Did I do the right thing?...

[dodukes]

I feel terrible now that I found out that the event organizers want me to do the job instead of my friend but heres the backstory...

I met this person at this same event 2 years ago. I am friends with the event organizer and was down there just having a good time. Last year I went ahead and volunteered at the event and this led to me getting a job at another one of her events later that year. I was thrilled.

Problem begins this year, she offered me the job for this big event and normally I don't have a problem taking any events but I know that my friend (and I use that loosely because its more of an acquaintance but friendship solely on a business level) is usually the official person at this event. I got the word two days ago and I replied. Now the problem is that I don't want this person to feel like I was underhanded and took their job, so I went ahead and called him and spoke about the situation, said that I was uncomfortable not speaking to him because frankly I had been approached about the job, was thrilled to take it if he had turned it down but otherwise didn't want bad blood between any of the parties involved.

I mean how else to you begin this conversation. Anyway he spoke with them and they told him how they would like me to do this event this year and not him.

I feel terrible. Would you guys have called him at all? I mean he was bound to find out one way or another and I'd rather have him hear straight from me now rather than to assume I just took it from him (which I didn't and had no intentions to when I worked the other event last year, he was never part of the other event btw, I made sure to find that out before I took it).

While he doesnt really refer jobs to me, so I wouldn't be losing any money on that side, we do occasionally do fun jobs together as volunteers. I just wanted to see if others would have done the same or if I suffered from foot in mouth syndrome and should have jsut kept my mouth shut?

 

[mrsv98]

I feel terrible now that I found out that the event organizers want me to do the job instead of my friend but heres the backstory...

I met this person at this same event 2 years ago. I am friends with the event organizer and was down there just having a good time. Last year I went ahead and volunteered at the event and this led to me getting a job at another one of her events later that year. I was thrilled.

Problem begins this year, she offered me the job for this big event and normally I don't have a problem taking any events but I know that my friend (and I use that loosely because its more of an acquaintance but friendship solely on a business level) is usually the official person at this event. I got the word two days ago and I replied. Now the problem is that I don't want this person to feel like I was underhanded and took their job, so I went ahead and called him and spoke about the situation, said that I was uncomfortable not speaking to him because frankly I had been approached about the job, was thrilled to take it if he had turned it down but otherwise didn't want bad blood between any of the parties involved.

I mean how else to you begin this conversation. Anyway he spoke with them and they told him how they would like me to do this event this year and not him.

I feel terrible. Would you guys have called him at all? I mean he was bound to find out one way or another and I'd rather have him hear straight from me now rather than to assume I just took it from him (which I didn't and had no intentions to when I worked the other event last year, he was never part of the other event btw, I made sure to find that out before I took it).

While he doesnt really refer jobs to me, so I wouldn't be losing any money on that side, we do occasionally do fun jobs together as volunteers. I just wanted to see if others would have done the same or if I suffered from foot in mouth syndrome and should have jsut kept my mouth shut?

You were just trying to be honorable and that is never wrong. If he didn't get the job, that is between him and the even organizers and has nothing to do with you. Go and do a good job and have fun. The next time you see him, find something to talk about besides the event, treat it as a non-issue.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

You were just trying to be honorable and that is never wrong. If he didn't get the job, that is between him and the even organizers and has nothing to do with you. Go and do a good job and have fun. The next time you see him, find something to talk about besides the event, treat it as a non-issue.

I agree. I think you did the right thing. You were honest and it isn't your fault that they approached you. You didn't solicit them.