Detention w/ one student and one teacher?

[luvmy3]

LOL, true. The schools could start requiring parents to accompany their child to detention and sit in the room with them. It would cover the third party rule to ensure nothing inappropriate happened and I bet the kid would think twice before getting detention again!!

I spent enough of my own school years in detention, I don't need to do be doing that again

 

[golfgal]

No, that's stupid. If my kids get detention, they need to do the time. Period. The end.

A lot of schools do this with kids with chronic behavior problems. I don't see anything wrong with doing this. It also holds the parents responsible for making sure their child behaves--which IS your job.

 

[blana]

I know when my parents were teaching, my dad would have asked another teacher to come into the room for HIS protection in that situation. (My brothers were regularly drafted to ride along when he had to take out a female student in drivers ed on the weekends, just to have a witness for HIM.) Otherwise, he'd have stood in the doorway, with the student at her desk.

 

[CF'er]

If it were a woman teacher and male student would you all feel the same way? These days female teachers with male students isn't unheard of.

I am not sure what our school policy is. I would say as a CYA having 2 adults present might be a good idea.

 

[krcit]

Yes, and it is really, really sad that you even have to ask this question. I just love how people jump to conclusions that anyone that works with kids is automatically a pedophile . For the TEACHER'S protection, that door will be open at all times and the student will be sitting in a place where he or she can be seen from the hallway though.

I think you're the one doing the jumping here. My first thought when I read the OP was "I hope that they wouldn't put a teacher in that position." is it sad that teachers have to worry about being falsely accused? Absolutely. It is a real shame but it is what it is. Just read the papers and see how many women/girls have falsely accused men of rape or inappropriate conduct and ruined their lives. I would not want my DH or any man to be put in that position.

 

[luvsJack]

The only other solution (besides requiring parents, which on the surface sounds good but would be very hard to enforce for every parent) would be to always have two teachers present. Our school doesn't do after school detention. They have break detention or activity period detention (no PE, music, etc.) or ISS. Any detention is spent with the teacher that gave them the detention and of course the door is open and the other teachers are in and out of the rooms all the time--as this is their planning/break time also.

We had a very good coach that was lost to another school because of an accusation like this. It wasn't detention but he gave several basketball players rides home after basketball practice. He was just being a good man and a good coach to these kids and a known crazy woman (literally) accused him of planning to do something (not actually doing anything) with her daughter. So it is not even always the kid.

 

[happygirl]

A lot of schools do this with kids with chronic behavior problems. I don't see anything wrong with doing this. It also holds the parents responsible for making sure their child behaves--which IS your job.

ITA Lets try some parental responsbility

 

[princessmom29]

No, that's stupid. If my kids get detention, they need to do the time. Period. The end.

It is not stupid. In some places it is necessary to have parents inconvinenced by coming to the school to get any help form them at all correcting poor behavior. We require a parent to come to the school for a post-suspension conference in order for a child to be readmitted to school. That way we KNOW that the parent is aware that their child was suspended from school, and the reason. I whish parents had to show up for detention. Many of our students will forge signatures on suspension/detention paperwork, and parents either don't have phones or will not answer them when the school calls. Many of them don't want to be bothered when thier child is in trouble, and some care but never know the child had detention because we cannot reach them. Requiring them to come to the school means that we are assured that they are aware of thier child's behavior at school.

 

[krcit]

It is not stupid. In some places it is necessary to have parents inconvinenced by coming to the school to get any help form them at all correcting poor behavior. We require a parent to come to the school for a post-suspension conference in order for a child to be readmitted to school. That way we KNOW that the parent is aware that their child was suspended from school, and the reason. I whish parents had to show up for detention. Many of our students will forge signatures on suspension/detention paperwork, and parents either don't have phones or will not answer them when the school calls. Many of them don't want to be bothered when thier child is in trouble, and some care but never know the child had detention because we cannot reach them. Requiring them to come to the school means that we are assured that they are aware of thier child's behavior at school.

 

[Tinkh]

My 13-year old niece was caught sneaking in her house in the early morning hours. After hysterical pleas, threats and cajoling it out of her we discovered she was with her 26 almost 27 year-old teacher. He had picked her and her friend up two other times from the friend's house. Then, he talked my niece into meeting him at the corner around from their house where he drove them to his apartment. She still to this day swears they did not have sex and "just made out". We found her ipod touch where he had taught her at school how to text him from. There were over 13,000 texts he had sent her. He had contacted her on MySpace with a fake name etc that they used another student's name as his cover. This teacher has been let go from the district, BUT his lawyer has worked with the prosecuters and the charges are now 5 counts of enticement. He will NOT have to register as a sex offender since these charges do not require that. This man WILL be free to have more relations with young girls. A month after he was arrested he made a wishlist on Amazon and every thing he asked for were books about forbidden loves with teenage girls and their immortal lovers. This guy is an amazingly hot and educated young man. All the girls thought he was amazing and had big crushes on him. He got to my niece and her best friend. How many more will be next or already have been his victim. My niece is in counseling and will be probably for years to come. He convinced her they were like Edward and Bella and in love... all the while he was trying to get her best friend to talk dirty to him. PERVS DO EXIST.. in every profession. I used to be the one to say do not ever question the teachers etc. Bull. Question everything. Do not assume your children are safe. Sucks for the people that are NOT like this, but this man who has destroyed our family walks the streets everyday and WILL be in a classroom again one day. Just not in the state of Ohio.. I would request that other children be present whether it was my son or my niece. Can happen to either gender and a teacher should be wanting to have that peace of mind that they can not be accused of somethig either. There are kids that have been known to do try and make up things. Nothing good can come out of one on one alone time for either the teacher or the student. Schedule the detention when their are multiple kids or another teacher will be present.

 

[jrmasm]

A lot of schools do this with kids with chronic behavior problems. I don't see anything wrong with doing this. It also holds the parents responsible for making sure their child behaves--which IS your job.

The key word is chronic and that isn't what this thread is about. The question is about an opposite sex teacher in charge of only one student in detention.

And let's not forget, children sometimes make bad choices DESPITE what their parents taught them.

 

[jrmasm]

It is not stupid. In some places it is necessary to have parents inconvinenced by coming to the school to get any help form them at all correcting poor behavior. We require a parent to come to the school for a post-suspension conference in order for a child to be readmitted to school. That way we KNOW that the parent is aware that their child was suspended from school, and the reason. I whish parents had to show up for detention. Many of our students will forge signatures on suspension/detention paperwork, and parents either don't have phones or will not answer them when the school calls. Many of them don't want to be bothered when thier child is in trouble, and some care but never know the child had detention because we cannot reach them. Requiring them to come to the school means that we are assured that they are aware of thier child's behavior at school.

One random detention does not mean the kid is a problem kid. Again, sometimes kids make bad choices. And a lot of times they learn from the consequences. When they don't and the problem is chronic or results in suspension that it's a whole different story and parents should be notified. If a kid repeatedly skips their assigned detentiont then I can seen requiring a parent to come with them. But once? No way. That's stupid.


Back to the orginal topic, I think it's safe to assume that at every MS and HS across the country there is detention on a daily basis. Some with lots of kids, some with a few or one. I would also assume that the chances of something 'happening' are incredibly small.

This simply not something I would worry about.