DIS Dads DDC XIII - Zerphonics spoken here!

[AirGoofy]

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home? If not...I spole up and told her that she needed to stop. She kept on and then I told her an. I don't drink but I think I could drink till I dropped tonight! I might even start smoking too if I thought it would help!!! Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

Sorry to hear it. We have had to do with my parents and MIL sticking their nose in. I have made my mom cry when, as politely as I could, told her off to back off the parenting roll. Time heals and calmer heads will prevail in time.

 

[Bo Duke]

Just saw the WoW commecial with Chuck Norris.

"there are 10 million people in the World of Warcraft because Chuck Norris allows them to live."
"I'm Chuck Norris and I approve this game"

Ha Ha Love it..

 

[theduck619]

Just saw the WoW commecial with Chuck Norris.

"there are 10 million people in the World of Warcraft because Chuck Norris allows them to live."
"I'm Chuck Norris and I approve this game"

Ha Ha Love it..

It's pretty cool how Chuck stays relevant

 

[DisDadDoc]

Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

You are none of those things! Sorry you had to go through this. Glad that you and Shari are on the same side with this. That's the most important thing. I'm sure you can get Evan back on track!

 

[RodBelding]

Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

You did what was right for you and your family, nothing wrong with that. You had every right to ask her to respect your decisions, and I applaud you for it.

 

[Wherem I Now]

Put me into the "you did right" group as well. I just hope that your MIL did not make these statements in front of your DS. That makes it even more uncomfortable (my own MIL is guilty of that one).

Sounds like there may be some drama in your family for a bit. We've had too much of it in the last two weeks ourselves.

 

[baseballmickey]

Good portfolio ID. We all know we need more UK fans here. I guess just not as many are cool enough to be Disney fans as well. Am i matched up.against you in fantasy this week?

I don't see how I could be matched up against you. I'm not in the Disdads league... maybe next year.

Ugh! I used to hate all the 5 minute rides we'd take him home from DGPs' house and bam fall asleep on the way. Once that happened we were screwed. Wake up as soob as we got in the house (barking dogs dont help)!

We never had the luck of two naps a day, so at least you had that for a time...

Good Luck!

On another note, watching Mickey's farewell on DME as I write this

Sometimes it's easy to forget that both our kids were sleepers and not all parents get that lucky. I should be thankful for the naps he's taken and not count on them happening so much.

And now for the most dangerous part of your trip... the return to civilization!

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home? If not...well I am having one and it is not fun! Lauren got in trouble twice at pre school today and Ethan brought home two math papers with F's. Well, he has been getting lax for the last week or so and I have told him that he has to pay attention or else he might be in danger of having to repat 1st grade...( I cant even think that thought)...anyway the scouts were supposed to go caroling tonight so I told him he had to stay home and work math since he was not paying attention at school we were going to have school at home. Well, my Mother-In-Law was still here from where she watched the kids while we are at school...she chimes in and tells us that we are not being fair...and that obviously we dint want to go this evening anyway...kept going. I spole up and told her that she needed to stop. She kept on and then I told her that I did not appreciate how she was talking to me. after tears from everyone in the house but me she finally goes home and everthing is at Defcon 5! This was a decision that Shari and I made together on the way home from work and she blamed me for it. I told Shari that I did not like to be talked to like that in my house and that she and I were the parents not her Mother. Of course Shari is in the middle and not wanting to cross her Mom (I am the only person who will stand their ground with her and I think that is why we clash now and then). Then Shari's Dad calls to chew my butt out for upsetting Nana..luckily she told him that Nana stuck her nose in where it did not belong. I wish I was on call tonight and could go to work just to get away for a bit. I don't drink but I think I could drink till I dropped tonight! I might even start smoking too if I thought it would help!!! Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

Not sure about the husband and son-in-law parts, but from a pure Parenting standpoint... I'm with you 100% on this one.

I don't think it's right for anyone else to try and undermine the parents' authority when it comes to their children. If what a parent is doing is so wrong in your eyes that you can't hold your tongue in front of the kids, then you might as well just grab the kid and take them out of there. Otherwise, write it down and leave it in the suggestion box!!

I've been lucky to not have too many problems with my in-laws, but my mother and DW have never gotten along, and there have been a couple of issues. In one very heated instance I crossed the line and said something like "she's our child, not yours." That took some time for mom to get over, but eventually she did.

grandparents should just go behind our backs if they want. I think it's some sort of law that they can. But if they do it in your face, they are fair game!!

 

[IndyDisney]

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home? If not...well I am having one and it is not fun! Lauren got in trouble twice at pre school today and Ethan brought home two math papers with F's. Well, he has been getting lax for the last week or so and I have told him that he has to pay attention or else he might be in danger of having to repat 1st grade...( I cant even think that thought)...anyway the scouts were supposed to go caroling tonight so I told him he had to stay home and work math since he was not paying attention at school we were going to have school at home. Well, my Mother-In-Law was still here from where she watched the kids while we are at school...she chimes in and tells us that we are not being fair...and that obviously we dint want to go this evening anyway...kept going. I spole up and told her that she needed to stop. She kept on and then I told her that I did not appreciate how she was talking to me. after tears from everyone in the house but me she finally goes home and everthing is at Defcon 5! This was a decision that Shari and I made together on the way home from work and she blamed me for it. I told Shari that I did not like to be talked to like that in my house and that she and I were the parents not her Mother. Of course Shari is in the middle and not wanting to cross her Mom (I am the only person who will stand their ground with her and I think that is why we clash now and then). Then Shari's Dad calls to chew my butt out for upsetting Nana..luckily she told him that Nana stuck her nose in where it did not belong. I wish I was on call tonight and could go to work just to get away for a bit. I don't drink but I think I could drink till I dropped tonight! I might even start smoking too if I thought it would help!!! Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

Way to stand your ground!

 

[BigTikiDaddy]

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home? If not...well I am having one and it is not fun! Lauren got in trouble twice at pre school today and Ethan brought home two math papers with F's. Well, he has been getting lax for the last week or so and I have told him that he has to pay attention or else he might be in danger of having to repat 1st grade...( I cant even think that thought)...anyway the scouts were supposed to go caroling tonight so I told him he had to stay home and work math since he was not paying attention at school we were going to have school at home. Well, my Mother-In-Law was still here from where she watched the kids while we are at school...she chimes in and tells us that we are not being fair...and that obviously we dint want to go this evening anyway...kept going. I spole up and told her that she needed to stop. She kept on and then I told her that I did not appreciate how she was talking to me. after tears from everyone in the house but me she finally goes home and everthing is at Defcon 5! This was a decision that Shari and I made together on the way home from work and she blamed me for it. I told Shari that I did not like to be talked to like that in my house and that she and I were the parents not her Mother. Of course Shari is in the middle and not wanting to cross her Mom (I am the only person who will stand their ground with her and I think that is why we clash now and then). Then Shari's Dad calls to chew my butt out for upsetting Nana..luckily she told him that Nana stuck her nose in where it did not belong. I wish I was on call tonight and could go to work just to get away for a bit. I don't drink but I think I could drink till I dropped tonight! I might even start smoking too if I thought it would help!!! Ok..welll I am going to get off here...Thanks for letting me vent about how I am the worst Husband, Father, and Son-In-Law in the world!~

First off, I will say the same thing to you I say to DW when she talks like this..you are NOT the worst Husband/Father/Son-in-Law...there.

Good to you for standing your ground. It is not always pretty, but these things happen from time to time. DW as a new mother threw a bottle of baby food at my dad when he told her we were not feeding Amelia enough. Jo's mom and I get along, but sjhe does try to tell us from time to time how to run our lives. In fact. they stopped by here on their way to Niagara Falls last Saturday, and dropped off Christmas gifts for the girls...SIX BAGS. We have a small apartment here, there is stuff everywhere. She then told me we need to have a garage sale to get rid of things. I reminded her she just droppped off SIX BAGS of more stuff and she was a lot cooler to me the rest of the visit. She has made Jo have a small nervous breakdown in the past too.

Clearly, you were in the right, you can't let things slide with school, not two tests, one maybe, but not two. Bad habits can be hard to break if they get comfortable, and a wake-up call is needed. Hopefully cooler heads will prevail and positives will come out of this. Are you going to make parenting mistakes? Yup...mistakes is how one learns and grows. Everyone's been there. And hey, it could be worse, you could have gone through aaaall this and still be stoned...

 

[theduck619]

Good morning guys

 

[tokyodisneydad]

I agree standing your ground was the best way to go. I have an EX mother in law that I let run over me then put it in reverse and back over me, step on me, kick me when I was down(sometimes literally) and I never did anything about it because of my ex wife and sons...well it finally resulted in my first marriage ending. Luckily I have a MIL now that is wonderful and even mostly sides with me about my daughters.

Thanks guys for all the welcome backs. It was also nice to know that I was thought of when the quake hit here back in March. Scary day that day was...I was at work when the class started shaking. I grabbed my 2 students and carried them to the middle courtyard in the school. It was the month are so after that that was hardest. Waiting in line for hours to get things that are daily staples...eggs, milk etc. Stores running out of bread, toilet paper and other things that you take for granted...no gas...no electricity....I even broke down in the middle of the store one day. BUT hey things are much better now...not quite normal...but much better.

 

[IamTrike]

SteveI think you were right too.

Good morning guys

Good morning.

Thanks guys for all the welcome backs. It was also nice to know that I was thought of when the quake hit here back in March. Scary day that day was...I was at work when the class started shaking. I grabbed my 2 students and carried them to the middle courtyard in the school. It was the month are so after that that was hardest. Waiting in line for hours to get things that are daily staples...eggs, milk etc. Stores running out of bread, toilet paper and other things that you take for granted...no gas...no electricity....I even broke down in the middle of the store one day. BUT hey things are much better now...not quite normal...but much better.

Wow, that sounds incredibly tough. I'm glad things are getting better. I didn't realize there was that much ongoing disruption around tokyo.

 

[tokyodisneydad]

SteveI think you were right too.


Good morning.


Wow, that sounds incredibly tough. I'm glad things are getting better. I didn't realize there was that much ongoing disruption around tokyo.

Yep believe it or not this area is on the same power grid as the nuclear power plant.(it censored the city name). When all that damage happened to the nuclear plant it threw things into chaos. That's why Tokyo Disney Resort was closed for over a month and Disney Sea almost two months.

 

[IamTrike]

A while back we were talking about kids being scared about certain rides. I mentioned that in preparation for this trip DD and I were watching all the rides at Disneyland on Youtube.

This is DD on BTMRR at WDW in March.

and here she is last week on BTMRR at DL

While correlation does not imply causation, it did seem like viewing the rides ahead of time helped.

I had 2 proud dad moments last week.
1. DS was scared of riding California Screamin with me but agreed to try it once. He said dad, "I'm going to let myself be scared till I get half way through the line and then I'm going to be brave" and that's exactly what he did. He wound up loving it, and then blamed me for not making him ride it earlier in the week, so that he could have ridden it more.
2. At the end of the week each child got to pick a pin from their favorite thing. DW was trying to get DD to get a princess pin, but DD would have none of that, she wanted something from Star Tours.

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

Steve - ,---Big Thumb!

The rest of you, remember this in the years to come when your kids have kids of their own and they are doing things you don't agree with.

When I read your post Steve, I was trying to remember if I had problems with MIL in rising our DD's, when it dawned on me, am I that kind of FIL? Yea, I probably am, but only in my house. It's a hold over from when they lived with me. I will be more thoughtful in the future because of your post Steve, Thank You!

 

[Captain_Oblivious]

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you stayed at work and didnt come home?

Steve, I'll back you up on this one as well. You and Shari made the decision, and good job standing by it. MIL was clearly overstepping her bounds. Conversations like that are never fun, but you did the right thing.

Thanks guys for all the welcome backs. It was also nice to know that I was thought of when the quake hit here back in March. Scary day that day was...I was at work when the class started shaking. I grabbed my 2 students and carried them to the middle courtyard in the school. It was the month are so after that that was hardest. Waiting in line for hours to get things that are daily staples...eggs, milk etc. Stores running out of bread, toilet paper and other things that you take for granted...no gas...no electricity....I even broke down in the middle of the store one day. BUT hey things are much better now...not quite normal...but much better.

Yikes! Sounds like it was an ordeal. I'm glad things have improved on that front. We get really comfortable in our lives and take a lot for granted, don't we?

While correlation does not imply causation, it did seem like viewing the rides ahead of time helped.

I had 2 proud dad moments last week.
1. DS was scared of riding California Screamin with me but agreed to try it once. He said dad, "I'm going to let myself be scared till I get half way through the line and then I'm going to be brave" and that's exactly what he did. He wound up loving it, and then blamed me for not making him ride it earlier in the week, so that he could have ridden it more.
2. At the end of the week each child got to pick a pin from their favorite thing. DW was trying to get DD to get a princess pin, but DD would have none of that, she wanted something from Star Tours.

Awesome! I'm glad the YouTube technique seems to have paid off. Looks like it was a great time!

 

[scott2997]

A while back we were talking about kids being scared about certain rides. I mentioned that in preparation for this trip DD and I were watching all the rides at Disneyland on Youtube.

This is DD on BTMRR at WDW in March.

and here she is last week on BTMRR at DL

While correlation does not imply causation, it did seem like viewing the rides ahead of time helped.

Ryan - first off - Great Picture! (the DL one).

And I have to say, I like this strategy of showing them the rides on youtube before hand.

I think my wife and I are going to do this for our trip this Spring. Our girls don't know we're going, which makes it hard to do the whole "view the video" thing before hand.

I'm hoping that the internet access once we're there allows us to view the videos of the park we're going to next, the night before. Not that my 2 year old will be going on anything - but my older daughter should be tall enough to go on Splash and a few others of the over 40" club!

 

[DisDadDoc]

Steve - ,---Big Thumb!

The rest of you, remember this in the years to come when your kids have kids of their own and they are doing things you don't agree with.

When I read your post Steve, I was trying to remember if I had problems with MIL in rising our DD's, when it dawned on me, am I that kind of FIL? Yea, I probably am, but only in my house. It's a hold over from when they lived with me. I will be more thoughtful in the future because of your post Steve, Thank You!

Love, this Randall! Thanks for encouraging us to challenge our perspectives!

to take this into the theoretical, I wonder, are there more problems like this with divorced grandparents? My parents are both divorced and remarried (both after we were grown) and my DW and I will frequently talk about how we think the non-biological spouse is influencing their disagreement with our parenting. (And if they were still married, there would be more context since they raised their kids the same way). Another reason to stay married! Thoughts on this?

BTW, Loving Don's FB Updates! (and all you other guys who have posted live updates on your trip) Keep 'em coming! Makes me nostalgic!

 

[FreezinRafiki]

Steve - way to stand your ground with the in laws. Mine are visiting now for the week. They used to try and "help" parent our kids, but Bambi gave them a royal a%# chewing and they've pretty much backed down.

Ryan - love the pics. Hope DD enjoys her Star Tours pin.

 

[FreezinRafiki]

I was going to post this yesterday afternoon, but was in such a food coma that I could barely even see my keyboard. Yesterday for lunch, my group at work went out to lunch to a Brazilian Steakhouse called Sabor. Think Ohana's, but with more meat and a worse view (not that downtown Milwaukee is bad, but it's no Cinderella's Castle).
In addition to the fancy salad bar, they give you a small round card about the size of a drink coaster. On one side it's green and says "Yes, Please". The other side is red and says "No Thank You." If you leave you card green side up, the roving meat peddlers come to your table, and deliver meat from big skewers: Top sirloin, bottom sirloin, prime sirloin, parmesan pork, garlic beef, ribs, leg of lamb, roasted chicken, bacon wrapped chicken, pork sausage.... there might be more, I can't honestly remember.

I didn't eat dinner last night and only had a couple of pieces of toast this morning for breakfast.