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[kelmac284]

Morning all!

Laurie I am so sorry about all your woes! Esp your shoulder. I mentioned it on FB but is there anyway you can get in to see your doctor? I was thinking maybe if you could get a muscle relaxer or perhaps a heavy duty pain killer that might help. Have you tried alternating heat and ice?

My shoulder hurts all the time too between the typing I do all the time and then I have to sleep sitting up a lot between my migraines and my acid reflux and that ends up hurting my back/shoulders.

Hope you get some relief today!

So yesterday Shane finally got a call back on one of the places he had been looking at and he has a place. He is renting a house a few blocks from here. I personally still think it is a crazy idea because it is 1100 a month and we only pay 700 here and have been having a hard time making our bills. And we don't pay our electric here. Just cable, internet and phone. So I really don't see how he is going to make it. He is STILL off work wtih no end in sight. But I can't worry about it anymore.

He claims he is going to just "give" me a certain amount of money each month but I don't see how because I KNOW he is not going to have it. So I have a feeling this is going to go on for a month or so and I am going to be forced to take him to court because I will get NOTHING.

I didn't want it to come to that cuz I REALLY need the medical and right now he is willing to leave me on his since we are doing the separation vs divorce BUT with no formal agreement then I don't see how that is going to work because then he has nothing to force him to give me squat and no formal agreement on the girls.

So we shall see how it goes at first but knowing how volitle things have been I have a feeling it will have to get ugly before things get better.

I also had to go buy a tv and a stand yesterday since he is taking mine. NOT what I wanted to do and my credit card was already pretty full but I had no choice. I have to give him a FEW things. He is taking our living room tv and the living room couches. He doesn't even have a bed or a fridge or dishes but that is not my problem. He wanted to do this house thing so he will have to figure it out!

Anyway I am off to work today but am going to come back early because he is going to start taking some stuff over there and I feel like I need to supervise to make sure none of MY stuff walks away!

Then on Sunday the comcast guy is coming to install my internet since he is taking the box that we have now and also he is going to be moving more stuff so I won't be able to go to SF with my mom but I am not that upset because I told her I don't think I would have been able to enjoy myself. I would have been too stressed about the whole thing.

Today is picture day for Katy and I can't remember if I mentioned it before but she is just going to wear her uniform now because it is too much of a hassle to change and we found out they just take head shots anyway. Then tomorrow is our seeding tournament so again another busy day!

I will just be glad when some of this settles down and esp when I hear about the TSA job!

I wonder how long it is going to take before they schedule me for the comp test???

Anyway hope everyone has a good day!

 

[DizNee Luver]

Well I'm glad he found a place so quickly.....but how in the world did he qualify when he's laid off??? Weird!! I think you're probably right, the financial agreement will probably get ugly before it gets resolved. I wish you all the best....at least having him NOT under the same roof as you should bring your stress level down a bit.

Sounds like you have your weekend mapped out......our walk is tomorrow morning & then I think Mike & I are gonna go watch a minor league baseball game in the evening.....all by ourselves!! Other than that, gonna take it easy & try not to do too much with my left arm. Mike's home the next 4 days, so he'll take over the wrangling & picking kiddos up.

Can't do the doctor thing since I don't have insurance......will only go if it gets to the point of wanting death! Doing the ice/heat thing & ibuprofen/acteminophen thing....pain pill occassionally.

 

[kelmac284]

Well on the app he put what he "normally" makes because he is not laid off for good but just temporarily. He never usually gets laid off for more than a week or so although this is the longest he has ever been off in a row so it is a bit concerning. But this is not like he was let go permanently. He knows he is going back eventually. But STILL like you said even when he DOES work he is making a LOT less than he used to and I know he just doesn't get it. He is still going to have to pay for his OWN internet, cable tv and now electricity and such plus groceries, gas, car ins, reg and his car ins and reg are WAY more than mine. Plus we have extras like the girls sports stuff, xmas and birthday stuff. I KNOW when it comes down to it he is NOT going to have the money and I tried to tell him but he just WON'T listen and I am afraid the girls and I are going to pay the price. And until I get a job I am afraid he is going to take us down to NOTHING trying to make this thing work and then we will REALLY be screwed cuz now he is locked into a lease on a place he can't afford and I can't afford to pay my mom rent on this place cuz it is going to take my entire pay check to pay my bills and groceries and such till I can get a job.

So it is def stressful!

I just pray that I hear something quick!

Anyway I will prob be on tomorrow or later today but just in case GOOD Luck tomorrow and have fun!! And that stinks about the no ins. I hope you can get it under control!

 

[DizNee Luver]

Well on the app he put what he "normally" makes because he is not laid off for good but just temporarily. He never usually gets laid off for more than a week or so although this is the longest he has ever been off in a row so it is a bit concerning. But this is not like he was let go permanently. He knows he is going back eventually. But STILL like you said even when he DOES work he is making a LOT less than he used to and I know he just doesn't get it. He is still going to have to pay for his OWN internet, cable tv and now electricity and such plus groceries, gas, car ins, reg and his car ins and reg are WAY more than mine. Plus we have extras like the girls sports stuff, xmas and birthday stuff. I KNOW when it comes down to it he is NOT going to have the money and I tried to tell him but he just WON'T listen and I am afraid the girls and I are going to pay the price. And until I get a job I am afraid he is going to take us down to NOTHING trying to make this thing work and then we will REALLY be screwed cuz now he is locked into a lease on a place he can't afford and I can't afford to pay my mom rent on this place cuz it is going to take my entire pay check to pay my bills and groceries and such till I can get a job.

So it is def stressful!

I just pray that I hear something quick!

Anyway I will prob be on tomorrow or later today but just in case GOOD Luck tomorrow and have fun!! And that stinks about the no ins. I hope you can get it under control!

So did he have money tucked away to cover deposit & first months rent??? I think he's fooling himself & while you're married....you could get screwed financially for his actions. I don't know if you're legally covered if you do a legal separation or not. I know when Nick's ex left him, she racked up all sorts of bills & he ended up stuck on some of them because they weren't legally separated. I think I'd look into that.....otherwise his lease, in his name could still come back to bite you.

Hang in there!!! Hopefully you'll hear back very soon on the TSA job!!!

 

[kelmac284]

Yeah here in CA once you file for legal separation you are split from any financial obligations. But I never thought about that. Since we haven't done that YET and since he is signing the lease NOW I hope that doesn't mean they can come after me if he defaults. I mean the lease is in his name alone but who knows. But it still takes money to pay a lawyer to file the separation papers and he is spending everything in our jt acct for this stupid house! He has NO furniture not even a fridge. So I am afraid he is going to spend everything we DO have setting himself up and then we won't even have money for groceries!

He claims that his business partner will help him. Well he better cuz I am not going to get to a point where I am destitute cuz he was stupid!

 

[DizNee Luver]

Yeah here in CA once you file for legal separation you are split from any financial obligations. But I never thought about that. Since we haven't done that YET and since he is signing the lease NOW I hope that doesn't mean they can come after me if he defaults. I mean the lease is in his name alone but who knows. But it still takes money to pay a lawyer to file the separation papers and he is spending everything in our jt acct for this stupid house! He has NO furniture not even a fridge. So I am afraid he is going to spend everything we DO have setting himself up and then we won't even have money for groceries!

He claims that his business partner will help him. Well he better cuz I am not going to get to a point where I am destitute cuz he was stupid!

All I can say is YIKES!!

 

[kaoden39]

All I can say is YIKES!!

I couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[DizNee Luver]

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Hi Michele!!!

 

[kaoden39]

Hi Michele!!!

Hi Laurie!!!

How are you today?

 

[DizNee Luver]

Hi Laurie!!!

How are you today?

Hanging in there.....was up by 5 this morning because I couldn't catch my breath laying down......we had a huge thunder & lightening storm & Anthony was in our room whining at 4am....so it was kinda a wash anyways. He laid on our floor & then by 5:30am he got up to go back to his room, but he let the dog out of our room....so Mike ended up getting up too. So I think it will be a long day.

Shoulder is still hurting & at times unbearable....but picked up some Advil & those Icy/Hot patches to try when I have another bad spell.

 

[kaoden39]

Hanging in there.....was up by 5 this morning because I couldn't catch my breath laying down......we had a huge thunder & lightening storm & Anthony was in our room whining at 4am....so it was kinda a wash anyways. He laid on our floor & then by 5:30am he got up to go back to his room, but he let the dog out of our room....so Mike ended up getting up too. So I think it will be a long day.

Shoulder is still hurting & at times unbearable....but picked up some Advil & those Icy/Hot patches to try when I have another bad spell.

I hope you are able to get some relief today.

 

[DizNee Luver]

Tomorrow is the big day...... "WALK NOW FOR AUTISM SPEAKS" ......We're really excited about it & after bugging people to death....we ended up with $1015 in donations. All 5 adults will get a walk day t-shirt since we each reached the $150 goal. Thank you to those who donated to the cause and those who messaged me in support. I will take lots of pictures & might try to meet with Arthur from the Biggest Loser!!! He & his dad were on the show together & live in Portland. I believe Arthur's son is autistic.....so they've been fundraising, will be walking & also a part of the opening ceremony!!! Can't wait to see how he & his dad look!!!!

I'll make sure & take lots of pics & then come back & share them here!!!​

 

[Happy 2 B Me]

My gosh Laurie how are you going to walk tomorrow with breathing being so difficult? I hope it will work out. I was glad to be able to donate to the fund raiser. I know it is going for a good cause. Maybe this year there will be more information on how to help our kids who are dealing with autism. Every day I thank god for my grand kids.

I played school with Austen and Lilly today. Ya I know I am to old to play school but it is such a good way to refresh his reading and math skills for next year. He gave us a snack and drink. We even had a rest time . This is good for Lilly to so she knows talking in class and walking around is not gonna cut it next year. I wonder if your kids would like playing school? Oh, and you get to play to .

Going with Krista to a sale of gentle used children's clothes this evening. She likes to buy sweat shirts at sales as they out grow them so fast. I never bought Krista previous owned clothes. Boy did I miss out. Some stuff is so nice I swear it is new. I don't remember people having garage sales when I was growing up ----my girl friends mom worked at salvation army. ---Lisa was voted best dressed. I would stop in there every day after college classes. I found some of the best antiques and clothes.

Off to get more laundry done and iron some of that said laundry . You get it all done and then bam family thinks it is ok to wear the clean clothes. silly people. They should wear the older stuff that is already dirty so I dont have to wash so my laundry.

Ok off to earn my wages.

Patty

 

[kaoden39]

You know Patty, I was wondering about Laurie walking while she is in so much pain. I am worried about her.


I love going to Thrift Shops. You never know what you are going to find. My daughters love to shop for clothes in them. For teenage girls I figure that is odd.


I haven't played school or had a tea party for years. I used to love having tea parties with the kids. It was always great fun.

 

[DizNee Luver]

Thanx Patty & Michele for the concern. I'm a tad concerned about the pain, but I wouldn't miss this for the world....so I'll get thru it. Luckily with the strollers being there, It will give me an opportunity to rest the arm on the handle. They're jogging strollers, so the handles are actually high enough for us tall people. The other thing I found is to keep the arm behind me takes some pressure off. Its laying down or sitting in something that brings my knees up.....feel like I'm compressing my ribcage & that's when I can't breath.

I've picked up clothes for the kids at thrift shops....especially when they're outgrowing stuff in days...we go thru spurts like that & can't see spending $20 on a pair of pants they can't wear the next week. (which Addy did for about 3 mths straight)

 

[kaoden39]

A tall stroller how nice. They have come so far since my own kids were little.

 

[DizNee Luver]

A tall stroller how nice. They have come so far since my own kids were little.

Very true....with Mike & I being tall....pushing strollers was always uncomfortable.....this is nice....we can actually stand up straight to push them!!

 

[WDWJonasGirl]

That's awesome!! Good luck tomorrow!!

 

[DizNee Luver]

That's awesome!! Good luck tomorrow!!

Thanx Kaitlin!!

 

[kelmac284]

Evening all!

Laurie I agree I hope you are able to do your walk without any discomfort! And good luck tomorrow! Oh and congrats on getting enough to get the shirts! I sure hope you all have a blast tomorrow!

So today I went in to work and it was pretty stressful cuz things are so bad my mom had to lend the company money just to pay payroll which means so I could get paid and that is why I had stopped taking checks awhile back cuz things were so bad but I had to start taking them again cuz of Shane getting laid off and now this! So that has put a ton of stress on me and then I came home and he said he was going to go meet his landlord to get the keys and such and then we were supposed to get a bunch of stuff cleaned up round here and he asked me if I would help him pick out the stuff for his place.

I didn't mind cuz I knew I would be able to pick out stuff that was sensible and CHEAP and sense he is spending money that needs to go to the girls and I, I want him to not waste it!

So I came home and he never showed and never showed so I texted him and then he didn't answer. This is yet another thing he always does that infruiates me. I told him once we totally separate and if he has the girls this is NOT going to work him ignoring me! So we kind of got into it about that. But then he did finally come home and we went to walmart and he got most of the basics like dishes, silverware, pots and pans etc. Just the bare minimum that he needs to get by but he still needs a fridge, a bed etc.

I am going to let him borrow the girls extra bunk bed but I have a feeling I will never get it back once it goes over there and then he kept saying he didn't need to buy this or that cuz he would just get it from here. I was like I don't think so. You are not going to raid MY pantry to get all your crap and then leave me short when I have NO money!

Plus I GAVE him the big tv and he is getting cable installed on Sunday but he said some crap about them giving him free for a 2nd tv and he wanted one for his bedroom eventually so he decided he needed to get it now. I was FURIOUS! I mean he not only needs OTHER stuff way more than he needs an extra tv BUT my RENT is going unpaid this month! He has some nerve! Plus we went to sam's and that is in my name and I was like so what are we going to do about that. He was like well since I am paying for your phone you can pay for that. And I was like ok so I make 800 a month and until I get a job I have to pay for EVERYTHING that WE were paying for together except rent which I CAN'T pay for and then I am supposed to pay for that stuff too? I don't think so! So I think this whole thing is going to end up sour just like I thought. It is real nice to say but when it comes down to it I just KNOW he is going to end up spending all the money and then the girls and I are going to have none and then he will say some crap like well I don't have it so oh well!

Anyway sorry for the novel. That was my crazy day. Tomorrow is the soccer and then he may take some more stuff tomorrow and then Sunday he is getting his cable and I am getting my internet and he isn't going to officially move out till he gets himself a fridge which HOPEFULLY will be soon. He should have bought a fridge instead of that tv! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR