Dilemma

[gilld]

We have just had some friends, who are neighbours, in for a drink and they have invited us to their son's wedding on January 6th. Very kind of them - we'd love to go.

The problem is - it's in Minneapolis! Now DH gets 8 weeks holiday a year, the perks of being self-employed, but I don't!!! And with a cruise in September, and the one next March, I don't have any time left. I probably could arrange to swap days and get a day or so extra, but it's a long way to go for a weekend and will be very expensive - not to mention cold!!!!!

They are good friends and quite expect us to refuse the invitation, but they don't have much family and and don't have many friends so I think they'd love it if we were able to go. I'm really torn.

Any thoughts please?

 

[wilma-bride]

Gill, I'm probably not the best person to advise as we have missed 2 family occasions since being in Northern Ireland, purely due to the expense and hassle of transporting the whole family just back to England for a weekend.

However, from my point of view, if you can make it work and the expense isn't a problem, I would go. Is there any way you could extend your holiday a little and see a bit of the area while you are there, to make it more of a holiday?

DH's sister got married in Las Vegas - at the time, Daniel was only a few weeks old so we decided not to go as it would have been a lot of hassle to go all that way with him so young. However, I really regret not going as Las Vegas is somewhere we've always wanted to see.

I guess it depends whether you think you would enjoy the wedding and the whole weekend enough to make it worth it.

Good luck, whatever you decide

 

[Minniespal]

Sounds as though your friends would love for you to be there but also realise that it is an incredibly long way to travel for a weekend.

Gill, you don't mention whether you are close to the future bride and groom. If you are, and really want to go to the wedding then I'm sure you could swap days here and there to allow you to go. If not, then I would send a lovely gift and look forward to the wedding photographs.

Hope this helps.

 

[Pootle]

It will be cold of course, but it will probably also be a great experience.

Could you take a few days' unpaid leave of absence maybe?

Other advantage is that you could probably get good prices on flights for that time too.

I'd go

 

[disneyholic family]

take into account that flying into minnesota in january is a risky endeavor..
you could be snowed out and never reach the wedding at all....you could be snowed in and not be able to get back home.....airports in the northern midwest in the dead of winter have been known to close for several days.....so it's a risk from that point of view..

 

[Cyrano]

Thoughts while you decide