DH upset about no Party Invite

[Loverly]

So One of Dh's best clients(Building Contractor) just moved into their beautiful new office & he sent a gorgeous plant. They are one of his best clients, do lots of $$ with him and are very friendly with him-and he goes overboard giving them service



Yesterday, one of the girls at their office asked why he didn't come to their big Christmas Party Friday? that an Invitation was sent to DH's office.

Dh asked his Boss (Sales Manager)he Invitation came with only 3 names=

The president, Sales manager and DH's ASSISTANT (Who only does paperwork and phone calls with them-DH is the one who does all the work.


I have never seen DH this upset-and HURT.

I really wish he'd simply ask if it was an oversight (which i think it was) but he is really hurt.....

 

[alldiz]

I'm sure it was an oversight.....makes no sense that the assistant should be invited over him. He needs to just ask so he can feel better.
Seems obvious it was an oversight....if someone was asking where he was.
Kerri

 

[Stacerita]

It just sounds like an oversight.

 

[Bluestars]

It sounds like whoever addressed the invitation messed up big time. It doesn't make sense to invite the assistant and not him. Since one of the girls at their office asked him why he didn't come to the party, she must have thought he was invited.

The client may be wondering why he didn't go to the party. Maybe he can let the girl at the office know his name wasn't on the invitation. Surely she will pass that information on to her boss.

 

[JR6ooo4]

Sounds like on oversight by your husband's boss!!! Taking the assistant instead of the principal???

are they looking to move the assistant into his position? I hope not.

MIkeeee

 

[Micca]

It is indeed a bummer that he feels left out, I'm sorry to hear that.

I am confused about something though. Usually "the client" is the one who is treated to a party or gifts, or perks. Just wondering.

In any case, if he feels like he should have been invited and was looking forward to it, that's a shame. I hope he feels better soon and enjoys the holidays.

 

[pfishgirl]

I'm sorry your DH is upset about the invite..
It does sound like a slip up somewhere

 

[Loverly]

are they looking to move the assistant into his position? I hope not.

MIkeeee

Definitely not-DH is the Company's "Golden Boy"- his sales are more than all the rest of the Managers put together.

I just have never seen DH so bothered by something before....and I know it was an oversight

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Seems like if the others (boss, assistant, other person I don't remember) were all planning on going to the party they should have said something about it to your dh before the party. At least then he would have had the chance to put out feelers about his name being left off the invite. It was obviously an oversight. Your dh's boss should have had the good sense to investigate a little.

 

[C.Ann]

Sounds like an error to me as well.. Any way you can convince your DH of that? Maybe someone you could ask on the "sly"?

I'm sorry his feelings got hurt.. I can understand it being hard on him because he has such a good working relationship with these people..

 

[WDWBarb]

So One of Dh's best clients(Building Contractor) just moved into their beautiful new office & he sent a gorgeous plant. They are one of his best clients, do lots of $$ with him and are very friendly with him-and he goes overboard giving them service



Yesterday, one of the girls at their office asked why he didn't come to their big Christmas Party Friday? that an Invitation was sent to DH's office.

Dh asked his Boss (Sales Manager)he Invitation came with only 3 names=

The president, Sales manager and DH's ASSISTANT (Who only does paperwork and phone calls with them-DH is the one who does all the work.


I have never seen DH this upset-and HURT.

I really wish he'd simply ask if it was an oversight (which i think it was) but he is really hurt.....

The way that invitation was worded, I would say that perhaps DH received a separate invitation? I have seen one for the person they are closest to, and one for the rest of the people they work with (manager, assistant, etc).

 

[OceanAnnie]

Sounds like on oversight by your husband's boss!!! Taking the assistant instead of the principal???

are they looking to move the assistant into his position? I hope not.

MIkeeee

It is an outlandish "oversight"!!! I can see why your DH is bothered. I would be too! It makes you wonder about the boss and if there is something else about in his actions. That was just wrong!! A quick phone call by the boss would've corrected it. Why he didn't is beyond me. Oh, and why would the assistant go without him??? What kind of assistant would go without a thought or mention about her boss??? That's strange too. Hmmm. If it were me, I'd probably be looking for another assistant.

Strange. I hope your DH asks about it and sees for himself his bosses reaction. Oversight by the other company is one thing. "Oversight" by his boss is something else.

ETA- I am taking it for granted that all that were invited were on the same invite (or talked about prior to the event).

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds like on oversight by your husband's boss!!! Taking the assistant instead of the principal???

are they looking to move the assistant into his position? I hope not.

MIkeeee

That is a thought. Why wouldn't his boss get it straightened out...sounds fishy.

 

[Northstar]

Names on the invitation, including the assistant? And the people named on the invitation went and didn't say anything to your DH?

No way that was an oversight. If they forgot his name and remembered the assistant's, that's not an oversight, that's an insult. Your DH is right to be upset and needs to watch his back.

Let's hope the person who sent out the invitations has a "thing" for your DH's assistant and was doing a little maneuvering on his/her own to get the assistant invited... that's the best interpretation I could put on this.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Names on the invitation, including the assistant? And the people named on the invitation went and didn't say anything to your DH?

No way that was an oversight. If they forgot his name and remembered the assistant's, that's not an oversight, that's an insult. Your DH is right to be upset and needs to watch his back.

Let's hope the person who sent out the invitations has a "thing" for your DH's assistant and was doing a little maneuvering on his/her own to get the assistant invited... that's the best interpretation I could put on this.

Or maybe the OP's DH got a separate invite, the assistant and/ or boss didn't give it to him. I don't like to think that kind of thing. But the situation really smells.

The assistant going without your DH tosses it out of the "oversight" category to me.