Dinner at the In-laws

[tarbe]

My in-laws invited us to Sunday dinner tonight. They do not know i am on JC. I don't really feel comfortable telling them either. I will have a struggle telling my mother in law that i have had enough without hurting her feelings. I am going off the food tonight to eat her cooking. If i don't eat enough she may think i am not happy with the meal, but i don't wnat to wake up tomorrow morning having gained anything either. It will be a dilema for me and a fine line to walk. Don't get me wrong either her cooking is quite good. Wish me luck.

Tarbe

P.S. Thank you all for being so kind in your responces. I told my JC councelor about you and what aneat support system you all are.

 

[wilderness01]

Good luck. I had all went smooth at least. Tomorrow/today is a brand new day with a new start!

 

[catherine]

If I were you I would eat the dinner, but stop when I knew that I'd have enough. There is no point in making yourself feel ill to please your MIL. However you won't put on weight from eating one meal that is OP. You may reatain a little water, but that will come right back off as soon as you get back OP. The best thing to do is not weigh yourself the next day. That way you won't know, if the scale is up a little Good luck!

 

[thotfulspot]

I hope all went well, tarbe! Just remember when this comes up again that what you're doing and how you choose to eat is about making positive choices for you, and not in any way about judging other people's choices or rejecting what they've prepared for you, so don't feel guilty or uncomfortable! Think about it this way: if you were diabetic, you wouldn't just eat anything put in front of you for the sake of saving people's feelings, would you?

Right now, you're making different choices than before. You don't need to go into the whole thing with your in-laws (or anyone else, for that matter), but to save confusion, why not thank them warmly for the invitation, and let them know that you're eating differently right now, so perhaps you could bring along something for yourself so you can enjoy everyone's company without going off the plan you're on now.

I hope they would understand that, but even if they don't, remember that no one is responsible for the choices you make for yourself except for you!

 

[trola2]

I hope your dinner went well and you walked away feeling good about it. It's a touchy situation when you are trying to please someone else and they aren't aware of your plan!! Have a great day today!
~~Beth

 

[tarbe]

I just came off havng a stressful day at work. It was so wonderful to check in and see so much support from all of you. It is really a blessing.

I did alright last night. I took it easy and didn't have the second hot dog like the rest of the group. And...i took your advice and didn't get on the scale this morning.

Rationally I know that i shouldn't worry about what my mother in law thinks about me being on a diet but some things are more trouble than they are worth emotionally. I always seem to be trying to justify to others why i am doing something. I am so tired of living to please others. This is for me and I think that is why i don't even want to know her opinion. You see, JC is very expensive.

You would all be proud of me today too because we had yet another big feast for a baby shower and i didn't touch a bite.

I also wrote an affirmation on my frige that i was not going to sabotage my program because a meeting at work stressed me out today. I wanted to look at it and tell myself that i wasn't going to let that event have any more power over me than it had to. It helps to look at it on paper.

I am takign things one day at a time as you can see.


Tarbe :thewave:

 

[kayeandjim00]

Way to go! I know how you feel - when I first started my plan I didn't tell anyone as I wanted to give myself a chance to get used to my new way of life and if it didn't go as well as I expected I didn't want to have to answer any questions. After you start shedding pounds your MIL may start to notice and that will give you the opportunity to tell her if you decide you want to. I think you handled things perfectly - eat reasonably when you have these dinners and drink lots of water the next day. You are on the right path - keep up the great work!