DISappearing Peeps...A fastpass to THIN! Part 4

[Shula8205]

I think yesterday was one of the toughest days of my DH and I's year and a half of marriage and maybe even our 5 years together . . .

We bought our first house together (we've been living in a 2 bdrm condo he bought after college), or so we thought !! We made an offer on Monday night to the counteroffer from the sellers, and our realtor called us to say we got the house, they had agreed to our price and she faxed us the forms to sign and we faxed them back. Some of you may remember that there had been an offer over a week ago when we started looking at the house, but we were informed it was very low and they weren't going to come to an agreement. Well apparently, the other couple agreed to the seller's counteroffer yesterday morning. So I get a call late yesterday afternoon saying they have outbid our verbal agreement and it's no longer our house, do we want to offer more. Well we agreed to the seller's initial counteroffer they had given us hoping it would be more . . . but apparently it was the same they offered the other couple. Long story short . . . The sellers had to counterbid us or the other couple and they have chosen the first couple instead of us. We still don't know if that couple has agreed to the counterbid, but even if they haven't yet a.) they may take another 9 days to decide like this past week or b.) we weren't planning on paying anymore for this house because it's already reached its peak price in our opinion!!

Not only do we feel scammed and treated unethically and unfairly, but now our realtor keeps saying she's seen other houses and they are so us . . . Well I don't want another house, I've been looking for over a year now and I wanted everything about this house!! Sorry about the whining, but this is just a very difficult experience for us and I'm trying so hard not to overeat because that's always my solution to sadness !!

 

[Sparkie]

Bee
Im worried about you.
I know its hard not to look back. But sometimes constantly looking back and wondering what should've or could've keeps you from looking forward. I havent been exactly where you are. My DH and I didnt divorce but we separated for a while. We had been married for 14 years at the time. I never saw it coming. And when it hit me, it hit me hard. Just like I hear it hitting you. I lost about 30LBS over Christmas break. I just quit eating. I couldnt function. My kids suffered because I was so absorbed in my feelings that I couldnt see theirs. I was really low and had some bad thoughts because I couldnt see that I was a person, a valuable, special person. I let my entire identity revolve around someone else. Bee- you dont need a someone out there to make you feel loved. You have a someone - YOU. You are important to you.
It really helped me to talk to a counselor. Somebody who was a stranger- somebody I felt like I could say anything to. Sometimes you just need to say things out loud. I found out that I could make it. That I was strong enough to be alone if I had to be. And that just because I was alone now didnt mean I would always be.
I know everybody's situation is different. But Bee- I really am worried about you. I am going to tell you again- here is my hand- grab hold- I wont let go- I will hold you tight until you are ready to try it alone.
With the love of your friend- Sparkie

 

[eeyore45]

GOOD MORNIN PEEPS!!

PrincessAmber Didnt you have a paper due? How's it going???

Jen I was up till 3am last night...ok this mornin - dd kept waking up crying, then I fell asleep sitting up!! :yawn ! Last night when she went in to tell her dad she could not fall asleep, and she was crying (she's 10!) I went in and shooed her out, back to bed hugging her, reassuring her, and before I could tuck her in, she was asleep!! I now think she was sleepwalking - its a habit for her... how do I break it? I wonder tho, when her brothers come home, if she'll be able to rest/sleep... I'm thinking with me worrying about ds, she is picking up on those vibes???

BEE I wish I had some magical words, I wish I could reach thru the computer and just touch you, reassure you... YOU are WORTHY - I may only see a snapshot, but what I see is bee u tiful!! You are kind beyond words, and I feel blessed with the opportunity to get to know you!! You can fight you know, fight for YOU!! Bee all you can BEE!! All I know is what I hear on tv, and the self help group say once you beelieve in you, when you least expect it, your life will be fulfilled! BELIEVE in yourself - start a new reel in your head... fight for YOU!! God made you Bee, and God does NOT make junk! (I saw that on a poster, and I've had to add that to the voice in my head... there for awhile I kept calling myself the witch with a b word, and I was really sarcastic... it was all a protective device... I needed to work on me... and I still am!! Hang on Bee, in may be a rough ride, but its worth it!! OK that tape was when I was a teenager my "sis" and I rode bulls in a rodeo - I rode the barrel bull, she rode a live one!! What a memory - so lets make some new memories...)

I know that was TMI - blame it on lack of sleep...

 

[eeyore45]

Dial Idol.com has Jordin and Blake in the top 2 spots - They've futzed with their formula and arent as accurate this season, they did predict John going home for Dancin with the Stars!! but had Ian not Billy Ray in the other bottom slot...

 

[the Fidge]

Thank yuofor thinking I am a great catch. It is hard to believe when I am going through what I am going through now. I feel very lost, If I had someone else I would not be so lonely. I believe this would be an easier process if I had someone telling me they love me and are loving me. But, I GET to do this all by myself. I feel it would be easier, this divorce, if there were someone in the piicture waiting for me. I guess I am not the "lucky" one. No one waiting for me.

Anyway, I know I have made mistakes. I admit that. You know the old Cher song... If I could turn back time. I would be more loving, considerate, and I would not take things for granted. You fall into a comfort zone and you feel "safe". Then there is that old saying... you never know how much you will miss something.. someone till it is gone.

My relationship is OVER. I know that in my head.. my heart is having a hard time understanding.

Anyway, SOMEDAY I will be stronger, someday we will get to the other side. Someday we will be able to look back at our life and share special memories. Right now the looking back is too painful.

Yes, I know that certain people still read my posts.. but again these are my feelings.

Love all ya all.

Bee you have 2 poeple that love you more than any man can! Your GIRLS!!! Thankfully the only thing that our children can do is complain how we amde them go to Disney world!

There are those that love you too that you may not know or realize. That could be the person that you held the door open for that just learned they have 3 months left due to illness! Being loved comes in many sizes shapes and packages. Romantic love is only one form of love.

To be loved by those I repsect and cherish is a goal. Anyone can looko back at life and say I should have this or that so Bee: DON'T SHOULD ON YOURSELF!!!!

What moments in life test us create a stronger more wonderful us. There may come a time when someone you hold dear is in your shoes and they will need your stregth wisdom and guidance. SOmetimes the lessons we learn in lifear e not for us but for someone else and God knows that we can do something wonderful with great pain!

I love the line from Glenn Close in The Natural where she says to Robert Redford "there is the life we live, adn then there is the life we learn from" something like that great line and Bobby is good on the eyes!

My life has had peaks and valleys and honetly what has gotten me up the peaks has been good loving friends to help pull me up along the way. Without my faith in God I would have thrown in the towl a long time ago. Thankfully I know that anything that brings me closer to God is good and in all matters of pain I reach to my father to lift me up and to put the right people in my path to help me get back up.

Take a rest on the matt but don't stay down! Just look forward and see what we already know you are one great gal who is going o shine again like the lovely gem them you are. It really stinks when we think we know where we stand but like everything in life the only thing I DO KNOW is that no matter comes way today I am NOT alone ! I have my father in heaven and my friends that I have prayed for God to put in my life and know that God has hand picked every single one of them JUST FOR ME!

You are not alone you may have lonely moents but you are NEVER ALONE! There is no shame for loving with all ones heart and trusting our love in the hands of another. That is loving unconditonally and yes sometimes that can be our greatest source of pain too. With great joy can come great pain. Use the gift of lvoe you have for tohers to lvoe yourself and teach your girls self love and how to be gently kind and loving to the most improtant person you!
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What I cannot do for myself I can often do for my son. As a Mom you are always teaching 24 7 and here is another teaching moment for you dear one.

So when you feel like a big thing of ice cream grab one of your girls and go for a walk in the park. WHen you feel like throwing your hands up and having a good cry reach your hands out and greab onto one of your grils or both and go do something you wnat to do with them that will spark your spirit for life.

Your helaing is within you as well as your pain just harder to find but its there! Reach deep and remember your girls will learn from you! Show them how to do it. Many lessons I have learned were messy ones, I am no ballerina in the arena of life but I always get up to dance, sometimes willingly and sometimes I just get dragged out onto the dance floor. I never regret dancing though I always wish I could be more graceful! Graceful just ain't me adn THATS OK TOO!!!!!!!

So, my dear Bee get out there and shake a tailfeather no matter the grace just knwo you make your own beat!!!!

Love ya dear friend!

 

[the Fidge]

I think yesterday was one of the toughest days of my DH and I's year and a half of marriage and maybe even our 5 years together . . .

We bought our first house together (we've been living in a 2 bdrm condo he bought after college), or so we thought !! We made an offer on Monday night to the counteroffer from the sellers, and our realtor called us to say we got the house, they had agreed to our price and she faxed us the forms to sign and we faxed them back. Some of you may remember that there had been an offer over a week ago when we started looking at the house, but we were informed it was very low and they weren't going to come to an agreement. Well apparently, the other couple agreed to the seller's counteroffer yesterday morning. So I get a call late yesterday afternoon saying they have outbid our verbal agreement and it's no longer our house, do we want to offer more. Well we agreed to the seller's initial counteroffer they had given us hoping it would be more . . . but apparently it was the same they offered the other couple. Long story short . . . The sellers had to counterbid us or the other couple and they have chosen the first couple instead of us. We still don't know if that couple has agreed to the counterbid, but even if they haven't yet a.) they may take another 9 days to decide like this past week or b.) we weren't planning on paying anymore for this house because it's already reached its peak price in our opinion!!

Not only do we feel scammed and treated unethically and unfairly, but now our realtor keeps saying she's seen other houses and they are so us . . . Well I don't want another house, I've been looking for over a year now and I wanted everything about this house!! Sorry about the whining, but this is just a very difficult experience for us and I'm trying so hard not to overeat because that's always my solution to sadness !!

Christy I am so sorry for how you and DH are feeling right now. What I always remind myself and it is not easy to say and hard to believe when I am in the moment but God maybe saving you from something terrible or may even have something even better in store. Sometimes God says no to give us something better! I have never been let down. Like the men in my life they never got worse only better and thats because I started to let God help me with my picks!

Here is food for thought, ready:

Next Christmas that house could spring a leak and the bathroom gives out and yes you have company staying not a great first Xmas in your new house!

Heres another one for you: The topwn just decided to dig up your street as there is a problem with drains or power lines and yup that new furntiure is destroed you cannot opent he window in the srping due to all the loud noie and smells!

Now here is the best: Ready, you wait and you put your home in God's hands......then there it is maybe not today but down the road and OMG its less than you had planned to spend and now its off to Disney you go to celebrate!

Trust God and know he is looing out for you and your family. The car I wanted to buy as my first car was a street rod, yes I dug the muscle cars what can I say?? My father suggested I get the 1967 Dodge Dart it was not pretty or fast but is what the best 1st car I could have had safe reliable and it did not cost my lung to get fixed!

Prayers and know I am sure your house will not be like my 1967 dodge dart but it will be what is right for you!!!!!!

 

[Bee]

Ok all..

I am going to be okay.. I dont want to make everyone feel sorry for me.
I was just sharing where I am right now.

I am not going to do anything STUPID. I love you all!!

I know I will make it to the other side. I know Dan and I will be friends.. as good a friends as we can be.

Our most important goal is our children and WE will and still are putting them 1st. Neither of us are bad people. I am just in a lower place in my life now than he is,... but as GOD is my witness..(a little Scarlett O'Hara there ) I will rise again.

Thank you for the prayers. I will not continue this line of discussion at this time cause I dont want people to think I am only looking for sympathy.

I AM STRONG! I WILL make it through. I WILL be better for it.

Cause if no one says it... my peeps thinK I am BEE-autiful inside and out.

Hey, and I have lost approx 20 lbs... so that is something good! RIGHT!!

I really do love all of you.

Bee

 

[Bee]

I think yesterday was one of the toughest days of my DH and I's year and a half of marriage and maybe even our 5 years together . . .

We bought our first house together (we've been living in a 2 bdrm condo he bought after college), or so we thought !! We made an offer on Monday night to the counteroffer from the sellers, and our realtor called us to say we got the house, they had agreed to our price and she faxed us the forms to sign and we faxed them back. Some of you may remember that there had been an offer over a week ago when we started looking at the house, but we were informed it was very low and they weren't going to come to an agreement. Well apparently, the other couple agreed to the seller's counteroffer yesterday morning. So I get a call late yesterday afternoon saying they have outbid our verbal agreement and it's no longer our house, do we want to offer more. Well we agreed to the seller's initial counteroffer they had given us hoping it would be more . . . but apparently it was the same they offered the other couple. Long story short . . . The sellers had to counterbid us or the other couple and they have chosen the first couple instead of us. We still don't know if that couple has agreed to the counterbid, but even if they haven't yet a.) they may take another 9 days to decide like this past week or b.) we weren't planning on paying anymore for this house because it's already reached its peak price in our opinion!!

Not only do we feel scammed and treated unethically and unfairly, but now our realtor keeps saying she's seen other houses and they are so us . . . Well I don't want another house, I've been looking for over a year now and I wanted everything about this house!! Sorry about the whining, but this is just a very difficult experience for us and I'm trying so hard not to overeat because that's always my solution to sadness !!

sorry about the house. something will work out. We bought our house a year ago and I remember how excted we both were to be moving back to Omaha...

It is gonna be ok!! Love you1

 

[the Fidge]

UHHHH Duhhh to me Chriswtwy I forgot to tell the most important part of my little story, the car I should my father that I wnated to buy well it was wrecked.

My Dad called me at my job and said hey did you see that big wreck on your way to work?? I said No and he said I think it was that car you looked at> I jsut figured ahh there he goes. WEll if he wasn't right!! IT WAS!! THe guy could not stop as he was going way toooo fast and it was horrible.

You know hat my dad said that night right?? Aren't you glad you bought the Dart instead , of course he was right! My father usually knows whats best for me when I don't!

 

[eeyore45]

BEE

WHAT?? Get this straight, from this horses mouth - I did not read your post as whiney, nor begging for sympathy. what I get from your post is... hey, this is who I am - do you still want to be my friend? If you cannot BE REAL with me - then you are no more than a "figment of my imagination"

because you dare share an important part of your soul with me, I feel I can reach out and connect with you - to me you are being brave!! From the bottom of my heart Bee. I was raised in the Christian faith. In my Bible God says that we need to intercede for others and raise them up to Him in prayer - can you begin to understand how I feel that to do so is a privelidge to my Lord, to my faith... and I am humbled by it...

and I often need to be humbled!!


Please be my friend. I dont have many friends.
seriously. I am often very lonely

 

[the Fidge]

Ok all..

I am going to be okay.. I dont want to make everyone feel sorry for me.
I was just sharing where I am right now.

I am not going to do anything STUPID. I love you all!!

I know I will make it to the other side. I know Dan and I will be friends.. as good a friends as we can be.

Our most important goal is our children and WE will and still are putting them 1st. Neither of us are bad people. I am just in a lower place in my life now than he is,... but as GOD is my witness..(a little Scarlett O'Hara there ) I will rise again.

Thank you for the prayers. I will not continue this line of discussion at this time cause I dont want people to think I am only looking for sympathy.

I AM STRONG! I WILL make it through. I WILL be better for it.

Cause if no one says it... my peeps thinK I am BEE-autiful inside and out.

Hey, and I have lost approx 20 lbs... so that is something good! RIGHT!!

I really do love all of you.

Bee

No sympathy Bee just relating you know!! I for one have had a few moments in life that I felt like I got ran down by a train.

No I refuse to think anything less than Scarelt for you my firend! She was always one of my heros!!!!

I did not think any harm would come by reminding you what you know but may not hear as loudly as you should today. That being said too there are many days I need a push and a shoulder or just someone to hear me stomp my feet and say its ok. I thought thats what we do here honey??

WHen the moments that I feel like food holds my answers or when I jsut wnat to pull the cover up over my head and wave my white flag I come here and give my stuff to my Peeps!!!!!

I am so glad I do and if anyone doesn't like ahhhh heck I am losign weight and no one will stop me from getting helathier!!

SO there !!!! I want to be a lean mean lime green Peeps!!!!

If saying my husband is a putz or my boss is a pain or my son is making me crazy ahh heck its just feelings nad not FACT!! No one can tell me otherwise!!

Then can however tell me to stop styping there are jsut too many typos and then THEY WOULD BE RIGHT!!!!!!!! lOVE YAS!

 

[HockeyKat]

I agree w/ the other posters, and am late to the party as usual. I don't see it as complaining or asking for sympathy... it is totally understandable to mourn a loss, and divorce is loss. The loss of something that was once good (or you wouldn't have gotten married in the first place!).

Anyhow, congrats on the 20 lbs! My theory is, whatever works. You should try to eat a bit more, and/or be taking a multi-vitamin daily so that you don't get sick!

Shula, so sorry about the house. It really hurts when you set your heart on something and don't get it.

Minnie, I am not far from UNC, although I am a Duk-ie (I guess, I think I am about to be throw out of my program, but that is another story!). The Outer Banks is beautiful.

Eeyore, I am lonely too. Being a childless woman in my 30s, I really don't have many friends. However, it is mostly my fault, I guess. Most have young children or are about to, and honestly... I am just not a kid person. I am also weird. I like hockey and beer and computers and kitties and Disney, and don't like kids and shopping and pink and girly stuff. I have my husband and a few single friends to hang with, but overall, it is mostly just he and I.

Today I have all my food in the fridge so I should be good on cals, and DH already said this is a non-beer day.
B: Toaster scramble, 150
L: Sliced beef meal, 230, salad, 100, yogurt, 60
S: Strawberries, 50
D: LC Salisbury Steak/Mac&Cheese, 260, Salad, 100.
S: FF popcorn, 200

Total for the day, 1150. Exercise, 1.5 hours of hockey, and hopefully some crunches when I get home (I need to get more serious about abs!).

 

[Shula8205]

Fidge and Bee, thank you for your support!! It means a lot to know that everyone else has gone through troubled times too and there's always another perspective!!

I think the hardest part for us is going back to all of our families and friends and tell them we lost the house of our dreams !!! I know in the end it will all work out and maybe this happened so we can pay off DH's student loans and stop spending all of our hard earned money on those 7% and 8% interest rates.

I just can't believe a realtor would take the seller's verbal agreement and not have them sign that night . . . and then renig because there was a few more bucks to be made when she got the other offer the following morning. It really makes you lose trust in realtors . . . No offense of any of you of course if you are one or know one !! Just trying to place my trust and faith in God, because I'm sure he knows what's best for us!!

 

[Sparkie]

Bee-

I didnt find your post whiney. I just saw a friend bearing her soul. I saw a peep in need of lifting up. I know in my situation there were alot of days if my 2 friends at the time hadnt come and picked me up off the floor (literally) and made me get dressed and keep going, I wouldnt have made it. We need our friends. Real or peepish. Its ok to reach out- just dont feel like you have to pull back when we reach for you as well. We care about you and want to share your joys as well and see you through your sorrows. Thats what peeps do- isnt it?

 

[Disneyfreak92]

That McDonald's salad must be good! Also your dinner salad sounds great! DD13 played VMK while she was home sick yesterday. I told her to look for you. Her name is Sunny Amazing Waffle!? She said it was the only name left??

It is good Melinda! But I am only planning to have it once this week! And thanks on the dinner salad. I do that one often. It's so easy, I LOVE it, and I feel really good about eating it too. I haven't had much VMK time lately! I need to get on there Saturday for a bit. I will keep an eye out for her. If you ever know she's on in the evenings or weekends, let me know, and I can go in and add her to my friends. I also might have a few extra vmk goodies she might enjoy. I like to gift new players! And tell her I the name! That's great! I think if you put in a name that isn't available, they throw out suggestions for you. Maybe it was one of those?

Yeah he does!!! And he's not bad to look at either!! I think it will be Phil and Jordan going????


I'm jealous of your agility class!! I used to do it with my dog that passed away. What great exercise!!!

He isn't bad to look at, is he?

Aw! It is a lot of fun. She is so small! (She's a 13" beagle and petite!) And it's hilarious to watch her do those jumps! Too cute!

i'm hoping it won't be jordin, but she did really bad last night. it just wasn't her night. but if people actually did base it on the last two weeks, i'm hoping it will be phil and lakisha or phil and chris. i honestly like everyone who's left, so it's a hard choice, especially when 2 have to go! but i just don't feel like jordin deserves to go home after 1 bad performance. the rest of her performances have been so good. i voted for blake a few times last night, and i might've snuck in a couple of votes for jordin, too.

I am right there with ya! Blake and Jordin are my faves! I am hoping for Chris and Lakisha actually, but I guess we'll find out tonight.

I think yesterday was one of the toughest days of my DH and I's year and a half of marriage and maybe even our 5 years together . . .

We bought our first house together (we've been living in a 2 bdrm condo he bought after college), or so we thought !! We made an offer on Monday night to the counteroffer from the sellers, and our realtor called us to say we got the house, they had agreed to our price and she faxed us the forms to sign and we faxed them back. Some of you may remember that there had been an offer over a week ago when we started looking at the house, but we were informed it was very low and they weren't going to come to an agreement. Well apparently, the other couple agreed to the seller's counteroffer yesterday morning. So I get a call late yesterday afternoon saying they have outbid our verbal agreement and it's no longer our house, do we want to offer more. Well we agreed to the seller's initial counteroffer they had given us hoping it would be more . . . but apparently it was the same they offered the other couple. Long story short . . . The sellers had to counterbid us or the other couple and they have chosen the first couple instead of us. We still don't know if that couple has agreed to the counterbid, but even if they haven't yet a.) they may take another 9 days to decide like this past week or b.) we weren't planning on paying anymore for this house because it's already reached its peak price in our opinion!!

Not only do we feel scammed and treated unethically and unfairly, but now our realtor keeps saying she's seen other houses and they are so us . . . Well I don't want another house, I've been looking for over a year now and I wanted everything about this house!! Sorry about the whining, but this is just a very difficult experience for us and I'm trying so hard not to overeat because that's always my solution to sadness !!

Oh! So sorry to hear about this, but I know something better will come along for you!

Bee - for you too! I just know you are going to pull through all of this and when you do, you will feel SO empowered and SO strong, you'll be able to conquer the world! (Not that you would, but you could. )

 

[jeriber]

Hi Everyone-I have a quick question maybe someone can help me with. I have a telephone interview for a new job this afternoon and am wondering if anyone has ever done one? What should I expect? What kind of questions? I have been doing child care so long that I haven't had an interview in 20 years. I'm getting out of the child care business this summer!! Hoping this will be a good motivator for my weight loss (not to mention being out of the house for part of the day and away from the grazing temptation)

 

[pigget74]

OT---Magical Express--do you tip anyone and if so who? We leave Saturday and I am just trying to finalize our budget. Thanks.

 

[HockeyKat]

Jeanne... what kind of job? I have done a ton of phone interviews but they have all been for tech jobs.

A phone interview is usually to "screen" applicants before having them come in for a face-to-face. In my experience it has been more about them being sure you have the right skill set and less about touchy-feely things... sometimes they even have a list of questions that they will run through. If you know your stuff, there is nothing to worry about. Just try to relax, take a deep breath, and let your knowledge shine through.

Also, if you honestly don't know the answer, don't be afraid to answer "I don't know" as the worst thing you can do is try to bs your way through and be wrong.

HTH!!

And Lynda, never done ME so sorry, I can't help...

 

[jeriber]

Jeanne... what kind of job? I have done a ton of phone interviews but they have all been for tech jobs.

A phone interview is usually to "screen" applicants before having them come in for a face-to-face. In my experience it has been more about them being sure you have the right skill set and less about touchy-feely things... sometimes they even have a list of questions that they will run through. If you know your stuff, there is nothing to worry about. Just try to relax, take a deep breath, and let your knowledge shine through.

Also, if you honestly don't know the answer, don't be afraid to answer "I don't know" as the worst thing you can do is try to bs your way through and be wrong.

HTH!!

And Lynda, never done ME so sorry, I can't help...

Thanks Kat. It is for a position at the new Walmart distribution center. It is a job I would like to have as the benefit package is one of the best in town and it pays more than most other employers in town. Actually, in the retail/grocery industry around here it is the best staryting wage offered
($13.00 an hour) and is good for me. IF I wanted to give up the inhome childcare and go to work for a daycare I would not make over $10 an hour even though I've been in this profession for over 23 years. I'm very much looking forward to the change!

 

[dance2874]

I think yesterday was one of the toughest days of my DH and I's year and a half of marriage and maybe even our 5 years together . . .

We bought our first house together (we've been living in a 2 bdrm condo he bought after college), or so we thought !! We made an offer on Monday night to the counteroffer from the sellers, and our realtor called us to say we got the house, they had agreed to our price and she faxed us the forms to sign and we faxed them back. Some of you may remember that there had been an offer over a week ago when we started looking at the house, but we were informed it was very low and they weren't going to come to an agreement. Well apparently, the other couple agreed to the seller's counteroffer yesterday morning. So I get a call late yesterday afternoon saying they have outbid our verbal agreement and it's no longer our house, do we want to offer more. Well we agreed to the seller's initial counteroffer they had given us hoping it would be more . . . but apparently it was the same they offered the other couple. Long story short . . . The sellers had to counterbid us or the other couple and they have chosen the first couple instead of us. We still don't know if that couple has agreed to the counterbid, but even if they haven't yet a.) they may take another 9 days to decide like this past week or b.) we weren't planning on paying anymore for this house because it's already reached its peak price in our opinion!!

Not only do we feel scammed and treated unethically and unfairly, but now our realtor keeps saying she's seen other houses and they are so us . . . Well I don't want another house, I've been looking for over a year now and I wanted everything about this house!! Sorry about the whining, but this is just a very difficult experience for us and I'm trying so hard not to overeat because that's always my solution to sadness !!

Awww, I am sorry Shula!! That stinks, but there is something better out there for you. I have to believe things happen for a reason, and there is a reason you werent meant to have that house. Keep your chin up, keep looking, and I would start by looking for a new realtor. They should have never said the house was yours if there was a chance, even a slim one, that it wasnt yours to be had.

GOOD MORNIN PEEPS!!

Jen I was up till 3am last night...ok this mornin - dd kept waking up crying, then I fell asleep sitting up!! :yawn ! Last night when she went in to tell her dad she could not fall asleep, and she was crying (she's 10!) I went in and shooed her out, back to bed hugging her, reassuring her, and before I could tuck her in, she was asleep!! I now think she was sleepwalking - its a habit for her... how do I break it? I wonder tho, when her brothers come home, if she'll be able to rest/sleep... I'm thinking with me worrying about ds, she is picking up on those vibes???

I feel for ya! Sounds like sleepwalking to me, but I have no clue how to fix that one! Of course DD was exhausted this morning getting up for school, but I made her...I am betting she wont want a nap later either, but I will make her do that too! Such a mean mommy!! She will be a real peach if she doesnt get some more rest. Poor thing has bags under her eyes. Here to hoping we both get some rest today!!

Ok all..

I am going to be okay.. I dont want to make everyone feel sorry for me.
I was just sharing where I am right now.

I am not going to do anything STUPID. I love you all!!

I know I will make it to the other side. I know Dan and I will be friends.. as good a friends as we can be.

Our most important goal is our children and WE will and still are putting them 1st. Neither of us are bad people. I am just in a lower place in my life now than he is,... but as GOD is my witness..(a little Scarlett O'Hara there ) I will rise again.

Thank you for the prayers. I will not continue this line of discussion at this time cause I dont want people to think I am only looking for sympathy.

I AM STRONG! I WILL make it through. I WILL be better for it.

Cause if no one says it... my peeps thinK I am BEE-autiful inside and out.

Hey, and I have lost approx 20 lbs... so that is something good! RIGHT!!

I really do love all of you.

Bee

OK, no pity party here. I know you were just posting to get it off your chest. And if that honestly helps you....go for it. You have not shared any details here that are too personal in my opinion, just staing that this is how you are feeling and you are feeling a bit low right now. I feel for BOTH of you. I know he is probably hurting too, maybe just not as outward about it.

Thanks Kat. It is for a position at the new Walmart distribution center. It is a job I would like to have as the benefit package is one of the best in town and it pays more than most other employers in town. Actually, in the retail/grocery industry around here it is the best staryting wage offered
($13.00 an hour) and is good for me. IF I wanted to give up the inhome childcare and go to work for a daycare I would not make over $10 an hour even though I've been in this profession for over 23 years. I'm very much looking forward to the change!

I know exactly what you mean. When I had the job change a few weeks back I looked into working at a daycare center. Even the really pricey ones here dont starrt at more than about $9/hr...no matter how much experience you have. I think it stinks. For the interview!