DD got called a "little brat" at IHOP this weekend

[roliepolieoliefan]

Wow that guy would hate to see us in restaurants.

I have been known to start sticking my tongue out at my kids which they do in return .

Plus we always have the contest of who can blow off the straw wrapper in the other persons face. One time DD (6) went to blow it at DH it passed him and hit the waitress. She was laughing so hard so was crying.

Just call us the mature family.

 

[cheermom1]

I didn't read all the relies but man I guess my 16 dd is a brat too than

we have this thing that if your butt is in a good spot to be smacked it will be..man can she hit lol...

anyway it sounds like you too were just goofing around and they saw what they wanted to see and then chose to be brats about it...

good grief so we can't embarrass our kids anymore???

 

[minkydog]

Ignore them. They are probably raising snowflakes!!!!

Yeah. If that's the best your brat can come up with OP, then you're seriously falling down on the job.

 

[MM27]

What was wrong with the man in that other party that he needed to go outside because of what someone else's kid said to them? That's really weird that he would be bothered by that.

 

[mkymouse1928]

OMGoodness, those people really need to get a life! From you description, I'm positive that if I had witnessed the exchange you had with your dd, I would have smiled and thought what a cute family.

This reminds me of something that happened to my brother when he was in high school. One of the wrestling coaches asked him to do something, and he replied with "ten-four" and went to complete the task. His coach was super angry and asked my brother if he would speak to his father like that, and of course, my brother said he would. The coach called my parents! My dad could hardly contain his laughter as he was speaking with said coach.

 

[ols386]

This is one of those moments where I'd have no problem pulling an "Excuse me? Do you have some sort of problem with my child?" Because as soon as those morons got called out on their rudeness, they likely would have clammed up and done the "stare-at-floor" routine.

I would probably have the same instinct, but probably wouldn't act on it. There are alot of nutty people out there, that might react in a crazy way.
I got into a verbal disagreement with a high school-age girl at the airport one time, and I won't even say what it was over because it was stupid, but she threatened to physically punch me in the face, going so far as to make a fist with her hand. She didn't smack me, but it was kind of a wake-up call to me, that most of the time, it's probably best for me to keep my mouth shut.

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

...I'm a 16 year old brat and proud !

 

[busyshrew]

I think the most telling part of the OP's story was that the other couple were (likely) parents of a 2 year old.

Ahhh.... I remember those blissful days, when as the mother of an infant/toddler, I actually deluded myself into thinking things like:

MY child will NEVER do that!
WHAT are those parents thinking!
and the best...
When MY child is THAT age she will NEVER ...(fill in the blank)

Oh yes, oh yes, I had a year or so of feeling very smug and morally superior... and then my DD started talking!

Now whenever I see parents with older children, all I can think is, "Hmmm. So that's what I'll be doing / that's what I'll be like X number of years from now!".

It's so easy to see that some of our younger friends are now in the smug-superparent stage.... I feel like warning them but then, why ruin their fantasy?

 

[KramBerries]

Show some deference. No one knows how to raise children better than childless young adults.

 

[minkydog]

Show some deference. No one knows how to raise children better than childless young adults.

You nailed it!

 

[busyshrew]

Show some deference. No one knows how to raise children better than childless young adults.

 

[tinatark]

So your daughter offended him with her behavior - his choice was to get up and leave instead of sitting there listening to it. I don't think he was out of line in telling others "why" he was outside - you would have been out of line if you had gotten involved in their conversation.

 

[Bluestars]

The guy sounds like he is immature with control issues. Maybe someone like that should consider eating at home where he can control the things around him.

I might have been tempted to make a comment about that family loud enough for them to hear. Maybe something about rude people.

 

[toddlers_mom]

Show some deference. No one knows how to raise children better than childless young adults.

So true!

 

[Darsa]

I don't think he was out of line in telling others "why" he was outside

He was absolutely out of line in talking about it in a place he knew perfectly well was where the OP and her family could easily hear his griping & moaning. Seriously, I can't think of a more immature way to handle it.

 

[tinatark]

He was absolutely out of line in talking about it in a place he knew perfectly well was where the OP and her family could easily hear his griping & moaning. Seriously, I can't think of a more immature way to handle it.

He went outside the building - left the OP and her daughter inside, and vented to his friends/family.

I could well imagine that he was aghast at how the daughter talked to her mother - it obviously bothered him enough that he left the area where he was with them.

I'm surprised at the parents who have posted here saying your teenagers talk to you this way - I have 2 teenagers who don't tell me to shut up, get a life, grow up, etc.

 

[cheermom1]

He went outside the building - left the OP and her daughter inside, and vented to his friends/family.

I could well imagine that he was aghast at how the daughter talked to her mother - it obviously bothered him enough that he left the area where he was with them.

I'm surprised at the parents who have posted here saying your teenagers talk to you this way - I have 2 teenagers who don't tell me to shut up, get a life, grow up, etc.

If it is in a joking manner I don't see the harm especially when I do it too or if I start it...

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

If it is in a joking manner I don't see the harm especially when I do it too or if I start it...

exactly!

if we are all just picking on each other and having fun, what's the big deal!!! It isn't the same as doing so seriously! (and DD knows way better than to do any such thing seriously!!!)

 

[Bluestars]

He went outside the building - left the OP and her daughter inside, and vented to his friends/family.

Actually, it looks like the people were talking right in front of her and her daughter:

A minute or so later the guy of the couple left the area and went outside. The woman then is telling her friends that he left because this little brat told her mom to grow up and it offended him. I should have slapped her, she's disrepectful, a brat, etc.

It took me a minute to figure out that we were who they were talking about. I never thought someone would be gutsy enough to talk about someone that is literally less than 2 feet away from them.

 

[tinatark]

Actually, it looks like the people were talking right in front of her and her daughter:

A minute or so later the guy of the couple left the area and went outside. The woman then is telling her friends that he left because this little brat told her mom to grow up and it offended him. I should have slapped her, she's disrepectful, a brat, etc.

It took me a minute to figure out that we were who they were talking about. I never thought someone would be gutsy enough to talk about someone that is literally less than 2 feet away from them.

You are right - yikes - I was wondering why the OP followed the guy outside!

It was rude of the woman to say that in front of you, but there is such a difference in what people see in circumstances. While the OP thought she and her DD were just kidding around, the other guy didn't take it that way.

That said... I would have made a big deal of it with my child - loudly telling her how "bad" she is, she's grounded for life, and how badly she would be beaten once we weren't in public... of course, within earshot of the woman of the couple!