This will sound incredibly selfish, so hear me out. Your family - you, DW, children - is priority. It has taken me 12 years of marriage to convince DW of this and she is finally on board. After we married, we visited my parents and an aunt (seperate trips) a month before or after a holiday, when convenient for us. She thought it was horrible I didn't see them more. But, we spent the holidays at her divorced parents' different locations, driving to one house Christmas Eve and the other Christmas Day - always trying to just find time for us. One holiday, we went to her dad's sister's' house, and her dad didn't even show up. She was devastated, but it still took several years more. So, do what is best for your family first. If you can add in the extra time with parents, siblings, inlaws, etc then great. But, in my opinion, DW and my dds always come first. Good luck with whatever you decide.