DD has a former boyfriend that showed abusive tendencies and they broke up over it. (Not DGD's birth father.... she is a magnet for guys that are controlling in nature because she has a dependent nature..... sigh.......) They have not been an "item" for over a year.
Whenever this guy broke up with a girlfriend, he tried to come back to her. He knew that we did not allow contact so he calls her on her cell when she is not around us (like right after school, during school ball games, etc...) She is a Senior and he is out of school. He was expelled last year, his Senior year, for fighting and is not in school this year.
When other girlfriends has broken up with him, he has done things like called & came to their homes at all hours of the day & night, paint-balled a car, spread lies about them, etc.... He has not done these things with our DD because he knews we will agressively & legally pursue him. The other parents were just glad to get rid of him.
His agressive tendencies have dramatically increased. He knows that he is not to talk to her but he suddenly appeared in the school parking lot after school yesterday. He was blocking her car. He stared at her and didn't say a word. She yelled at him for being there and he still didn't way a word. Other kids were there and he left after a few minutes.
Three of the kids saw his gun sitting openly on the front seat.
Today, I was in the parking lot but he did not return. The principal was not there today but I'm sure that actions will be taken. He has not business on school property for any reason and firearms are not allowed.
This is scary stuff. He did not technically harrass her. He knows just how to not cross that legal line. He is a master at provoking others to make the first move. While is it true that he broke the school rules about firearms and being on the premises without a cause, he did not do enough to our DD for any legal action. (Our attorney is a retired judge, so he knows what is crossing the line.)
Now we have to worry about her when she is just out driving to friends, to school, and to her DD's daycare. A couple of weeks ago, he pulled up at a stoplight next to one of DD's good, guy friends. He pointed the gun at her friends, laughed, and drove off. If he drives up beside her and shows the gun, especially if her DD is with her, she will become frantic and who knows what could happen.
This is very, very scary stuff.
Whenever this guy broke up with a girlfriend, he tried to come back to her. He knew that we did not allow contact so he calls her on her cell when she is not around us (like right after school, during school ball games, etc...) She is a Senior and he is out of school. He was expelled last year, his Senior year, for fighting and is not in school this year.
When other girlfriends has broken up with him, he has done things like called & came to their homes at all hours of the day & night, paint-balled a car, spread lies about them, etc.... He has not done these things with our DD because he knews we will agressively & legally pursue him. The other parents were just glad to get rid of him.
His agressive tendencies have dramatically increased. He knows that he is not to talk to her but he suddenly appeared in the school parking lot after school yesterday. He was blocking her car. He stared at her and didn't say a word. She yelled at him for being there and he still didn't way a word. Other kids were there and he left after a few minutes.
Three of the kids saw his gun sitting openly on the front seat.
Today, I was in the parking lot but he did not return. The principal was not there today but I'm sure that actions will be taken. He has not business on school property for any reason and firearms are not allowed.
This is scary stuff. He did not technically harrass her. He knows just how to not cross that legal line. He is a master at provoking others to make the first move. While is it true that he broke the school rules about firearms and being on the premises without a cause, he did not do enough to our DD for any legal action. (Our attorney is a retired judge, so he knows what is crossing the line.)
Now we have to worry about her when she is just out driving to friends, to school, and to her DD's daycare. A couple of weeks ago, he pulled up at a stoplight next to one of DD's good, guy friends. He pointed the gun at her friends, laughed, and drove off. If he drives up beside her and shows the gun, especially if her DD is with her, she will become frantic and who knows what could happen.
This is very, very scary stuff.
