DH addicted to Blackberry

[dismom2005]

And while I used to think it was kind of funny and joke about how much he was on it, it is becoming a real problem with our relationship and his ability to essentially work 24/7. He has the tendency to be a workaholic and has taken on a new 12-18 month project at his job, but lately he is just so disconnected from me and i've even accused him of cheating because he's on it so late at night, takes it into the bathroom the minute he wakes up, etc.

I am obviously not the first person to be dealing with this issue so i'd like to know how others handle it and what they've done to "disconnect" and spend more time with the family and less time at work.

 

[ols386]

I haven't been in that situation, but that would bug me also. You said he is a workaholic, and that's probably why he's on it so much, especially if he's working on a big project, but my mind is somewhat suspicious, and I would also wonder if he were having an affair.

 

[DMickey28]

My dh used to be like that. I dont know if he got better at it or I got used to it. Have you sat down and talked to him about it? Maybe he doesnt even realize how much he is on it. Do you have any other reason to suspect an affair? I was honestly never worried about that with my dh but i can see how it would happen. My Dh would give me hisBB when driving to check emails ans wouldnt care if i scrolled through. We started going on cruises because back then theBB didnt workout at sea. Good Luck.

 

[ksjayhawks]

My dh used to be bad about it when he first got his.

I talked with him about it and told him while I understood how exciting it could be to not miss messages and be in contact at any time with people at work, it was also very annoying and disrespectful when we were talking or spending time together, were with others, etc and he was constantly checking it and answering every message!

I think it finally dawned on him that it was probably not life or death and he had survived without it before. Now he puts it down when he is home--we all do. We all check our phones occasionally and do not feel compelled to answer every single email, text, etc that comes in unless it is urgent!

Talk to him--be calm--as much as it takes until he realizes what it is doing to your relationship and life.

 

[Robmom]

That's why they nickname them Crackberries.

 

[Jsme]

HAHA, to the PP I was going to say that one of my student's mom has a crackberry. lol Her mom looks at it even in Church. Sorry to the OP. I have the same issues at times with the Xbox.

 

[Boo'sMom]

that's why they nickname them crackberries.

mte

 

[Diva of Dragons]

It drives me nuts that people have to have their devices in eye view, all the time. I think it's important to be really present in the situation you are in and with the people you are with.

You need to have a talk with him. DH and I really try to live by the whole work to live, not live to work idea. You two probably need to reassess your shared values, and what you want your lifestyle to be, in this new digital age. he might really not realize how much he's really missing out on.

Good luck!