dh cancelling on me..

[Disney_1984]

lol, if my girl tried this on me id get well suspicious... as someone said how much you really gonna save? Id think she was playing away from home... maybe thats just me.

 

[ilovejack02]

lol, if my girl tried this on me id get well suspicious... as someone said how much you really gonna save? Id think she was playing away from home... maybe thats just me.

She said its not really how much he will save its how much he wont be making since he owns his own buisness and wont be making money while he is gone. No vacation pay when you are your own boss. Not us all of us are that suspicous about are spouse lol

 

[dana1003]

lol, if my girl tried this on me id get well suspicious... as someone said how much you really gonna save? Id think she was playing away from home... maybe thats just me.

yeah i hate to say it but for a second it crossed my mind..but we really are straining right now..hes a custom bike painter so you dont get paid until the bike is finished and that could mean 3 weeks w/no income. i just had a talk w/him-tears and everything-that we never get allot of family time and that was one week i was looking forward to all uf us being toghether.

if you saw the way he went to work-paint in his hair,clothes, nails-i cant see a woman fawning over that!

 

[dana1003]

What I am about to say is not in any way to be taken as an attack on DH, just an obsevation from someone who has been with a daughter... Here it goes...

If hubby is Ok with not going and you've got family with you - go for it!!! Unfortunately, I think he will regret this more than he realizes because for years to come one of your girls will say "You remember when we...." and he won't be able to nod and smile. We went in June 2004 when my DD was 4 and she still talks about it, almost weekly. The magic is just great.

Like I said, I don't mean anything negative, just something to think about.

yeah i just get worried that one day they'll be looking back at those pics and be like"where's dad?- oh he had to work. but then again- look at all those guys overseas, i mean the family has to continue doing what they do and they dont see each other for a year or more. i guess a week away really isnt that bad.

 

[angipoo]

yeah i just get worried that one day they'll be looking back at those pics and be like"where's dad?- oh he had to work. but then again- look at all those guys overseas, i mean the family has to continue doing what they do and they dont see each other for a year or more. i guess a week away really isnt that bad.

That is one way to think about it.

 

[crzyred]

ok one question, didn't plan this trip to be a "family vacation"? if you did then not having your dh be there wouldn't make it much a family vacation. bu that's just my opinion i guess. if it were me, there's no way i'd go without him even if we have been planning for a while and things are paid for. Also i'm wondering if you ever asked your children about this. it just may happen that your children might say they don't want to go if he isn't there. you may all be sad/depressed about not going now, but when you ALL get to go together at some point and time it will be so much better, in my opinion, than leaving a major member of the family behind, even if he did offer.

 

[noodleknitter]

lol, if my girl tried this on me id get well suspicious... as someone said how much you really gonna save? Id think she was playing away from home... maybe thats just me.

Wow, I'm sorry to hear you are dating such a girl...

OP, I hope you work out something that works for all of you. Maybe you can budget, and show him the cost issues.

 

[dana1003]

ok one question, didn't plan this trip to be a "family vacation"? if you did then not having your dh be there wouldn't make it much a family vacation. bu that's just my opinion i guess. if it were me, there's no way i'd go without him even if we have been planning for a while and things are paid for. Also i'm wondering if you ever asked your children about this. it just may happen that your children might say they don't want to go if he isn't there. you may all be sad/depressed about not going now, but when you ALL get to go together at some point and time it will be so much better, in my opinion, than leaving a major member of the family behind, even if he did offer.

i agree..him sprining this on me is kinda like huh? he wasnt really into to begin with but was going cuz everyone else was...and my twins are only 3..they probably wouldnt notice..but yes i think thats the whole point of going on a "family" vaca so that the "family" can be together.

 

[KirstenB]

I wouldn't go without him. DD and I went one time without DH. It was a free trip with my parents, and DH was too booked up at work. We went for 4 days, and I didn't have nearly as much fun. Everytime I saw something cool, I literally turned around to look at my DH to see if he saw it too. Then I'd remember he wasn't there. Seriously bummed me out. We've been married a long time, too, so it wasn't like we were newlyweds. I'd think he'd really miss you all while you were gone too.

Finally, I can't believe it's going to make a huge difference moneywise if he bows out. Maybe he'd prefer to postpone the trip altogether, but just can't disappoint you all. I could totally see my DH doing this if money were tight.

 

[dana1003]

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I wouldn't go without him. DD and I went one time without DH. It was a free trip with my parents, and DH was too booked up at work. We went for 4 days, and I didn't have nearly as much fun. Everytime I saw something cool, I literally turned around to look at my DH to see if he saw it too. Then I'd remember he wasn't there. Seriously bummed me out. We've been married a long time, too, so it wasn't like we were newlyweds. I'd think he'd really miss you all while you were gone too.

Finally, I can't believe it's going to make a huge difference moneywise if he bows out. Maybe he'd prefer to postpone the trip altogether, but just can't disappoint you all. I could totally see my DH doing this if money were tight.

yeah we've been married a long time also,11 years, and our girls are 3. but your right, i always look for him when we're out doing something. i have lots of fun w/my parents also but it just makes it complete when you can all be together.

 

[java]

Why is your brother in your room? Could that be his issue? Because without your brother you could do a regular room and save $$. I can't believe how much they are charging for those suites. You could be staying at the WL in a regular room for that price- hey even with the 5 of you I think. I know you can do 5 in GF and Poly And Cont. But I guess what stood out to me is that your parents are having their own room and you will have a room full. And does DH love spending time with your family. Maybe to him this wasn't a "family trip" because your family is going. He figured you have more than enough other people to have fun with you don't need him.
So that is my computer psychological interpretation of the situation. Probably totally off base but just another way of looking at it.

 

[disnutt]

Why is your brother in your room? Could that be his issue? Because without your brother you could do a regular room and save $$. I can't believe how much they are charging for those suites. You could be staying at the WL in a regular room for that price- hey even with the 5 of you I think. I know you can do 5 in GF and Poly And Cont. But I guess what stood out to me is that your parents are having their own room and you will have a room full. And does DH love spending time with your family. Maybe to him this wasn't a "family trip" because your family is going. He figured you have more than enough other people to have fun with you don't need him.
So that is my computer psychological interpretation of the situation. Probably totally off base but just another way of looking at it.

That's just what I was going to ask. I love my brother but if I were really going on a family trip I'd want him in the room w/ my parents. You could get 2 connecting rooms if you still want to be close to them and the room would be cheaper.

Good luck!

 

[mikesmom]

I'd cancel the dining. That is a LOAD of food. Unless you are all big eaters, it will be too much food, and too much time spent in restaurants. Particularly with kids that young, sharing things from Counter service in the parks will be a lot less. Plus with the suite you can do breakfast in the room.