"Did Pluto Just Give You A Lap Dance?" 10 days of Naughty & Nice!

[Dizneydawn]

I love your ring!
Thanks!
My sister has one similar. She's not big on diamonds so the saphire was perfect for her.
Me too! Plus ever since I saw Princess Diana's engagement ring...I knew I wanted something different.
Dan sounds alot like my dh! I'm so glad you found someone wonderfull!

It is amazing once you have something like this to compare it to what you had before. I am so blessed every day.


Thought to tell you all this. Today is one year from the time Baylor was burned. Actually it happened right about 12:30 p.m. and it has been a weird feeling here. Baylor has been invited to go to a few friends places or trick-or -treating and he asked if he could stay home and get a fog machine, strobe light and scare some of the older kids. He said he wants to be home.

He is usually pretty excited about the Trick-or Treating part of Halloween and last year as we sat at the ER - was talking about that and what he was missing.

The last few days he has been pretty reflective and talking about the burn, how it happened and what he remembers. He is a big person on the sense of smell and the other day when we were raking, he talked about remembering the smell of fallen leaves as he was rolling in them trying to put himself out. It's hard fo me to hear at times because I hate so much I wasn't there and I still fight with guilt over what I could have done.

Yesterday, I cleaned out a bathroom closet that has held all these bags of Baylor's med stuff since last Halloween and through the spring. I have starightened it out since but was not ready to go through all things and pitch what we can't use etc. For some reason I was ready yesterday.

I closed the door to the hallway and truthfully, just cried as I sat on the floor seperating.
There was silvadine salve that they tried to use right after the burn to save him from being grafted. The smell is unmistakable (Silver has a healing component for burns) and inividual finger gauze we had to put on his left hand after we debried his skin and put this yellow medicated wrap on.

There were sterile wipes and wraps and so much extras. Scizzors and tweezers and wood sticks used to smear the medicated salves on without touching him. It hit me so hard how much those first 6 months sucked. How much he would cry and get so angry because he hated not being able to take care of himself.

Each piece had a different memory and visual of the seperate burns and when I went in the bathroom yesterday I had no intention of "This is the Day." It just sort of happened. I needed to go through it and I needed that time to sort and save and box up some supplies to donate. I just was not prepared for the feelings and the lump in my throat.

He is at that 13 age stage of talking and not talking at the same time. I went to his room 2 days ago and found him lotioning his leg after his shower. He does this every day, several times and then has to wait for it to dry to then put on the compression stocking. I watched him through his opening in the door and he was wiping tears away. I know his looks and he was frusterated. He still has no feeling in his lower ankle area and he hates not being able to feel what he sees when someone touches him there. Including himself. It just stinks that here we are a year later and still the reminents of that day are just as palpable.

Anyway - I will not write the rest of my AK day this weekend as planned - I will try and get to that on Monday. I am just not in a funny mood right now and we have family/friends coming over for a dinner for Baylor tom and I want to work on some surprises for him for then.

Sorry for rambling - I feel like you guys have been along since it happened and so letting my feelings out here is a safe place in some strange way.

As goofy as I get here, I want you to know that you all have truly touched me and my family in this journey and I can't imagine this past year without my friends here.

 

[winkers]

You and Baylor have both been through a tough year!

When I was young I went through a pretty traumatic injury... I cut my finger off....not as bad as baylor's but still traumatic and took a long time to heal. Now that it's been 30 years I look at my hand and what used to embarass me when I was young, is now a reminder of the lessons I learned along the way and how greatful I am.

I'm sure halloween will always remind you of this but as with all things, time will change your prespective. Mine happened on Easter at a family gathering. I still remember it every year, but now there's no sadness.

 

[Dizneydawn]

You and Baylor have both been through a tough year!

When I was young I went through a pretty traumatic injury... I cut my finger off....not as bad as baylor's but still traumatic and took a long time to heal. Now that it's been 30 years I look at my hand and what used to embarass me when I was young, is now a reminder of the lessons I learned along the way and how greatful I am.

I'm sure halloween will always remind you of this but as with all things, time will change your prespective. Mine happened on Easter at a family gathering. I still remember it every year, but now there's no sadness.

Thanks for telling me your story and sharing your progress. It will all get better here as well.

Off to decorate the garage with Halloween scary stuff and some not so scary! Dan and Baylor are planning a mini haunted house!

 

[Stacybaeasm]

Dawn - the strength you and your family have is truly amazing. And the love and respect you have for each other is, unfortunately, mostly unheard of in this day and age. I am sending good thoughts to you and to Baylor today. And also to Carsyn and Treynor. I'm sure they have their own memories of last year and are fighting their own demons as well. I know you guys will come through it even stronger and more of a unit than you are now.

I hope you and yours have a great Halloween! Remember, the 999 happy haunts are roaming the earth today and will watch over you guys.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Dawn - the strength you and your family have is truly amazing. And the love and respect you have for each other is, unfortunately, mostly unheard of in this day and age. I am sending good thoughts to you and to Baylor today. And also to Carsyn and Treynor. I'm sure they have their own memories of last year and are fighting their own demons as well. I know you guys will come through it even stronger and more of a unit than you are now.
Totally will always be a unifying thing with the core unit of this group. We shared in an experience that no matter how many people join us and grow our family later on - will never quite understand.
I hope you and yours have a great Halloween! Remember, the 999 happy haunts are roaming the earth today and will watch over you guys.

I hope you have a great night as well my fellow Minnesotan!

 

[Millie12591]

No - not married yet. Promise. I wondered if someone would notice that!
I notitced it in a picture from before just forgot to say something. <---I'm stealing writing in color from you.

Dan and I were in Colorado together after we dated for about a year plus. We went to this cute town and cute Irish shop and there were these rings on the counter. We tried them on and they fit both of our pinkie fingers exactly perfect and so we got them.

FF a few months and we are in MN, going on a tubing adventure down a river (slow river mind you) and he had lost weight and ended up losing his ring. He was really dissapointed and knew he had no chance of finding it.

So about 2 weeks from that day he was back in Colorado. On a lunch break he drove Mach 8 from Denver to this town to see if they had another one. They did -only a size 12 left and it fit his wedding finger.

He came home - (we were not living together even then) surprised me that he had replaced the one lost and asked if it was okay to wear it. He said he knew we would be together and he felt commited to me no different than if we were married and that was that.
Awwwww......
Dan is the guy that most women dream to find. He is loving, caring and so not afraid to be sensitive that it astounds me.And has the most fierce eyes I've ever seen on a guy!! Way cool! He thinks of me first almost all the time versus an after thought. I get back rubs nightly and there isn't a day he does not hold my face and kiss me and tell me I am the most beautiful woman he has ever known.Your Dan and my John need to have a talk.... I'm just sayin...

It's funny because I have never once worried about him not loving me. In my heart I have just always known he was true to me and to us and now to this new family we are blending and never looked back. I have had more happiness with him in a few years than I had in 16 plus with my ex and I can only hope I have taught my kids what love really looks like. That it is not self centered and not greedy and it is not something you question or live in fear of loosing. That you should not settle or be misserable in a relationship. I have a lot of friends who rejoice when their husbands leave hunting, for work etc and I used to get it. Now though, I have an understanding about what a better half is, what you have when you have your eyes set on each other.
I know exactly what you mean, in previous years I have felt this way about my dh, but God is doing a miracle in our marriage and I'm getting back that when your first together thing.

People used to say it would not last and that it was just a honeymoon phase. Well 3 plus years later and tons of family drama on both sides, nastiness with ex's and some good too, job changes, the tragedy with Baylor and bills up the wazoo - it still feels great. Better than the first day.This is the way a real marriage is suppose to feel, ...at least for the most part. I'm so happy for you both. Thank you for being cool with me asking about the ring, I wondered if there was some sort of cool story behind it. I was right.

The rings - BTW - say,


One Ring to Show Our love
One Ring to Bind Us
One Ring to Seal Our love
And Forever Entwine us.

I keep asking him if he wants to pick out a new ring for the weding ad we have looked but he wants this one. We will have to buy a few if we can cause it will not hold up forever! Did you think about taking it to a jewler and having them make you these rings in something a little more durable, maybe even in a more elaborate way or something? Just a thought.

This is the ring Dan gave me - don't think I have ever shown it here.
Nope, you never did show us.

Can you say Gorgeous!!!!

Girl you got yourself a good man!!!! And I aint just sayin it because of the ring......although that would be a mighty fine deal clencher for me! <said in her best exaggerated Texan voice she could muster up>

I suck as a fellow Dis'er! I've been holding on to wanting to wish you well and to encourage you because Halloween was approaching, and I missed it! I guess it's never to late to wish anyone well.

I hope and pray that y'all are looking on with encouraging thoughts and wanting to make amazing memories and not looking to the past with regrets and saddness (but if you need to for a little while longer-you do what you need to do-I don't want to tell you not to grieve). Your starting an amazing new family with many great memories to come, hopefully now that the year is past you will find yourselves looking ever forward.

I'm so blessed and honored to just be apart of you sharing this aspect of your life, I don't take our Dis'er relationship for granted, I'm always mindful that your a real person with real life things going on and I pray for you on this annv.

My blessings and love to you and yours, for now and every new year to come.

Your fellow Dis'er Sis,
Camille

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

Can you say Gorgeous!!!!

Girl you got yourself a good man!!!! And I aint just sayin it because of the ring......although that would be a mighty fine deal clencher for me! <said in her best exaggerated Texan voice she could muster up>

I suck as a fellow Dis'er! I've been holding on to wanting to wish you well and to encourage you because Halloween was approaching, and I missed it! I guess it's never to late to wish anyone well.

I hope and pray that y'all are looking on with encouraging thoughts and wanting to make amazing memories and not looking to the past with regrets and saddness (but if you need to for a little while longer-you do what you need to do-I don't want to tell you not to grieve). Your starting an amazing new family with many great memories to come, hopefully now that the year is past you will find yourselves looking ever forward.

I'm so blessed and honored to just be apart of you sharing this aspect of your life, I don't take our Dis'er relationship for granted, I'm always mindful that your a real person with real life things going on and I pray for you on this annv.

My blessings and love to you and yours, for now and every new year to come.

Your fellow Dis'er Sis,
Camille

Camille is right this guy sounds awesome. In fact I will bet he is the perfect man!!!!

 

[wigdoutdismom]

Hey Dawn!
Hope you had a great day!
I've been reading and reading your trip report and all I can say is I laughed and cried...
Poor Baylor but extremely lucky at the same time.
I love your writing! Your family is awesome...
Anita

 

[Dizneydawn]

Can you say Gorgeous!!!!
I love it!

I suck as a fellow Dis'er! I've been holding on to wanting to wish you well and to encourage you because Halloween was approaching, and I missed it! I guess it's never to late to wish anyone well.
I did not expect that from anyone and you do not suck! I love seeimg your replies!

I'm so blessed and honored to just be apart of you sharing this aspect of your life, I don't take our Dis'er relationship for granted, I'm always mindful that your a real person with real life things going on and I pray for you on this annv.
I appreciate it that and I feel so lucky to see people following along this journey of my families!
Your fellow Dis'er Sis,
Camille

Can you be my real sister cause my youngest is a PITA. Yesterday I had planned a big dinner for family and she called 2 hours before she was supposed to be here to tell me that she would appreciate from now on if I told her exactly which people were comming to my house. That she did not know my mom and other sister were going to be there - she thought just her. (Mind you she lives with my mom with Skyler and sees Laura all the time and the three of us were all together 2 weeks ago for Skyler's birthday so what the heck is the big deal.) She explained that she feels attacked when we are all together and she is working with her counselor on boundary issues.

I explained that this was for Baylor and was not about her so if she didn't want to come then don't. She said she did not know it was a big deal to Baylor and anything to acknowledge.

I said if she was not such a self-absorbed person than maybe she might understand him almost dying, a month in the hospital and a grueling recovery would be a hard anniversary for him. Maybe if she talked to him once in awhile she would know something about him.

She again went back to the boundaries and learning coping skills and what to do when she feels attacked. Did not edven acknowledge Baylor at all.

Now if you are wondering why she uses the word attacked - I will tell you it is code for confronted and as a former social worker - I want to kick her counelor's @ss for giving her words she now uses as an out and to be a victim and to take no accountability for her choices.

Karen moved into my Mom's in the beginning of July. Moved 100% of her belongings there in the end of July. She pays like $200 to live there with her daughter, has 2 bedrooms in the basement as well as the living room downstairs to call her own. Laura and I and her were together in August and she said she was sick of Mom, Mom was so controlling...blah, blah, blah.
I agreed but told her she was doing Karen a huge favor and if she did not like Mom's rules or the way she ran her house than she can move. Karen said she could not afford to.

She also said, "Mom is not doing anything big for me," and when asked when she was planning on moving the stuff/organizing it from the garage so Mom can have it back to park in (she is 63 and it is her house ya know and that is one of Mom's complaints so we were trying to help her come up with ways to have things go more smoothly there that were in her control) Karen said, "It's not hurting her to park in the driveway."

So yeah, you 29 year old non-appreciative snot, when you act like a jerk, I am going to call you on it and if that means attacked in your vocabulary than put your military gear on cause I am going to start throwing grenades from a short range.

Again, this was a subject on August 29th and not discussed since (I have said my peace and it is my Mom's to deal with if she chooses to) and we were all together on October 18th at a birthday party so WTHeck would I assume I needed to give her my atendees list or should I since it is my home. If she would have asked, I would have answered but she did not and now she is complaining to me?

So she did not come and Baylor was really hurt by her not comming and he loves his only cousin on my side and if she was standing here in front of me I would beat her with her counselor.

My sister Laura is also a LSW and we want in on her next counseling session to ask what kind of Voodoo a person tells someone else to make them think it is okay to behave the way she does.

Soooory for the rant but I am so mad this morning still!

So - I am looking for a new sister and a better Aunt for my child. I really do appreciate your words and at the same time it is sad that someone reading this thread can be more compassionate than someone who lives 25 minutes away and is supposed to give a sh!t.

Camille is right this guy sounds awesome. In fact I will bet he is the perfect man!!!!

What are you some kind of freak? Get your own man.

Hey Dawn!
Hope you had a great day!
I've been reading and reading your trip report and all I can say is I laughed and cried...
Poor Baylor but extremely lucky at the same time.
I love your writing! Your family is awesome...
Anita

Comming from one of the guru's of this forumn that is such a huge compliment! Did you get through all the links of the thread and was Keeley home?

Off to water aerobics today to get rid of my anger munching from yesterday! Maybe I need to start up kick boxing!

 

[NancyLuvsMickey]

I feel for ya... Luckily my PITA sister lives 6 hours and we only see her ever 6 months but the world still revolves around her... She's referred to as the "Golden Child"...

I haven't spoken much to her since she threw a hissy-fit about sending Mom & Dad on an Alaskan cruise for their 40th anniversary... She said "she didn't have the money"... But she has the money to fly to Vegas for the weekend to see a concert... And fly to New York and go shopping for the weekend... As long as it's all about HER she has the money... AUGH!!!

All PITA sisters need to be voted off the Island!!!

ETA: I'm glad Baylor is doing well... My son is 11 and I told him what happened to Baylor last year... It's scary how fast something like that can happen...

 

[Stacybaeasm]

Dawn - I volunteer to be your sister and the aunt to your kids. I am already so proud of 3 kids I have never met! In addition, I am the "fun" aunt - I always bring the Disney presents to my niece and nephew (even if it IS Hannah Montana who I have an intense dislike for.) Oh, and since I work in theatre, I can set up the boys with hot chorus girls. I wish I could help Carsyn, but most of the men I work with like other men. However, they ARE hot and they can dance so she would have a great prom date and they could check out the other hot guys together. Just throwing that out there.

I sincerely hope that you and Baylor had a healing aniversary. The family that was there are your true support and I hope Baylor feels the love. I also hope he feels the love and support from a bunch of people with computers who are too addicted to this place. We may not have met, but if/when I meet your kids, they are going to get huge hugs. So, place me in the running for openings in your family!

 

[princess_momma]

Hey Dawn! I hope you had a good weekend. Give Baylor a big hug for me. You are so blessed to have a son like him, and him a mom like you! Your family is going to have so many amazing, awesome memories together. I don't think this one will ever be easy to look back on, but I can tell with your family the good more than outweighs the bad. You have shared with us quite a lot on this thread from Captain Condom to the windshield wiper incident and the thong incident and just so much, and I bet its a mere fraction of all the good memories your family has.

Dan sounds great too! I'm so glad you found him. I'm not sure the whole background story with you and everything, but I'm glad you found him. I need to find a guy like that...I have been having such bad luck with guys lately. Recently, I wasn't even that serious with a guy, but he broke it off because of Landon. I knew that would happen eventually, but it was the first time that happened and it was just bad. Oh well.

Can't wait for more. I wish I could give you a big hug right now!! You're such an awesome mom and all-around person!

 

[shannn]

Tell Baylor that he has a fabulous auntie in Tennessee who is willing to spoil him rotten. What does he like (brownies, cookies, extra Math homework?? )

I can come up with one heck of a care package!!

I know a lot of cute high school boys too; although the commute would be rather killer...

I hope Baylor was able to surround himself with love from the people who care about him and know that he is a true miracle. I believe that these things happen to prepare us for the future, and he will be able to navigate his life knowing lessons that he has learned from this adversity.

 

[wannago2disney]

all caught up again.
12 years ago I was in a car accident and almost lost my arm. It is very scarred, a little deformed and for the first 2 years I couldn't move it much or feel much but at the same time could not stand to have a sleeve covering it. There were people who thought that they had the right to tell me to cover it up "are you not embarassed?" -- people whom I did not even know. I was 23 and luckily am not self concious about it (and tend to have a smart mouth...told one old bitty if she'd cover her face I'd cover my arm --my mom was so embarassed...and proud) Anyway, after a few years, sensation returned to much of the arm and although still ugly it works about 95%. Baylor may not get all his feeling back but he is healthy and in a couple of years it will not affect him so much...But he will never forget.

I am so very happy for you to have Dan. He sounds like a wonderful man. My DH and I had been together about 2 years when I had my accident...he stuck with me through 5 years of surgeries and rehab...I am very lucky to have him...he is a great father too.

Reading about your PITA sister made me so angry for you. I only have a brother and if he acted like that, i would soooo kick his @$$ I think that your other sister and you talking to her councellor sounds like a very good idea. . I am sorry that Baylor was hurt by her attitude. Unfortunately, selfish people are just that selfish.

Kick boxing sounds fun!!

 

[coltink]

Ok so it totally took me like 5 minutes to figure out what pita sister meant. Seriously I was thinking what does pita bread have to do with people. I'm such a dumb a$$.

Now that I have figured it out... 10 minnutes later ... you have such a great family. Don't let her get you down. Just remember at least you aren't living in your mom's basement trying to blame everything on everyone.

Personally I would write her a heartfelt letter explaining how you feel and how Baylor felt when they didn't attend his celebration. That you didn't think it was necessary to alert her that her own family woul be there including the family member that she lives with.

She sounds like a mess.
Being the smart A$$ I am (thanks dad!) I would totally invite her to stuff just so I could invite a ton of other people and then go over board on the warning her of who would be there.

Anyway on with the show... don't you have a trip coming up??? Lucky you! Isn't there a rule that says you have to finish your trip report becfore you can go on another trip???

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

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[Dizneydawn]

I feel for ya... Luckily my PITA sister lives 6 hours and we only see her ever 6 months but the world still revolves around her... She's referred to as the "Golden Child"...
Karen is 100% developed from birth. I blame my parents. Does your parents see that or are they blind to it?
My mom yesterday when she was here, said, "Karen is just angry right now and you should understand she doesn't want to talk."

I said, "She called me!"

My Mom said, "Well even if she did you shouldn't have talked to her."

That is the relationship and the problem in a nut shell. Laura said she was at my Mom's last weekend and Karen and Mom got in a fight and Karen was horribly cruel and my Mom went in the bedroom crying.

Yet like I said, she is an adult, if she wants to allow herself to be treated like that than so be it. I can't waste my energy defending or sticking up for someone who wants the relationship.
I haven't spoken much to her since she threw a hissy-fit about sending Mom & Dad on an Alaskan cruise for their 40th anniversary... She said "she didn't have the money"... But she has the money to fly to Vegas for the weekend to see a concert... And fly to New York and go shopping for the weekend... As long as it's all about HER she has the money... AUGH!!!
Ego, party of one...Ego Party if One...We have you giant sized freakin table waiting for your giant sized head."
All PITA sisters need to be voted off the Island!!!
I am going to make a shirt that says that - let me know if you want one!
ETA: I'm glad Baylor is doing well... My son is 11 and I told him what happened to Baylor last year... It's scary how fast something like that can happen...

That is Baylor and my goal both - that kids learn from his incident and take fire and their lives so much more seriously!

Dawn - I volunteer to be your sister and the aunt to your kids. You can never have enough people that love you! Oh, and since I work in theatre, I can set up the boys with hot chorus girls. I wish I could help Carsyn, but most of the men I work with like other men. However, they ARE hot and they can dance so she would have a great prom date and they could check out the other hot guys together. Just throwing that out there. I will let her know and that sounds like the perfect prom date to me! No one to get jealous over and loads of dancing and fun!

I sincerely hope that you and Baylor had a healing aniversary. The family that was there are your true support and I hope Baylor feels the love. I also hope he feels the love and support from a bunch of people with computers who are too addicted to this place. We may not have met, but if/when I meet your kids, they are going to get huge hugs. So, place me in the running for openings in your family!

I think the kids cannot believe the outpouring of human kindness from this thread and decency. They are touched and blessed!

Hey Dawn! I hope you had a good weekend. Give Baylor a big hug for me.
I will and thanks for liing us despite the crazy stories I have shared!
Dan sounds great too! I'm so glad you found him. I'm not sure the whole background story with you and everything, but I'm glad you found him. I need to find a guy like that...I have been having such bad luck with guys lately. Recently, I wasn't even that serious with a guy, but he broke it off because of Landon. I knew that would happen eventually, but it was the first time that happened and it was just bad. Oh well.
Just keep telling yourself his loss - and get a piece of paper and write down what you want in a relationship and in a man. Don't deviate from it and advice #2 - the "type" of guy you are attracted to - run from and pick the opposite. There is where you will find your match instead of finding the guy you want to fix.
Can't wait for more. I wish I could give you a big hug right now!! You're such an awesome mom and all-around person!

I love ya honey.

Tell Baylor that he has a fabulous auntie in Tennessee who is willing to spoil him rotten. What does he like (brownies, cookies, extra Math homework?? )
He loves all but he last. Actually breaks out in hives from homework. Weirdest thing you ever saw!
I can come up with one heck of a care package!!

I know a lot of cute high school boys too; although the commute would be rather killer...
I was thinking I could send her to live with you. She is not as bad as Anita's Fes and she is kind and funny to most people!
I hope Baylor was able to surround himself with love from the people who care about him and know that he is a true miracle. I believe that these things happen to prepare us for the future, and he will be able to navigate his life knowing lessons that he has learned from this adversity.

Actually he asked to volunteer some time at a local place that is a community center for peope with brain injuries or handicaps. So I think it is already underway - his path.

all caught up again.
12 years ago I was in a car accident and almost lost my arm. It is very scarred, a little deformed and for the first 2 years I couldn't move it much or feel much but at the same time could not stand to have a sleeve covering it. There were people who thought that they had the right to tell me to cover it up "are you not embarassed?" -- people whom I did not even know. I was 23 and luckily am not self concious about it (and tend to have a smart mouth...told one old bitty if she'd cover her face I'd cover my arm --my mom was so embarassed...and proud) Anyway, after a few years, sensation returned to much of the arm and although still ugly it works about 95%. Baylor may not get all his feeling back but he is healthy and in a couple of years it will not affect him so much...But he will never forget.
I am going to have him read todays posts when he is home from school. That was awesome advice and first hand understanding.
I am so very happy for you to have Dan. He sounds like a wonderful man. My DH and I had been together about 2 years when I had my accident...he stuck with me through 5 years of surgeries and rehab...I am very lucky to have him...he is a great father too.
I knew if I was ever in a serious accident - my ex would not have stayed around for the aftermath. If it was not something he signed up for than he would not have wanted it. Dan - I know would be there for annything and I him.
Reading about your PITA sister made me so angry for you. I only have a brother and if he acted like that, i would soooo kick his @$$ I think that your other sister and you talking to her councellor sounds like a very good idea. . I am sorry that Baylor was hurt by her attitude. Unfortunately, selfish people are just that selfish.
He lets it roll pretty easily but he was there when she called and still at dinner when we were half way done he asked if she was really not comming over. I think he was just so shocked she actually was not comming. We joked that "Hello what part of Mom and Karen fighting in the phone did you not get." He said, "I just thought she would come." I swear I wanted to put a hole in the wall then. Again a 13 year old gets what is important and at almost 30 she does not.
Kick boxing sounds fun!!

Esp if she was in front of me!


So today did my 1 hour H2) aerobics and then did salsa dancing in the water for a half hour too. Felt good to release some of this frusteration.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Ok so it totally took me like 5 minutes to figure out what pita sister meant. Seriously I was thinking what does pita bread have to do with people. I'm such a dumb a$$.
You would have really been a dumb@ss if you thought it was about the fur people.

Hope that made you feel better!
Now that I have figured it out... 10 minnutes later ... you have such a great family. Don't let her get you down. Just remember at least you aren't living in your mom's basement trying to blame everything on everyone.
So true!
Personally I would write her a heartfelt letter explaining how you feel and how Baylor felt when they didn't attend his celebration. That you didn't think it was necessary to alert her that her own family woul be there including the family member that she lives with.
Doing that tonight when every other sentence won't contain F-off.
She sounds like a mess.
Being the smart A$$ I am (thanks dad!) I would totally invite her to stuff just so I could invite a ton of other people and then go over board on the warning her of who would be there.
Ohhhh, that is soo good. I can e-mail it, text it, regular letter, I could even send a telegram to her work. This is on like Donkey Kong!
Anyway on with the show... don't you have a trip coming up??? Lucky you! Isn't there a rule that says you have to finish your trip report becfore you can go on another trip???

Yes I do and yes I am working on the last of AK. Then only like 2 days left I think. Maybe it was 3!

A good girlfriend would let her fiancee decide what to do for the vacation.

You have got the next one baby. As long as it is somewhere warm and has a beach and me in a chair and you with massage oil, grapes, loin cloth and a fan.

 

[Millie12591]

Can you be my real sister cause my youngest is a PITA. Would love to! Yesterday I had planned a big dinner for family and she called 2 hours before she was supposed to be here to tell me that she would appreciate from now on if I told her exactly which people were comming to my house. That she did not know my mom and other sister were going to be there - she thought just her. (Mind you she lives with my mom with Skyler and sees Laura all the time and the three of us were all together 2 weeks ago for Skyler's birthday so what the heck is the big deal.) She explained that she feels attacked when we are all together and she is working with her counselor on boundary issues. Hand to God, you could be talking about my PITA little sister! She's also in her 20's. She thinks that everyone else has to go out of their way and change to make her feel emotionally OK, a trait she learned well from my ex-stepmother. There will be no "bonus mom" props here!

I explained that this was for Baylor and was not about her so if she didn't want to come then don't. She said she did not know it was a big deal to Baylor and anything to acknowledge.

I said if she was not such a self-absorbed person than maybe she might understand him almost dying, a month in the hospital and a grueling recovery would be a hard anniversary for him. Maybe if she talked to him once in awhile she would know something about him. I think you and I were seperated at birth and your little sis and my little sis were too, they sound very much alike. I'm thinking it's the age, something about being in their 20's....was I this stupid and self centered in my 20's? Lord forgive me if I was.

She again went back to the boundaries and learning coping skills and what to do when she feels attacked. Did not even acknowledge Baylor at all.

Now if you are wondering why she uses the word attacked - I will tell you it is code for confronted and as a former social worker - I want to kick her counelor's @ss for giving her words she now uses as an out and to be a victim and to take no accountability for her choices.
Yup!!! Been there done that one a number of times, I was even asked by her to be the one to hold her accountable when she started acting like a little snit, but then told I'm attacking her when I did! LOL! She also snitted to our brother about me being a big ol' you know what because I don't let her have her way, my brother told her if she didn't like me giving her a hard time about her attitude.... "Then stop being around her!" (my bro and I grew up with the same parents, my sis has same dad as us)She said "No way! I like the drama!" My sis knows what she's doing....that's the saddest part.

Karen moved into my Mom's in the beginning of July. Moved 100% of her belongings there in the end of July. She pays like $200 to live there with her daughter, has 2 bedrooms in the basement as well as the living room downstairs to call her own. Laura and I and her were together in August and she said she was sick of Mom, Mom was so controlling...blah, blah, blah.
I agreed but told her she was doing Karen a huge favor and if she did not like Mom's rules or the way she ran her house than she can move. Karen said she could not afford to.

She also said, "Mom is not doing anything big for me," Whaaaa and when asked when she was planning on moving the stuff/organizing it from the garage so Mom can have it back to park in (she is 63 and it is her house ya know and that is one of Mom's complaints so we were trying to help her come up with ways to have things go more smoothly there that were in her control) Karen said, "It's not hurting her to park in the driveway."

So yeah, you 29 year old non-appreciative snot, when you act like a jerk, I am going to call you on it and if that means attacked in your vocabulary than put your military gear on cause I am going to start throwing grenades from a short range. Yea! What Dawn said!!! By the way, I'm stealing this line for when my sister goes here again. he he

Again, this was a subject on August 29th and not discussed since (I have said my peace and it is my Mom's to deal with if she chooses to) and we were all together on October 18th at a birthday party so WTHeck would I assume I needed to give her my atendees list or should I since it is my home. Not just no, but heck no! If she would have asked, I would have answered but she did not and now she is complaining to me?

So she did not come and Baylor was really hurt by her not comming and he loves his only cousin on my side and if she was standing here in front of me I would beat her with her counselor. Beating her about the head and shoulders with her own limbs work well too. I'm just sayin...

My sister Laura is also a LSW and we want in on her next counseling session to ask what kind of Voodoo a person tells someone else to make them think it is okay to behave the way she does. LSW? My guess is that she's learned a new language via counselor and is using it to her own advantage. It's the same thing my ex-stepmother use to do to me, almost word for word.

Soooory for the rant but I am so mad this morning still! Rant away woman! Your not bothering anyone here, <looking around> .....is she?

So - I am looking for a new sister and a better Aunt for my child. Me too! I think we could fullfill one anothers need for a new sis, and aunt for our kids. I really do appreciate your words and at the same time it is sad that someone reading this thread can be more compassionate than someone who lives 25 minutes away and is supposed to give a sh!t. Well, the words were from my heart, and your most welcome. I come from a loooong line of dysfunctionals so I know what you mean about people in the family needing a reality check. I'm here, there's a lot of others here as your fellow Dis sisters and brothers, hope we can fill that void for you until your other sister gets her poop-in-a-group.



What are you some kind of freak? Get your own man.


Comming from one of the guru's of this forumn that is such a huge compliment! Did you get through all the links of the thread and was Keeley home?

Off to water aerobics today to get rid of my anger munching from yesterday! Maybe I need to start up kick boxing!

Hope your day was better than your morning, I pray God gave you at least one thing to laugh about today.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Hope your day was better than your morning, I pray God gave you at least one thing to laugh about today.

LSW = Licensed Social Worker

I did have a great day with Baylor - as for funny - he asked what the next Holiday comming up was - I swear the kid will never learn a calendar - and Dan said, "I think Armistice Day."

Baylor said back, "Oh so it is the Day of the Jews?"

Dan and I were so confused.

We laughed and asked him to repeat back what he heard.

"Jewish Day," he said.

We laughed so hard and after we explained what Dan had actually said he thought what he had heard was better.