DIS Peeps - DIS-cussion

[calypso726]

For those of you not following the cruise thread or the FB group. ​

CALLING ALL PINK CHAMPAGNE GIRLS!!!!​

Hello DISpeeps! I am planning to head up a Pink Champagne Girls meet for our cruise. The first Pink Champagne Girls meet on the Fansaty was held in Ooh La La and we were limited to 50 participants. We maxed the 50 and had a wait list going as well.

DCL needed the name and stateroom number of each participant and they charged $20 to each person on the list for the champagne tasting which is normally $25. We requested an afternoon on the first sea day and that was what they gave us. I have made the same request this time as well. They won't give the final details on the request until about 2 weeks before we cruise.

We had a ton of fun on our previous Fantasy Cruise during the Pink Champagne Girls meet. Previous PCG meets organized by fellow DISers have been limited to ladies only but I open mine up to the men as well. But the men must also abide by "the rules"

The rules are: Everyone brings their own pink shirt or blouse to wear to the meet. Everyone must also wear a tiara and feather boa during the tasting which I will provide and you get to keep

If you wish to participate, please send me an e-mail FantasyFeb16@gmail.com I will need the name(s) of each participant and their stateroom number for DCL. Don't worry, I will not post your information in any public forum.

Here is a picture of most of the Pink Champagne Girls group from the Fantasy Maiden Voyage.

 

[Luckymomoftwo]

I just realized I haven't double checked my A.C.E. list lately. Do I have everyone correct...I'm not missing anyone, right?

9669 DAN & SUE

9667 JIM & LAURA

9672 ANDY, JOHN, & DERRICK

9176 JASON & KAREN

9174 MILFORD & SHAWN

9172 WALLY & TERRIE

9156 JUNIOR & DEBBIE

9154 BRANDON & EMILEE

10160 MIKE & DEBBIE


Also - there in spirit - Michael & Nancy....I believe Nancy said she planned on sending goodies for us even though they won't be joining us on the cruise. So, I'm assuming we can leave goodies for them with Dan & Sue or Jim & Laura. (Please correct me if I'm wrong on that, but I remember her saying that when we were at Wisconsin Dells)

To the rest of the DISPeeps that won't be joining us on the cruise, we will miss you all so much!!! One day maybe ALL the DISPeeps will be able to cruise again together.

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE EVE!!!!i​

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

Time to fire this thread back up again! Its getting close!

It appears that it is going to be a slow burning fire.

It's really in desperate need of rekindling. Let's see if it can be done.

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

For those of you not following the cruise thread or the FB group. ​

CALLING ALL PINK CHAMPAGNE GIRLS!!!!​

Hello DISpeeps! I am planning to head up a Pink Champagne Girls meet for our cruise. The first Pink Champagne Girls meet on the Fansaty was held in Ooh La La and we were limited to 50 participants. We maxed the 50 and had a wait list going as well.

DCL needed the name and stateroom number of each participant and they charged $20 to each person on the list for the champagne tasting which is normally $25. We requested an afternoon on the first sea day and that was what they gave us. I have made the same request this time as well. They won't give the final details on the request until about 2 weeks before we cruise.

We had a ton of fun on our previous Fantasy Cruise during the Pink Champagne Girls meet. Previous PCG meets organized by fellow DISers have been limited to ladies only but I open mine up to the men as well. But the men must also abide by "the rules"

The rules are: Everyone brings their own pink shirt or blouse to wear to the meet. Everyone must also wear a tiara and feather boa during the tasting which I will provide and you get to keep

If you wish to participate, please send me an e-mail FantasyFeb16@gmail.com I will need the name(s) of each participant and their stateroom number for DCL. Don't worry, I will not post your information in any public forum.

Here is a picture of most of the Pink Champagne Girls group from the Fantasy Maiden Voyage.

I will go shopping for my pink shirt after Christmas!! Can't wait, this should be a lot of fun!!!

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

A standard pink or HOT PINK? That is the question...

 

[friends with mickey]

I just realized I haven't double checked my A.C.E. list lately. Do I have everyone correct...I'm not missing anyone, right?

9669 DAN & SUE

9667 JIM & LAURA

9672 ANDY, JOHN, & DERRICK

9176 JASON & KAREN

9174 MILFORD & SHAWN

9172 WALLY & TERRIE

9156 JUNIOR & DEBBIE

9154 BRANDON & EMILEE

10160 MIKE & DEBBIE


Also - there in spirit - Michael & Nancy....I believe Nancy said she planned on sending goodies for us even though they won't be joining us on the cruise. So, I'm assuming we can leave goodies for them with Dan & Sue or Jim & Laura. (Please correct me if I'm wrong on that, but I remember her saying that when we were at Wisconsin Dells)

To the rest of the DISPeeps that won't be joining us on the cruise, we will miss you all so much!!! One day maybe ALL the DISPeeps will be able to cruise again together.

Look at at the different states represented in this list, five if my math is correct. Then there are the two states we dispeeps all share..
The state of confusion and the state of happiness.

 

[friends with mickey]

A standard pink or HOT PINK? That is the question...

Hey Junior, standard pink for us IS HOT PINK!

 

[friends with mickey]

That 70's post

 

[calypso726]

A standard pink or HOT PINK? That is the question...

As long as it can be decribed as pink, it's all good.

 

[Luckymomoftwo]

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE EVE!!!!i​

YEAH, RIGHT!

So, does anyone else bust their butt to host a big family Christmas dinner for all of their aunts/uncles/cousins/brothers/sisters/nieces/nephews/parents...only to have aunts and uncles (and prior to her death, Grandmother's) do and say nasty things to just ruin the whole joy of the holidays for you?

It has happened to me every year for the last five years. One relative complains that I'm having dinner too early, another complains that it's too late. My aunt used to lie to us about my cousin having to work, so we always had dinner later to accommodate her and then I found out my cousin NEVER worked on Christmas Eve...she always worked on New Years Eve. (LIARS!) The last year my Grandma came to Christmas at my house, she had the nerve to tell me I had my priorities messed up because I still had to leave my house at 8:30 pm to go see my dad's side of the family. That was AFTER I changed the time of our dinner three different times because everyone was complaining.

Now this year has just put the icing on the cookies (yes I said cookies because you don't really have cake at Christmas LOL). My aunt talked to my uncle (her brother) about just dropping off a dish and leaving because I announced that we are having a Chinese Christmas Gift Exchange. So, they don't want to stay because they don't have any money to buy a gift for that. I made it perfectly clear that the gift didn't have to be anything extravagant...and $15.00 was the maximum I wanted anyone to spend. And it was not mandatory....only if they wanted to participate. So, once again, I tried to make it fun and do something different, and once again my feelings are hurt. They are the biggest group of ungrateful miserable people! I'm so glad my mom has more class than her brother and sister!!!

They're all going to be in for a BIG surprise next year when there IS NO Christmas dinner at Debbie's house! (Is that wrong? Or would you do the same thing?)

 

[calypso726]

YEAH, RIGHT!

So, does anyone else bust their butt to host a big family Christmas dinner for all of their aunts/uncles/cousins/brothers/sisters/nieces/nephews/parents...only to have aunts and uncles (and prior to her death, Grandmother's) do and say nasty things to just ruin the whole joy of the holidays for you?

It has happened to me every year for the last five years. One relative complains that I'm having dinner too early, another complains that it's too late. My aunt used to lie to us about my cousin having to work, so we always had dinner later to accommodate her and then I found out my cousin NEVER worked on Christmas Eve...she always worked on New Years Eve. (LIARS!) The last year my Grandma came to Christmas at my house, she had the nerve to tell me I had my priorities messed up because I still had to leave my house at 8:30 pm to go see my dad's side of the family. That was AFTER I changed the time of our dinner three different times because everyone was complaining.

Now this year has just put the icing on the cookies (yes I said cookies because you don't really have cake at Christmas LOL). My aunt talked to my uncle (her brother) about just dropping off a dish and leaving because I announced that we are having a Chinese Christmas Gift Exchange. So, they don't want to stay because they don't have any money to buy a gift for that. I made it perfectly clear that the gift didn't have to be anything extravagant...and $15.00 was the maximum I wanted anyone to spend. And it was not mandatory....only if they wanted to participate. So, once again, I tried to make it fun and do something different, and once again my feelings are hurt. They are the biggest group of ungrateful miserable people! I'm so glad my mom has more class than her brother and sister!!!

They're all going to be in for a BIG surprise next year when there IS NO Christmas dinner at Debbie's house! (Is that wrong? Or would you do the same thing?)

Debbie, I am so sorry you have to deal with that type of reaction from your family. You are a sweet, kind, generous and thoughtful person and it is a shame some of your family don't see and appreciate that. I tried putting myself in your shoes and how I would react given the same scenarios. I don't have the patience or tolerance you do. I can't fathom putting up with it once, much less five years in a row.

Personally, if I go out of my way for anyone and it isn't appreciated, then I simply won't bother. Not much filter between my brain and mouth and I have no problem calling my family to the carpet when I think they are being rude or unappreciative. If I set a time for a a large gathering and someone tells me it is too early or too late for them my response would be the same to both. "Well, seeing as I am cooking, cleaning, perparing and hosting for x amount of people in my home that is time time that works best for me. If that time, despite x amount of weeks/months notice in inconvenient for you and you are not able to make it, please know that you will be in our thoughts and do take comfort knowing you have contributed to more left overs for everyone. If you decide to host next year, I will do my best to make it at the time you set." This would all be said with one of those smiles that doesn't quite reach my eyes and in a tone that straddles the line between patronizing and sarcastic.

If I'd change the start time a few times to try and make everyone happy and someone told me my priorities weren't in order, I would say, "You know what, you are right. I agree. Here I am jumping through hoops to try and make everyone in our extended family happy with no appreciation. My priorities should be making me, my husband and our kids happy. Therefore, next year, no big dinner gathering. DH, the kids and I will go to WDW or on a Disney cruise. I am sure that will make the 4 of us happy. I appreciate your insight and thank you for setting me straight."

If someone LIED to me about having to work so I could accommodate them ... I am afraid I am not the type to let that go. For the next event I host, I would intentionally tell them the start time is either 2 hours before or 2 hours after. When they show up and and nothing has begun or everything is nearly over, I'd ask how it feels to be lied to by family.

If it were my Uncle, I'd tell him not to bother to drop off a dish. Having already explained that it wasn't mandatory to participate in the exchange if he doesn't want to spend time with family then that's on him and thus no need to drop by with a dish. Either come and spend time with us or don't. I refuse to paticipate in one of those passive/agressive attention ploys.

But your not alone Debbie. Just pop on to the community board here on the DIS and every year there are tons of posts from nice caring people who host and have members of their family ruin the good cheer every year.

To answer your question. (Is that wrong? Or would you do the same thing?) For me, after the first year of getting grief, there defintely would not have been a second year. Honestly, depending on how early the complaining began the first year I probably would have said "FOXTROT" this!!! Dinner is cancelled and here are the reasons why.

My philosophy: Life is too short and too precious, the moments of joy, bliss, beauty and light often come few and far inbetween across an often times bleak landscape to intentionally put yourself through misery and emotional turmoil.

 

[DizDragonfly]

They're all going to be in for a BIG surprise next year when there IS NO Christmas dinner at Debbie's house! (Is that wrong? Or would you do the same thing?)

No, if that was the blowback I was getting from family, we wouldn't be having a gathering. Terrie was spot on. Do something that the four of you are going to enjoy. It's hard enough to make that happen without throwing in all the extended family drama.

Normally we do Christmas brunch here. But, this year I have a lot of extra deep cleaning to do (due to having an ill dog). My mother in law suggested that we do it at her place this year. That way I can just concentrate on the food and have less to deal with. Kudos to my MIL for stepping up and helping me out!

I just realized I haven't double checked my A.C.E. list lately. Do I have everyone correct...I'm not missing anyone, right?

Looks right to me!

 

[Truffle]

A.C.E. looks right to us!

Debbie, EVERYTHING TERRIE SAID! They may try to make you miserable, but we all try to make you happy. We would love to have you join us next Christmas! We dropped the family drama YEARS ago, and haven't looked back. We are also much, much, happier these days!

Good luck with the famdamily...

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

That 70's post

 

[Luckymomoftwo]

Thanks guys! When my aunt started all this again yesterday my first thought was "FINE! Next year there won't be a Christmas because we won't even be here...we'll be at WDW." But then I remembered the horror stories of how bad the crowd levels are. I told my mom that maybe next year we will just do our immediate family. My mom & my siblings and nieces & nephews. No aunts and uncles or cousins that tend to ruin it for me every year.

I found out last night (when we had a really fun time at my dad's house with just my dad and my sisters and brother-in-laws) that my dad's side of the family is having two different gatherings today. One of my uncles is all pissed off at the rest of my uncles. SERIOUSLY?!?! At Christmas time? You can't suck it up and put your differences behind for one dinner?! My grandparents must be turning over in their graves...I've never known anyone more proud to have her family all together than my Grandma. And if she were still here, I'm sure she wouldn't tolerate their childish behavior!

Honestly....I can't believe both sides of my family are in turmoil like this....family has always been so important to me and especially at the holidays. I guess that's why when crap like this happens, it hurts even more.

Thanks, Terrie, for all of your input....I am so fed up that I just might not hold back. BUT...the only thing that has kept me from doing that is I know it would just break my mom's heart into a million pieces. And I just can't do that to my mom. Christmas is the ONLY time our whole family gets together anymore.

Thank you all for reading/listening to me vent....I couldn't post it on FB, and I had to vent....I was so upset about this all. I'm glad I'm not over-reacting (at least in the eyes of the DISPeeps!).


SO....MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY DISPEEPS!!!! I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A BEAUTIFUL HOLIDAY TODAY AND TOMORROW. I HOPE SANTA IS GOOD TO EACH OF YOU. I MISS YOU ALL AND SORT OF WISH ALL OF *YOU* WERE all GOING TO BE MY GUESTS FOR CHRISTMAS DINNER INSTEAD!

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

!!MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE!!​

 

[Steamboat WillyNilly]

Ok, so I think this pic needs a little critiquing.

#1. Where the hell is Wally?!?!
#2. Bob doesn't look enthused at all!!
#3. There is only 1 original DisPeep! (That would be Deb's fault!)
#4. Where the hell is Wally?!?!

Other than that, looks great!

 

[calypso726]

Thanks guys! When my aunt started all this again yesterday my first thought was "FINE! Next year there won't be a Christmas because we won't even be here...we'll be at WDW." But then I remembered the horror stories of how bad the crowd levels are. I told my mom that maybe next year we will just do our immediate family. My mom & my siblings and nieces & nephews. No aunts and uncles or cousins that tend to ruin it for me every year.

I found out last night (when we had a really fun time at my dad's house with just my dad and my sisters and brother-in-laws) that my dad's side of the family is having two different gatherings today. One of my uncles is all pissed off at the rest of my uncles. SERIOUSLY?!?! At Christmas time? You can't suck it up and put your differences behind for one dinner?! My grandparents must be turning over in their graves...I've never known anyone more proud to have her family all together than my Grandma. And if she were still here, I'm sure she wouldn't tolerate their childish behavior!

Honestly....I can't believe both sides of my family are in turmoil like this....family has always been so important to me and especially at the holidays. I guess that's why when crap like this happens, it hurts even more.

Thanks, Terrie, for all of your input....I am so fed up that I just might not hold back. BUT...the only thing that has kept me from doing that is I know it would just break my mom's heart into a million pieces. And I just can't do that to my mom. Christmas is the ONLY time our whole family gets together anymore.

Thank you all for reading/listening to me vent....I couldn't post it on FB, and I had to vent....I was so upset about this all. I'm glad I'm not over-reacting (at least in the eyes of the DISPeeps!).


SO....MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY DISPEEPS!!!! I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A BEAUTIFUL HOLIDAY TODAY AND TOMORROW. I HOPE SANTA IS GOOD TO EACH OF YOU. I MISS YOU ALL AND SORT OF WISH ALL OF *YOU* WERE all GOING TO BE MY GUESTS FOR CHRISTMAS DINNER INSTEAD!

Debbie, sometimes it is hard to be the glue that sticks the family together.
You can always vent to the DISpeeps when they make you crazy I am sure all of us have some cuckoo for coco puffs family members that try our patience. Even in my very small family we've got the Evil Succubus, my bat (rhymes with spit) crazy uncle, my DB who I sometimes fear is actually a troglodyte that somehow survived the paleolithic era and is trying to blend in. Then of course let's not forget the "sperm donor" who showed up after 31 years trying to claim the title of "dad." We will understand whatever insanity you are going through

Yeah, sometimes people allow their pride to get in the way of harmony. I know a few people like that. Holding on to grudges IMO is tantamount to courting self destruction. One, it takes way too much negative energy to remain constantly angry with a family member. Two, how do you live with yourself if the worst comes to pass with the person you are angry with? None of us know how long we will be here. None of the parents in CT sent their kids to school thinking tomorrow would never come for them. None of the family and friends of the teachers and staff could have guessed there wouldn't be another day to say I love you or make amends

Hope you have a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS too!!!!! Big hugs and lots of love!!!!

!!MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE!!​

!!MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE!!
To All's Y'alls TOO​

Ok, so I think this pic needs a little critiquing.

#1. Where the hell is Wally?!?!
#2. Bob doesn't look enthused at all!!
#3. There is only 1 original DisPeep! (That would be Deb's fault!)
#4. Where the hell is Wally?!?!

Other than that, looks great![/COLOR][/SIZE]​

#1. We hit max capacity for the group size and had a waitlist going too. Since Wally doesn't drink he did not want to take up a spot from someone else and opted out. I don't think we will hit max capacity on our DISpeeps cruise so Wally will be joining us even though he doesn't drink.

#2. Bob has the same look on his face that Wally did when I said I wanted to buy an uber special limited Maiden Voyage champagne. I imagine it must be something along those lines

#3. Not my fault. But, we picked up a couple of more DISpeeps while we were on board

#4. See #1.​