DH just informed that this is our last year going to Disney

[momtoBrandon&Jacob]

Apparently, according to him, I spend way too much time on these boards and not enough time with him and the kids. Well excuse me, but I didn't realize that subscribing to the disboards, UG, and TGM is too much . Anyway, I know that he will thank me when we get to the parks and won't be one of those families with the "DUH" look on our face wondering which ride to tackle first, or where to have lunch and dinner, or what spots are good for the parades, or how to get from one place to another, or what rides I know our family will enjoy and which ones to skip, oh the list can go on and on and on...

 

[The Disney Bunch]

What is UG & TGM? I wanna know! Tell him fine -he doesn't have to go anymore but you will!

 

[Starr W.]

My DH drives all of us crazy with his plans, the boys wanted to leave him home for our MLK trip. It all works, but the umpteenth time he asks me if this schedule will work,

All I ask of him is to look at the hours and decide where we will be so I can make ADR's.

 

[momtoBrandon&Jacob]

What is UG & TGM? I wanna know! Tell him fine -he doesn't have to go anymore but you will!

LOL! TGM = Tour Guide Mike, UG = Unofficial Guide to Disney

 

[binky503]

Tell him to stay home and you wil take the boys. I have taken the girls because my husband could not go with us one year.

I love Disney to much and enjoyo seeing my girls eyes everytime we go.

 

[DawnM]

I am already seriously thinking next trip will be without DH! He drags us down! If you can't be as excited as the kids and I are, you can stay home.

Dawn

 

[becca011906]

how much time are you actully spending on the boards... you have almost as many post as i do and i've been here since '05!!!!! Take some time off a little maybe he'll chill! LOL

 

[graygables]

We go without hubby more than we do. If he starts whining about how he was eating ramen noodles while we were having filet mignon at Le Cellier I just and say, "You had your chance" If mine ever told me it would be my last trip, I'd tell him he'd just watched his last football game...you just have to find his "currency" and he'll back off.

 

[Merriwind]

Another vote for making it hubby's last trip, but not yours.

 

[funkbucket007]

how much time are you actully spending on the boards... you have almost as many post as i do and i've been here since '05!!!!! Take some time off a little maybe he'll chill! LOL

I was just about to say the same thing. Devil's advocate...maybe your husband isn't entirely wrong.

I've been a member since '01, have two amazing sons (5 years old & 16 months old), a wonderful wife, go to DW yearly & I still only have 109 posts.

 

[wardfamily1]

You should have made a Poll on this thread. I vote to leave the hubby home too!

 

[bumbershoot]

how much time are you actully spending on the boards... you have almost as many post as i do and i've been here since '05!!!!! Take some time off a little maybe he'll chill! LOL

It's possible I agree.

Since we got wireless on my laptop things are fine b/c the laptop can be wherever, and I can talk to people and type/read at the same time.

But ages ago ('01) when I was planning my wedding and researching and talking with other brides-to-be, I went a bit overboard. And it caused HUGE problems with then-future hubby. Unfortuately he couldn't communicate with me like your husband did, couldn't just ask me to taper off or stop for awhile...and we ended up breaking up quite dramatically over it. Over the course of that year we did work things through and figured out the communication, but it would have been nice for me to get some warning.

So..you might listen to what your hubby is saying, even though he's doing it obnoxiously ("this is our last disney" is a ridiculous statement, but if it means "I miss you and want you to rejoin us in the evenings and weekends" it's communication that should not be ignored) to stave off any huge fights or him truly going NO-disney.

Have fun on your trip! Be sure to point out all of the families staring at maps every time they get off rides, as you walk briskly to the next short-line attraction.

 

[dizcrazee]

I agree that the OP may want to evaluate how much time she is spending in the discussion boards and surfing TGM. Her hubby's comments are an indicator that it's time to back off a little, IMHO. It is easy to go overboard on this when planning a trip, and family members can begin to feel neglected. I know that it is fun to plan (I love it), but sometimes we have to pull back and remember what our true priorities are.

 

[ksumn1]

I agree that DH may be going a bit overboard with the "no more Disney Trips" stuff, but maybe he has a valid concern. If he's feeling left out or neglected, then take a break for a little while. Save all your trip planning stuff (preferred park days, touring plans, etc) to the computer instead of the viewing them on the Internet. Then encourage him and the kids to "help" plan. Which meals...which days, which day do you want to stay at the resort and swim...that kind of stuff. Alsao, remind DH that this is a big trip, lots of planning, and that once your trip is over he will have yout undivided attention. Until the next trip, that is...

Also, remind him of all the footbal games, sporting crap that he does either alone or "with the boys" and see if that evens the score a little bit. Example, No more Disney for me...no more sports for you. I bet he'll change his tune, seeing as how the Superbowl is coming up soon!

 

[peyjax]

I am sorry I laughed so hard when I read the OP post. My husband says the same thing and we are not even planning a trip right now. LOL When he does make those comments I will back off a bit and then get my fix when he is not looking or I remind him how much football and basketball he watches. It is easy to get hooked on these boards.

I will caution you though that I did spend too much time on here right before our two week trip and it definatly affected it. I had certain expectations and had read so much that it left little up to the imagination when I got there. I would say don't over plan and feel like you have to know everything, some of the fun is getting there and learning for yourself. I had a blast on my first trip and had never even heard of these boards until my 3rd trip. Now I come here to get my Disney fix.

 

[jeremysdisneymom]

Apparently, according to him, I spend way too much time on these boards and not enough time with him and the kids. Well excuse me, but I didn't realize that subscribing to the disboards, UG, and TGM is too much . Anyway, I know that he will thank me when we get to the parks and won't be one of those families with the "DUH" look on our face wondering which ride to tackle first, or where to have lunch and dinner, or what spots are good for the parades, or how to get from one place to another, or what rides I know our family will enjoy and which ones to skip, oh the list can go on and on and on...

My husband said that after the first trip, then the second trip, and I found a new strategy with the upcoming. We are going when the parks are decorated for Christmas. We have never been at this time. He makes the comments about my obsession with the boards and reading the tour guide books but actually thinks it is cute! Contrary to what others on here have said, you are the only person who knows if you are on too much or not. I might look at the board for several hours on a Sunday afternoon but he may be watching a movie or the race come February so he does not "really" want me to bother him. My son will look at the trip reports with me and finds that to be fun. I want to take my son in 2009 to the MNSSHP and I have decided that if he does not want to go, we will go solo. We got stuck last year having to fly the two of us alone due to some airline mixups and we were fine. I feel comfortable taking him by myself.

Oh, and by the way, I also read Fodors, Birbaums (I think that is right) and Zagats Survey in addition to the ones you mentioned so you are not alone!

 

[momtoBrandon&Jacob]

I was just about to say the same thing. Devil's advocate...maybe your husband isn't entirely wrong.

I've been a member since '01, have two amazing sons (5 years old & 16 months old), a wonderful wife, go to DW yearly & I still only have 109 posts.

Hey, stop making me look so bad ! Ok, I do see your point though. It's just that if I didn't do all the planning we'd be up a creek if you catch my drift. Actually, most of the time I spend on these boards is at work.

 

[momtoBrandon&Jacob]

Tell him to stay home and you wil take the boys. I have taken the girls because my husband could not go with us one year.

I love Disney to much and enjoyo seeing my girls eyes everytime we go.

You know what, I would love to do this but I can't imagine going by myself with 2 kids (5 & 6) and lugging them around as well as all our stuff, luggage, etc. Maybe when they're a bit older I will do that and take my mom along. Now that sounds like a plan!

 

[karajeboo]

Not only is the planning half the fun, it definitely makes a HUGE difference once you get there! I'm fortunate that DH enjoys the planning as much as I do. He's reading menus, trying to figure out how to get the most "bang" for the buck with the dining plan, etc. The first time we ever went to Disney as a couple, he read UG cover to cover!!! Then kept quizzing me! Although this trip I have become addicted to the Disign thread and I've made way too many shirts, autograph books, car magnets, journals, etc. I keep joking that this trip will be followed by divorce if I don't stop!

 

[dreamalittledream]

Apparently, according to him, I spend way too much time on these boards and not enough time with him and the kids. Well excuse me, but I didn't realize that subscribing to the disboards, UG, and TGM is too much . Anyway, I know that he will thank me when we get to the parks and won't be one of those families with the "DUH" look on our face wondering which ride to tackle first, or where to have lunch and dinner, or what spots are good for the parades, or how to get from one place to another, or what rides I know our family will enjoy and which ones to skip, oh the list can go on and on and on...

wait, I didn't type this? DH said the almost exact same thing to me but told me it would be 5 years until our next trip. He is always complaining about the Mouse getting more attention. I just tell him "sure honey" pay a him a little extra attention and keep my planning to myself for a while.

When we get to WDW, he looks to me to have all the awnsers, I discovered he doesn't really care WHERE or HOW I get them, and I don't really care if he thanks me. Knowing I made the vacation the best it could be is thanks enough.