Detention w/ one student and one teacher?

[ADisneyQueen]

Is this normal for middle school to have an afterschool detention in the classroom with one student (female) and a male teacher? I would think they would be worried about a situation developing. And this is not a serious formal detention, just regular if a student is late, is talking in class, throwing food, that sort of thing. Does your school do this?

 

[kamik86]

My school did. The reason is that the things you mentioned were often not thought of as serious enough for a full formal detetion. Teacher detention was only 15-20 min. most of the time. Formal detention was 45 min. long. So most students preferred teacher detentions. And yes I had a few where I was the only student. I also had a few where there with others (the people who joined me in talking all during class most of the time)

Then again I was in middle school over 10 years ago so their may be more strict policies on this now.

 

[happygirl]

Is this normal for middle school to have an afterschool detention in the classroom with one student (female) and a male teacher? I would think they would be worried about a situation developing. And this is not a serious formal detention, just regular if a student is late, is talking in class, throwing food, that sort of thing. Does your school do this?

Yes, It would be normal here. What they do here is each week there is a different teacher each week that does detention. So if there is one or twenty that is the teacher that has detention that week.

 

[Tink888]

Normal here too. The teachers have a rotation of detention duty.

Detention is about punishing the student for wrongdoing whether it's one student or twenty. The school doesn't wait until it has a pool of students to give the punishment to.

 

[golfgal]

Yes, and it is really, really sad that you even have to ask this question. I just love how people jump to conclusions that anyone that works with kids is automatically a pedophile . For the TEACHER'S protection, that door will be open at all times and the student will be sitting in a place where he or she can be seen from the hallway though.

 

[luvmy3]

Is your issue with the fact that its a male teacher with a female student and they would be alone?

 

[ADisneyQueen]

Yes, that situation. I would think the school would do something to protect their teachers from a lawsuit, like requireing them to keep the door open. At our school there is not a certain room you go to for detention each day. Whoever gives the detention has to keep that student afterschool in their own room.

 

[mhsjax]

Yes, and it is really, really sad that you even have to ask this question. I just love how people jump to conclusions that anyone that works with kids is automatically a pedophile . For the TEACHER'S protection, that door will be open at all times and the student will be sitting in a place where he or she can be seen from the hallway though.

Why do you assune she is thinking that the teacher is a pedophile. Kids are crazy sometimes, I have seen more than one kids try to get something started about an adult that they don't like. If I was a male teacher, there is no way that I would put myself in that position, I don't care if the door is open. Where I went to school, there were no doors on individual classrooms. you had mod, which contained 6 pods(individual classrooms). A person would have no way of seeing what was going on in the back room. So a teacher could try something, or a kid could lie about something that didn't happen. I don't know why anyone would put themselves in that position.

 

[ADisneyQueen]

Golfgal- I think it is sad that you are jumping to the conclusion that I thinking only about the student. Not all schools require doors to be open and some of the rules are not enforced so the teachers can be the ones that end up in a bad situation.

 

[golfgal]

Why do you assune she is thinking that the teacher is a pedophile. Kids are crazy sometimes, I have seen more than one kids try to get something started about an adult that they don't like. If I was a male teacher, there is no way that I would put myself in that position, I don't care if the door is open. Where I went to school, there were no doors on individual classrooms. you had mod, which contained 6 pods(individual classrooms). A person would have no way of seeing what was going on in the back room. So a teacher could try something, or a kid could lie about something that didn't happen. I don't know why anyone would put themselves in that position.

History on this board, plain and simple.

 

[Tink888]

Yes, that situation. I would think the school would do something to protect their teachers from a lawsuit, like requireing them to keep the door open. At our school there is not a certain room you go to for detention each day. Whoever gives the detention has to keep that student afterschool in their own room.

Respectfully, what difference does it make whether or not there's a designated room? All of the rooms are going to have doors.

I have to agree with Golfgal. It's sad that it's come to this in society where schools can no longer discipline kids without a huge protocol to avoid lawsuits.

A better solution might be for kids to just follow the rules, making the need for detention obsolete.

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Why do you assune she is thinking that the teacher is a pedophile. Kids are crazy sometimes, I have seen more than one kids try to get something started about an adult that they don't like. If I was a male teacher, there is no way that I would put myself in that position, I don't care if the door is open. Where I went to school, there were no doors on individual classrooms. you had mod, which contained 6 pods(individual classrooms). A person would have no way of seeing what was going on in the back room. So a teacher could try something, or a kid could lie about something that didn't happen. I don't know why anyone would put themselves in that position.

I have witnessed this firsthand with a good friend of mine. Luckily he had enough evidence, including the 'failing' grade he was going to give the girl, to prove she was nothing more than an elaborate liar. Unfortunately, though, the investigation still left a mark on him, and I'm sure some parents who never heard the whole story still worry (which is a shame.).

 

[luvmy3]

Yes, that situation. I would think the school would do something to protect their teachers from a lawsuit, like requireing them to keep the door open. At our school there is not a certain room you go to for detention each day. Whoever gives the detention has to keep that student afterschool in their own room.

I'm guessing most schools would have some sort of rule about what to do, like keep the door open, but in general there wouldn't be any restrictions of having a teacher of one sex alone with a student of the opposite.

I don't think anyone just assumes that a male teacher is a pedophile, but there should be a policy in place for the school to protect all parties from harm and/or false accusations, no matter what gender the teacher and student are.

 

[luvmy3]

Respectfully, what difference does it make whether or not there's a designated room? All of the rooms are going to have doors.

I have to agree with Golfgal. It's sad that it's come to this in society where schools can no longer discipline kids without a huge protocol to avoid lawsuits.

A better solution might be for kids to just follow the rules, making the need for detention obsolete.

That will never happen.

 

[mhsjax]

Respectfully, what difference does it make whether or not there's a designated room? All of the rooms are going to have doors.

I have to agree with Golfgal. It's sad that it's come to this in society where schools can no longer discipline kids without a huge protocol to avoid lawsuits.

A better solution might be for kids to just follow the rules, making the need for detention obsolete.

Again, this could be about protecting the teacher not the student. As I stated above, my school didn't have doors. So no they DON"T all have doors. YOu guys talk as if you know the exact layout of the school. I don't know weather or not she is talking about her kid and weather or not she should be punished. I think I would be questioning the same thing if my hubby was a teacher. And yes it is sad, but it is the way the world works and like I stated there is no way that I would put myself in that position if I were a male teacher. Also this is after school, doors open or not, Just how many people do you think wander the halls after school. I can tell you from my experience, not many, so any lie that a student made up could be damaging.

 

[mhsjax]

I have witnessed this firsthand with a good friend of mine. Luckily he had enough evidence, including the 'failing' grade he was going to give the girl, to prove she was nothing more than an elaborate liar. Unfortunately, though, the investigation still left a mark on him, and I'm sure some parents who never heard the whole story still worry (which is a shame.).

Same here, and same situation.

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Same here, and same situation.

My friend was a few years older than me, and I was still in school studying to become a Secondary History Teacher. Because of what he had to go through, I actually decided to switch my studies to I.T. It's sad to think that, because some students out there have new weapons to ruin teachers they don't like, there are people like me deciding not to enter the profession.

 

[Tink888]

That will never happen.

LOL, true. The schools could start requiring parents to accompany their child to detention and sit in the room with them. It would cover the third party rule to ensure nothing inappropriate happened and I bet the kid would think twice before getting detention again!!

 

[mhsjax]

LOL, true. The schools could start requiring parents to accompany their child to detention and sit in the room with them. It would cover the third party rule to ensure nothing inappropriate happened and I bet the kid would think twice before getting detention again!!

I think that is an excellent idea.

 

[jrmasm]

I think that is an excellent idea.

No, that's stupid. If my kids get detention, they need to do the time. Period. The end.