will not be seeing him nearly as much next semester. If anything is to happen, I need to already have an "in" with him so to speak.

Then I was thinking that because he gave the impression that he hasn't had that much experience with the ladies, he probably is not getting my subtle hints (which as my good friend pointed out, are pretty darn subtle...I'm a shy girl). What does she expect me to throw him against the wall and plant one on him? That would go over well. Or he could feel like I do most of the time - not think that someone could be romantically attracted to him/her.

Alright, I'm done now. I just have been thinking about it a lot tonight and no one I talk to has any advice. And some think that because he didn't take me up on my coffee offer, it means he's totally uninterested.

And I really want to hang out with him this weekend

Vent #2 over for the night.

 

[Eventer98]

also, tara, you may have some input on this. jon (my sis's now ex-boyfriend) is in the military. when he and his friends go out, they drink BIG TIME. NOT that it's an excuse (at all!!!!!) but he says he was drinking when this all happened and was hammered and that he realized what he was doing and made the girl leave very soon after it started. not going into details because who wants to hear about that, right? anyway, i know that your ray is/was in the military. is that something that happens with guys in the military - i mean the drinking-til-you-fall-down thing? i've never really known anyone that closely before that's in the military so i don't know if it's a normal sort of tradition that they have or whatever. it doesn't excuse his behavior in the least....i'm just trying to understand what the heck he was thinking and to get a better grip on the situation!

Ray drank A LOT when he was in the navy but had to quit about 5 years ago b/c he developed a fatty liver (which is getting biopsied next week! ) He has told me that a lot of guys cheat who are in the military. In fact, I was dating a Marine before Ray and I know he cheated on me too. He also said that when they are active there is nothing else to do but drink and then when they come home they are still in that bad habit.

 

[lauren_elizabeth]

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

Awww, your poor sister! I'm so sorry that had to happen to her!

 

[Eventer98]

Ok this should be called the dating drama thread...I have something to ask.

A. (the crush) is ridiculously nice and kind. So nice and kind that practically everyone in the department jokes that he would come to your house and change a lightbulb if you asked him. He will literally (and I've witnessed it) drop whatever it is he's doing to help you with whatever it is you need.

That is definitely one of the reasons I like him.

However, it poses some problems. One being, how do I tell if he is just being his super nice polite self or being super nice because he is interested? My girlfriend said I should just ask him for lunch or something, very casual, don't even say it's a date. Just ask him so we can be alone. Now if I even built up enough courage to do this, I could see him saying yes just because he's nice and not because he might also want to spend some time alone with me. And then we'd still be nowhere.

I don't want to rush things or anything but this semester is coming to an end shortly and I will not be seeing him nearly as much next semester. If anything is to happen, I need to already have an "in" with him so to speak.

Then I was thinking that because he gave the impression that he hasn't had that much experience with the ladies, he probably is not getting my subtle hints (which as my good friend pointed out, are pretty darn subtle...I'm a shy girl). What does she expect me to throw him against the wall and plant one on him? That would go over well. Or he could feel like I do most of the time - not think that someone could be romantically attracted to him/her.

Alright, I'm done now. I just have been thinking about it a lot tonight and no one I talk to has any advice. And some think that because he didn't take me up on my coffee offer, it means he's totally uninterested.

And I really want to hang out with him this weekend

Vent #2 over for the night.

It sounds blunt but the Match.com professional in me says that you either have to ask him straight out if he wants to get coffee sometime or let it go. If he stalls again on you then forget him. He probably is shy but you can't coddle him to say yes. Sometimes I think niceness is an excuse guys play up.....they know they can get away with more. You are beautiful!! Ask him straight out..if he says no or says he will "call you" then leave it alone. Play hard to get and act like you don't give 2 %&%^&. He may just surprise you. You can do it!!!

 

[punkin413]

Ok this should be called the dating drama thread...I have something to ask.

very true! sorry to everyone else who really doesn't want to hear about my sister's boyfriend problems! i just needed to get other opinions so i could give her some good advice, ya know? and wonders, i have no wise words for you right now. honestly i'm so consumed with what's going on with her it's hard for me to think of anything else. but i think what tara said about "just do it" is good advice! go for it!

I feel for her. Been there before too, unfortunately. From what I know of military guys, there is alot of peer pressure there. Maybe he was out and the drinking kept escalating and he was sort of pressured to keep up. Or, the other guys were encouraging him to get with this other girl? Not an excuse, but if he was so wonderful in other ways I would certainly not blame her for at least wanting to hear him out at some point. No matter what, it is gonna be a long road for her. Glad she has you to lean on

well, all his army friends LOVE my sister. in fact, she's really good friends with his best friend - that's who set them up in the first place. she said that ben (her friend that's his best friend) is totally shocked because he says it's nothing like jon to do that. no one was even around when "it" happened, which brings me to my next point...he seriously could've gotten away with this and no one - not even his friends - would've found out. so it says something that he drove to nashville (he lives in clarksville which is a good drive from her) to tell her face to face and that he fessed up almost immediately. i'm not saying that justifies ANYTHING....but at least the guy has a conscious!

Ray drank A LOT when he was in the navy but had to quit about 5 years ago b/c he developed a fatty liver (which is getting biopsied next week! ) He has told me that a lot of guys cheat who are in the military. In fact, I was dating a Marine before Ray and I know he cheated on me too. He also said that when they are active there is nothing else to do but drink and then when they come home they are still in that bad habit.

the first words out of jon's mouth when brooke told him it was over was, "i'm gonna get help for my drinking." so obviously that is an issue he needs to deal with, even if she never sees him again. i just talked to her again and we were talking about the drinking thing. she said he hates his job and they all do it just to escape and not think about the things they've seen and what they do for a living. he's told her that before. he's told her that the only thing he had to look forward to when he got a break when he was overseas was having a few beers and it's still the same now, so kinda what you're saying above. like i said before, alcohol absolutely is not an excuse for what he did, but it just helps her to understand that he has a problem and at least he's admitted that. she's gonna call him later tonight to just get a few things off her chest and see what he has to say now that she's not screaming and throwing things at him! she's a smart girl - i totally trust her judgment and she'll do the right thing for herself.

because of all this drama, i didn't get to engulf myself in the BB premier tonight. i caught most of it, so i think i know what's going on. i just kinda missed the entire HOH competition. i'm not sure how i feel about the cast this year - most of them look too pretty for me! like they're not real people or something. i love the "america's player" thing. that's gonna be interesting.

hope you guys had a better day than i did! how come i can't wave a magic wand and make everything better?????

 

[Eventer98]

The jerk marine I dated had the drinking problem as well and the cheating problem. I am so negative when it comes to guys...it's hard for me to believe one &*)%$ thing they say when they are apologizing. I just feel so bad for your sister.

 

[dance2874]

well, all his army friends LOVE my sister. in fact, she's really good friends with his best friend - that's who set them up in the first place. she said that ben (her friend that's his best friend) is totally shocked because he says it's nothing like jon to do that. no one was even around when "it" happened, which brings me to my next point...he seriously could've gotten away with this and no one - not even his friends - would've found out. so it says something that he drove to nashville (he lives in clarksville which is a good drive from her) to tell her face to face and that he fessed up almost immediately. i'm not saying that justifies ANYTHING....but at least the guy has a conscious!

See, that part there tells a world of things about him. Maybe he really just made a mistake and would not do it again? Then again, I am a pretty big sucker...so who knows She needs to go with her gut I think. Tough situation all around.

 

[ThinkTink75]

And the saga continues...crush update

I mentioned that I sent him an email, very casual, gave him my # and offered to get some coffee on the 4th if he was looking for something to do. I didn't get an email reply or phone call but it was kind of last minute and the weather was gross...plus it is one of his few days off.

Anyway, he is like the first person I see when I get to the clinic today and I feel really awkward. Later on I was going downstairs while he was going upstairs...and we practically ran into each other opening the door. We gave a smile and hello. Then as I'm almost passed him, he grabs my shoulder and gives me this pat on the back and tells me that he got my email but he was really busy with school stuff, but thanks for the offer. Then he said he'll catch up with me soon.

So that was that. I swear we were stalking each other today. Everywhere I went I passed him and vice versa. I actually made a joke out of it at one point. It was freaky. Then we chatted a bit before I left, but there were a couple other girls in there working. But it was more socializing at least.

There you have it...the crush update.

the last two hours have been completely horrendous. i called my sister this morning....something just told me i should. she said jon (the perfect boyfriend i've been bragging on to you guys that took her to disney world) was on his way to her apartment and she could tell something was wrong. i told her not to worry. well, she called me this afternoon just sobbing because he told her he cheated on her tuesday night. i'm so heartbroken for her. he seemed like such a perfect guy and i'm usually a really good judge of character....not one to sugar coat things and assume all is well. i'm just completely shocked. and when i say cheated.....i mean CHEATED. she is just devastated. i feel so awful for her. i know it may seem silly to ask for a little pixie dust over some stupid boy, but she's really taking this hard and i think she can use all the good thoughts/prayers/pixie dust that can be spared! she's 23 and has never really opened up to anyone before, and she did with him. and that hurts more than anything. i want to fast forward time for her or do something to make it all better and i can't...i feel so helpless!!!! i just don't understand people sometimes......

Unfortunately I am a pessimist. I wonder if he was so wonderful with the WDW trips b/c he felt guilty and Tuesday was NOT the first time. My bf of 3 years in high school cheated on me ALL THE TIME. I was weak and kept taking him back. Before he told me of the latest infidelity he would buy me roses or other gifts. Eventually I became stronger and after he admitted that he went on spring break with another girl, not just with the guys like he said, I left. I can only hope DSis is strong enough to not take him back or forgive him. I cannot judge of course but she deserves better. It's hard to remember the bad when you survival instinct only keeps the the wonderful memories in the front of your mind. I'm sending strength and pixie dust your way. Can she come to WDW with us in Sept for some girl time?

i don't know him that well, so i can't really say if i think he's done it before. but he was wonderful to her from the beginning - he asked her what her favorite flower was like a week after they went out for the first time and she told him she didn't know, that she'd never gotten flowers before, so he had different kinds put all over her apartment to surprise her. he just did little things all the time that were so sweet. and they had the same exact sense of humor. anyway, this happened tuesday night and he called her today and said he wanted to come see her. they didn't talk much yesterday because she had to work all day. he came over and told her face to face what had happened. of course he was upset, but she made him leave and take all his stuff with him. he's called her about 3 times since then and the last message he left he told her he'd call her later tonight because he knew she didn't want to talk to him right now. so sad because he seemed like such a nice guy. i just can't believe it. i doubt it about the WDW thing in september. she's trying to find a job right now in the research science field (she has a degree in biochemistry and molecular biology) and if she finds something then she'll be really busy with that. blah! what a crappy day!!!

also, tara, you may have some input on this. jon (my sis's now ex-boyfriend) is in the military. when he and his friends go out, they drink BIG TIME. NOT that it's an excuse (at all!!!!!) but he says he was drinking when this all happened and was hammered and that he realized what he was doing and made the girl leave very soon after it started. not going into details because who wants to hear about that, right? anyway, i know that your ray is/was in the military. is that something that happens with guys in the military - i mean the drinking-til-you-fall-down thing? i've never really known anyone that closely before that's in the military so i don't know if it's a normal sort of tradition that they have or whatever. it doesn't excuse his behavior in the least....i'm just trying to understand what the heck he was thinking and to get a better grip on the situation!

Ok this should be called the dating drama thread...I have something to ask.

A. (the crush) is ridiculously nice and kind. So nice and kind that practically everyone in the department jokes that he would come to your house and change a lightbulb if you asked him. He will literally (and I've witnessed it) drop whatever it is he's doing to help you with whatever it is you need.

That is definitely one of the reasons I like him.

However, it poses some problems. One being, how do I tell if he is just being his super nice polite self or being super nice because he is interested? My girlfriend said I should just ask him for lunch or something, very casual, don't even say it's a date. Just ask him so we can be alone. Now if I even built up enough courage to do this, I could see him saying yes just because he's nice and not because he might also want to spend some time alone with me. I wouldn't know the difference. And then we'd still be nowhere.

I don't want to rush things or anything but this semester is coming to an end shortly and I will not be seeing him nearly as much next semester. If anything is to happen, I need to already have an "in" with him so to speak.

Then I was thinking that because he gave the impression that he hasn't had that much experience with the ladies, he probably is not getting my subtle hints (which as my good friend pointed out, are pretty darn subtle...I'm a shy girl). What does she expect me to throw him against the wall and plant one on him? That would go over well. Or he could feel like I do most of the time - not think that someone could be romantically attracted to him/her.

Alright, I'm done now. I just have been thinking about it a lot tonight and no one I talk to has any advice. And some think that because he didn't take me up on my coffee offer, it means he's totally uninterested.

And I really want to hang out with him this weekend

Vent #2 over for the night.

It sounds blunt but the Match.com professional in me says that you either have to ask him straight out if he wants to get coffee sometime or let it go. If he stalls again on you then forget him. He probably is shy but you can't coddle him to say yes. Sometimes I think niceness is an excuse guys play up.....they know they can get away with more. You are beautiful!! Ask him straight out..if he says no or says he will "call you" then leave it alone. Play hard to get and act like you don't give 2 %&%^&. He may just surprise you. You can do it!!!

Wonders- So I think you should try to go out as a group, invite him out with some other people from the clinic or something. Let him see you at your best, in a comfortable situation that is not at school, and having fun. Then he will show you whether he is interested or not, because you are at your best. And I have to say, you seem just as sweet and kind as he is coming across so it may be a great fit. Just don't be to pushy. You took a step forward with the email and if you give him a little time he may call without you even having to try anything more direct!

Punkin- When I was a senior in high school I got voted the "Best Shoulder to Cry On" superlative. And I think people valued my opinion because I was alway just blunt when everyone else wouldn't be. Your sister's boyfriend is hiding behind the personal problem of him drinking for an excuse for what he did. He broke her heart in the very very worst way and the most terrible part is that she didn't even have the cushion of seeing it coming. I feel so bad for her- sending some pixie dust her way- its the worst feeling to be betrayed. But don't let her fall into the idea that it could be her fault or that he simply made a mistake. I think that could hurt her more in the long run. If I was you I would just try and remind her what a great and caring and wonderful person she is for being so open to give someone her heart.