DDA Chapter 6

[MrsHeg]

I was thinking this afternoon that if my enemies really wanted to get to me they would wish for something horrible to happen to my mother, DH, or DS. If it was me with cancer I would just march right in and deal with it - that's what I do, I deal. I tend to react to things with anger more often than sadness, but not this time.

My grandfather & my aunt both died from colon cancer. I was only 7 when Grandpa died. I was sad to lose my aunt but I wasn't devastated. Because my family is so dysfunctional it is pretty hard to get me in a twist over somebody being ill. But this is my mommy. No matter how old you are, I think anybody losing their mom is the absolute worst thing in the world.

We'll all pray that you won't have to experience that loss for many years to come, chances are very good that you won't. One of the things that I am most grateful for is the last conversation I had with Mom I told her I loved her and her response was I love you too. Soon after that she was no longer able to speak.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Thanks, everyone.

Still no word from her. But I keep telling myself that maybe the oncologist was running behind, maybe he sent her for more diagnostics and she isn't finished, etc. It is 2 hours past her scheduled appt. so it hasn't been THAT long if you measure it in "doctor minutes".

I'll give her another hour and then I will call her.

 

[bear74]

Elizabeth what time is the clam bake?

 

[Glynis]

Prayers please! Just got a call, and one of my student's dads got really sick over the weekend, has been diagnosed with ALL (Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia), in in the ICU, has a 40% chance to live, and is going to be in the hospital a month at least. The mom is 12 weeks pregnant with twins and then has the little girl (age 2) in my class. Very tough situation.

Prayers said, Denise! How very tough!

 

[Glynis]

sadly, it's true. people who haven't been touched by cancer's wicked hand have no clue how truly blessed that they are...people who have...will never forgot. In all truth...prior to my mother...I NEVER thought about cancer, ever...now...I think of it all the time....that my friend, is the real curse

I agree with this! My father was diagnosed with prostate cancer, but came through it just fine. My FIL (who I loved dearly) died of prostate cancer.

My mother, just 3 years ago, was diagnosed with uterine cancer. That was terrifying to me. I was with her every step of the way, from the diagnosis, through surgery, through radiation. She seems to be fine, now, but I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop.

The worst was watching my favorite aunt go through melanoma. It was horrible, and she deteriorated so rapidly.

We are here for you, Elizabeth. Come here to vent, scream, cry, anything. With all of our different experiences, there will always be someone who can help you through the whole thing.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth what time is the clam bake?

5:45 PM, Thursday August 14.

 

[Glynis]

I was thrilled to come across this article today:

http://www.laughingplace.com/News-ID10029430.asp

We love the classic Disney movies and we actually get the Hallmark channel

Yay! Another reason to watch the Hallmark channel!!!!

 

[Glynis]

I was thinking this afternoon that if my enemies really wanted to get to me they would wish for something horrible to happen to my mother, DH, or DS. If it was me with cancer I would just march right in and deal with it - that's what I do, I deal. I tend to react to things with anger more often than sadness, but not this time.

My grandfather & my aunt both died from colon cancer. I was only 7 when Grandpa died. I was sad to lose my aunt but I wasn't devastated. Because my family is so dysfunctional it is pretty hard to get me in a twist over somebody being ill. But this is my mommy. No matter how old you are, I think anybody losing their mom is the absolute worst thing in the world.

Yes, it is! We are never prepared to lose our mothers.

You are in my prayers, Elizabeth! For as long as you need them!

 

[bear74]

5:45 PM, Thursday August 14.

thanks I will write it in my planner right now

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Yes, it is! We are never prepared to lose our mothers.

You are in my prayers, Elizabeth! For as long as you need them!

Thank you, Glynis! I appreciate it!

So who have you all purchased travel insurance from? I am starting to think it might be a wise purchase for August, but I am not sure who to go through or what sort of coverage I need. Trip interruption, obviously, but I need to know if it is worth buying the insurance or just absorbing the cost for cancelling whatever through WDW.

I know on room-only if we cancel less than 6 days out we lose one night's cost. On packages closer than 45 days I think it is a $200 cancellation fee. On airfare it is $50 to change a flight PLUS the difference in fare if the ticket has increased in price. Is there insurance that covers these things?

 

[lovespoohbear]

elizabeth i am sorry to hear about your mom. y'all are in my prayers

i am being so sneaky. i know i showed y'all the racetrack litter. well i wanna know who im getting. its kinda fun trying to figure out who i might get especially having a puppy raiser egging it on. i called today to see if they got my application and they did. i then asked Michelle(trainer) what the possibility of me getting another female was and she said at the moment she wasn't sure who i was going to get but if i was set on a female i would probably have to wait till the fall. i told her i kinda had things rolling to go in july and i really didn't care male or female but i did want a yellow lab. so she will call me back next month to talk more. she also said that they have a litter coming in at the end of this month and then the dogs that are in prison right now so she will have a few to look at for me after talking to see what i want it to do. so i guess now i am back at square one saying it instead of she.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I couldn't stand the wait so I called my mom.

She has invasive lobular cancer which is growing very slowly. They are going to give her an oral med (she said the name of it but I have never heard of it before) to shrink the tumor. This med is NOT chemo so she shouldn't lose her hair or have horrible side effects. After that she will have surgery.

She will go next week for a CT and a bone scan to see if it has spread to her brain, bones, or liver.

She was in line at the deli at WalMart so she said she will call me when she gets home.

 

[UP Disney]

sadly, it's true. people who haven't been touched by cancer's wicked hand have no clue how truly blessed that they are...people who have...will never forgot. In all truth...prior to my mother...I NEVER thought about cancer, ever...now...I think of it all the time....that my friend, is the real curse

So far, my family has been spared cancer's wicked hand. However, I had a elderly neighbor that was like a grandpa to me when I was in high school. I watched cancer ravage his body so that he got so tiny that his wife could pick him up and transfer him from his bed to his wheel chair. It was so sad. On graduation day, I went down to see him in my graduation gown since by then he was too ill to attend the cerermony.

Cancer is definitely a wicked, wicked thing. I'm always so happy when I hear someone beat it back!

 

[UP Disney]

I was thrilled to come across this article today:

http://www.laughingplace.com/News-ID10029430.asp

We love the classic Disney movies and we actually get the Hallmark channel

Cool!!!!! I love the Disney classics. I have bought lots of them from the Disney Movie Club and am continuing the collection.

 

[bear74]

I couldn't stand the wait so I called my mom.

She has invasive lobular cancer which is growing very slowly. They are going to give her an oral med (she said the name of it but I have never heard of it before) to shrink the tumor. This med is NOT chemo so she shouldn't lose her hair or have horrible side effects. After that she will have surgery.

She will go next week for a CT and a bone scan to see if it has spread to her brain, bones, or liver.

She was in line at the deli at WalMart so she said she will call me when she gets home.

glad to hear its growing slowly. prayers continued.

 

[UP Disney]

I was thinking this afternoon that if my enemies really wanted to get to me they would wish for something horrible to happen to my mother, DH, or DS. If it was me with cancer I would just march right in and deal with it - that's what I do, I deal. I tend to react to things with anger more often than sadness, but not this time.

My grandfather & my aunt both died from colon cancer. I was only 7 when Grandpa died. I was sad to lose my aunt but I wasn't devastated. Because my family is so dysfunctional it is pretty hard to get me in a twist over somebody being ill. But this is my mommy. No matter how old you are, I think anybody losing their mom is the absolute worst thing in the world.

Losing my dad was the hardest thing so far in my life. The only thing I can imagine that will be worse is losing my mom, Chuck or kids.

 

[lovesdumbo]

Denise, prayers for your friend!

I couldn't stand the wait so I called my mom.

She has invasive lobular cancer which is growing very slowly. They are going to give her an oral med (she said the name of it but I have never heard of it before) to shrink the tumor. This med is NOT chemo so she shouldn't lose her hair or have horrible side effects. After that she will have surgery.

She will go next week for a CT and a bone scan to see if it has spread to her brain, bones, or liver.

She was in line at the deli at WalMart so she said she will call me when she gets home.

That sounds very promising!!!!

 

[Tammi67]

Elizabeth...

when my mother was first diagnosed with breast cancer it was extremely difficulty for me.....you are going to be going through some emotional highs and lows of your own. Give yourself some time to digest....unless you have gone through having a love one diagnosed or die from cancer...it is truly hard to explain all the feelings.

Even after going through things with my mom...I was no more prepared for losing my father to lung cancer....I cry for him to this day.

Very well said Kristine. to you both.

 

[Tammi67]

Elizabeth - Sounds promising, if you can say that about cancer. How long will she be on the meds before they do the surgery?

 

[Blueeyes101817]

I did it. I broke down and bought tickets to see Hairspray in DC. This will be Alyssa's bday gift from Bob and I, since her bday is 10 days later.

Sounds like a fun gift!

Prayers please! Just got a call, and one of my student's dads got really sick over the weekend, has been diagnosed with ALL (Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia), in in the ICU, has a 40% chance to live, and is going to be in the hospital a month at least. The mom is 12 weeks pregnant with twins and then has the little girl (age 2) in my class. Very tough situation.

Absolutely--such a sad situation1

Elizabeth - Sounds promising, if you can say that about cancer. How long will she be on the meds before they do the surgery?

Elizabeth-thanks for the update..im keeping mom in my prayesr