DH confused: DD-14 has no date...

[Caradana]

The post above by Pixiedust23 cracked me up, because she's completely right. My sister and I taught my brother how to dance before his 8th grade formal. "Bob, Gregie, Bob. Arms slightly bent but relaxed. It's all in the hips." Ha ... he gets home from the dance. "Greg, did you dance?" "No, none of the other guys knew how, so we all just stood there." "Did you slow dance?" "Yea, I touched her butt once." "GREGIE!!!!!!!"

From what I can tell, Dads walk this interesting tightrope: fall off one side, and it's "why hasn't any guy asked my daughter to the dance?" Fall off the other, and it's "if he even has a naughty thought within five feet of her, I'm warming up the table saw in our backyard shed."

I'm sure she'll have fun at the dance. Good luck to all of you!

 

[pw2pp]

Okay..... I guess I understand a little better now that I've read some of the other posts, such as this one.......

DH is just worried. He doesn't want his little girl not feeling pretty, polpular, etc.

It makes more sense to me now.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

You know, I am one of those people who say kids need to be kids as long as they can. If she does not have a date and it does not bother her then your DH should be HAPPY!! Why would he want some pimpley faced adolescent with a with a cracking voice to even go near his beautiful daughter? Yes I am an over protective mother but I am also a teacher and I KNOW what middle school boys are like. They are MUCH worse than high school boys and do not let the age or the cute demeanor fool you! I could relate stories of the 14 and under set in my school system that would curl your hair for the rest of your life. If you ask me no date is a blessing not a curse at this age.
IF your daughter is not upset then your DH should be thrilled.

Oh and I HAVE two teenage boys of my own so I am not predjudice.

 

[smiley]

My son is at the other end of the spectrum. He is 15 years old and about 5'4" tall. The funny thing is that girls' heights don't seem to bother him at all. In fact, his last girlfriend was about 5'10" tall. One of these days maybe they'll catch up to each other.

 

[christineann]

I hope she is not bothered by her height. My daughter just turned 17 and is 6'2" and was 6' on her 12th birthday. She used to be very self conscious about it, but then she discovered basketball, which has given her self confidence. She is still taller than most of the boys in her class, but it doesn't bother her at all.

The kids go in groups to the dances, and they seem to have a lot more fun. Her "date" to the semi informal this year was a friend who is 5'6".

 

[alliecats]

Sounds like a good daddy.

Your DD is so pretty, probably the boys are afraid to ask her because they think they don't have a chance. They'll grow into some courage soon!

 

[Kallison]

Seriously tell him to back off, there is nothing wrong with a girl your daughter's age not having a date. My Mom used to bug me about dating, it made me really uncomfortable, I clinged to the first guy to pay attention to me, he was horrible and I lost my virginity to the jerk. Part of the reason was wanting to be a couple like everyone else, and my Mom's attitude didn't help.

 

[Kallison]

Also ditto to what Belle of the ball said -- I also work in a middle school, I 100 percent agree with her assessment.

 

[Wendy1953]

Don't fret, and tell your DH to relax! My 22 year old DD did not have a date for the 8th grade dance either....she's dated a few "boys" since then...she's on the other end of the yard stick...5'1".....she's a beautiful girl, just like yours! If she's not upset about not having a date, why is DOD? He should count his blessings.....when she does have a date, he'll be wishing she didn't....MEN...THEY JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND!

 

[belle_of_the_ball]

dont worry about it. At my 8th grade formal last year i went date less..it included dancing w/ a bunch of my guy friends (one of which it turned out he liked me and now we are dating), hanging w/ my friends, and dancing w/ all my friends. I didnt mind going dateless. My dad was p.oed but now hes all "youre too young to date!" Daddies! they can be so confusing!

 

[Megster]

Out of all my high school dances I always had the most fun when I didn't have a date. You didn't have to worry about making sure someone else was having a good time too. If she's not worried then I wouldn't make a big deal about it!

OT: but what happened to her homecoming date?

 

[CherCrazy]

My very pretty DD who is 6'2" did not go to her senior prom with a date. I admit I was mildly upset by her not having a date, but I tried to be a cool mom and not focus on that. She had a great time and partied with her friends (male & female). I know she had more fun than her older brother, who's date for his senior prom was such a witch and made him have a miserable time.

If I could figure out how to post her picture, I would.