DDA Chapter 14

[my3princes]

About a year ago I heard the term "tipping point" and had it explained to me.

I truly believe there are tipping points in all aspects of our lives. I had my tipping point at work back in February when I KNEW I couldn't keep working here and it gave me the kick in the pants to REALLY look for another job. While that job hasn't shown up yet, I have faith.

Unless something miraculous happens in my marriage it had it's tipping point yesterday. While I am legally still married (and probably will be until I can fund a divorce), I just can't even look at Jim. As I told him it was the small piece of the puzzle still missing and he put it there to finish it. It was not the tipping point I was hoping, praying for but it happened just the same.

oh no. So what happens now? I'm glad that you found the clarity that you needed. Is there a way for you or him to move out?

 

[PNO4TE]

Maybe if you start consuming more, Noah would sleep better.

 

[tmfranlk]

About a year ago I heard the term "tipping point" and had it explained to me.

I truly believe there are tipping points in all aspects of our lives. I had my tipping point at work back in February when I KNEW I couldn't keep working here and it gave me the kick in the pants to REALLY look for another job. While that job hasn't shown up yet, I have faith.

Unless something miraculous happens in my marriage it had it's tipping point yesterday. While I am legally still married (and probably will be until I can fund a divorce), I just can't even look at Jim. As I told him it was the small piece of the puzzle still missing and he put it there to finish it. It was not the tipping point I was hoping, praying for but it happened just the same.

I am so sorry, Theresa. I have been praying that things would improve, but I am glad you have found some clarity either way. Please let me know if there is anything I can do or if you ever need an ear to vent to.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth, what is wrong with some people?

I don't know. I was completely disgusted with this woman today, and we still have 4 more classes to go so I am sure that feeling will intensify.
The little girl who was in our group last week was in our group again, but she was with a babysitter (NOT a nanny, a BABYSITTER) instead of her mom. The little boy in our group from last week wasn't there today. In fact, there were several kids this week who weren't there last week, and several from last week who were missing. There was also one instructor that they switched out. Weird.

About a year ago I heard the term "tipping point" and had it explained to me.

I truly believe there are tipping points in all aspects of our lives. I had my tipping point at work back in February when I KNEW I couldn't keep working here and it gave me the kick in the pants to REALLY look for another job. While that job hasn't shown up yet, I have faith.

Unless something miraculous happens in my marriage it had it's tipping point yesterday. While I am legally still married (and probably will be until I can fund a divorce), I just can't even look at Jim. As I told him it was the small piece of the puzzle still missing and he put it there to finish it. It was not the tipping point I was hoping, praying for but it happened just the same.

Oh, Theresa. I am so sorry. I am sad for you. I guess ending an unhappy marriage has good points, but it isn't a fun process. I hope that you are able to find peace and happiness. I also hope a new job finds you soon!!

 

[babytrees]

oh no. So what happens now? I'm glad that you found the clarity that you needed. Is there a way for you or him to move out?

I don't know...I haven't thought that far ahead. I'm not a planner...eventually I am going to have to be.

 

[PNO4TE]

Well I went out and shoveled, its a very heavy snow. I am finally getting the feeling back in my fingers.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Jennifer (bear) and Deb - Thanks for the e-mails!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I don't know...I haven't thought that far ahead. I'm not a planner...eventually I am going to have to be.

I'm only good at planning WDW trips. But if you want to run your plans by me I will smile and nod.

 

[PNO4TE]

I hope you MIL won't blame herself Deb...that's too bad...

I agree. It is still so sad for her to deal with.

 

[PNO4TE]

There is only ONE place that I would wait at least an hour and half maybe more and that is the Crap Trap in Ocean City, NJ. The food is to die for and it is well worth the wait. Stephanie and I took my sister and she was a little perplexed but when we got our food, she was hooked.

I am thinking I might not like that place!

 

[PNO4TE]

I have to say I have found the most shallow mom in the DFW metroplex. Guess who I am NOT going to be friends with?

She started off the class by saying she can't imagine why ANYONE would want to go to DL. OK, well, I sort of agree. It's too small to fill more than about 3 days. I told her that. She stared at me like I had 2 heads and said "Too SMALL? I don't even want to go for ONE day!" OK, don't go.

The kids went to their first station. She sat on a table and griped to another mom about how she doesn't like their neighbor. Seems last Halloween the neighbor offered her a juice box. SHE is a grown up! SHE doesn't drink JUICE! SHE was completely insulted because it was AFTER 5 PM! OK, you ungrateful alcoholic, maybe you should STAY HOME! I didn't hear if the neighbor actually INVITED her over or not, but I will tell you the neighbor came out WAAAY ahead on that deal. She then launched into a story about people she DOES find acceptable but I missed that because I was helping Princess with the activities.

Her child is pushy and rude. Her child is also obviously unsupervised A LOT. She (the DD) is currently sporting a haircut that makes Molly's recent hack job look like a salon cut. (If I hadn't ever met the mom I would think it was one of those things that happened when Mom turned her back, but I imagine Mom was guzzling down the wine while the DD spent quality time with the scissors.)

When the kids moved to their second station she went over to an unused table, plopped down, and started going through a magazine. She was making notes as she went. It is a PARENT/child class! Her kid was climbing on the table, not waiting for her turn, etc. and the mom never looked up from her very important Southern Living. I am sure she brags about all the activities she does WITH her child. She stayed in that exact spot until the kids were finished with their third station. She did manage to sit with her child when the food was served, but that was about it.

Hey, she must own a jet because I think I teach her kids and she does exactly the same things in my classes (which are parent participatory also!).

 

[Steffy]

I took the boys to school this morning. Colby had 4 display boxes of shells, coral, rocks and sea sponge that we collected at Vero Beach and Fort Lauderdale. He also had a couple baggies of shells that he could give to his classmates. We also had a couple of coconuts, one split open, for the kids to look at. When we had dinner at T-Rex we bought and opened a Geode so he brought that in too. They were doing a hike at 10 am and asked me to come back to chaperone, but it is too cold out there for me, at least the way I was dressed. I had to run to pick up a couple of prescriptions for Nick's acne anyway. By the time I got home it was too late to change and get there before the start of the hike.

Soon after I walked in the school called and asked me to sub on Thursday morning. I accepted. Maybe I will get more subbing shifts now and that might make up for the slowdown at AJ's. Of course we are supposed to get a slushy snow mixture with an inch accumulation by tomorrow morning. The snow is supposed to continue through Thursday morning with "significant" accumulations possible I'm not ready for this. If we do get a lot I would bet that school will be cancelled. It also means that I need to drag out winter coats and boots tonight. Hopefully they still fit.

on the job

While in the middle of typing my last post I received a phone call from MIL. Apparantely the boyfriend of 18 years that she just moved out on, has died. She was crying and didn't have many details. All that she knows is that he was coughing up blood last night, but wouldn't let anyone call the ambulance, when they checked on him at 6:30 am he was dead on the couch. I suspect that he drank himself to death as he has had liver problems in the past and he was told that if he didn't stop drinking he would kill himself. He stopped for many years before starting up again on his latest binge which is why she left him. I just hope he didn't OD on something other than alcohol as MIL will blame herself for leaving. We will head over tonight after Chris comes home to check on her.

Wow, what a turn of events. I'm so sorry you all have to go through this.

 

[my3princes]

I don't know...I haven't thought that far ahead. I'm not a planner...eventually I am going to have to be.

You might want to check out local woman's help services. You might be surpised at how much help is available to help you start over.

I agree. It is still so sad for her to deal with.

I know that she still loved him based on comments that she made while we were moving her. She just couldn't live with an alcoholic any longer. Apparently he couldn't live with himself either This may be an opportunity for us to encourage her to quit smoking and to lose 300 lbs or so. If she doesn't take control of her health she won't be too far behind him.

 

[PNO4TE]

About a year ago I heard the term "tipping point" and had it explained to me.

I truly believe there are tipping points in all aspects of our lives. I had my tipping point at work back in February when I KNEW I couldn't keep working here and it gave me the kick in the pants to REALLY look for another job. While that job hasn't shown up yet, I have faith.

Unless something miraculous happens in my marriage it had it's tipping point yesterday. While I am legally still married (and probably will be until I can fund a divorce), I just can't even look at Jim. As I told him it was the small piece of the puzzle still missing and he put it there to finish it. It was not the tipping point I was hoping, praying for but it happened just the same.

I am sorry it has come to that, Theresa. You know you have our support.

 

[tinker1bell]

OMG I misspelled it!!!! I went back and changed it!!!!!

it is called the CRAB TRAP

 

[tink2020]

Deb, how sad for your MIL!

Elizabeth, I'm sorry but I was cracking up at your descriptions of that mom and her DD!

 

[PNO4TE]

OMG I misspelled it!!!! I went back and changed it!!!!!

it is called the CRAB TRAP

 

[tink2020]

About a year ago I heard the term "tipping point" and had it explained to me.

I truly believe there are tipping points in all aspects of our lives. I had my tipping point at work back in February when I KNEW I couldn't keep working here and it gave me the kick in the pants to REALLY look for another job. While that job hasn't shown up yet, I have faith.

Unless something miraculous happens in my marriage it had it's tipping point yesterday. While I am legally still married (and probably will be until I can fund a divorce), I just can't even look at Jim. As I told him it was the small piece of the puzzle still missing and he put it there to finish it. It was not the tipping point I was hoping, praying for but it happened just the same.

I'm sorry Theresa

 

[PNO4TE]

Things are falling into place for the December trip. Kristin booked her aidfare over the weekend and this morning I booked Kathrin's!

Does anyone know if ME will take someone to a different resort than they were initially supposed to go to? We are at POFQ but have Christmas Eve ADRs at Cape May Cafe at 8:45. I am concerned that Kathrin will have trouble getting to POFQ and the to BC in time for dinner.

 

[PNO4TE]

Speaking of Kathrin... some PD and good thoughts would be much appreciated by this old Mom.

She has her root canal done tomorrow and they will check the teeth on either side to be certain there is no further damage to them.

On Monday she has an interview with The Princeton Review. That would be the perfect match for her since the position she had in Richmond was in marketing colleges and universities. The only drawback is that she would have to drive to get to work. But her room mate is willing to let her use her car for the time being.