DD got called a "little brat" at IHOP this weekend

[busyshrew]

thank you.
If I had mind reading abilities, than the fork would have never been thrown because i could have stopped it beforehand.

Forget about mind reading, you should have used "THE FORCE"!!

Sorry for laughing - I thought your anecdote was HILARIOUS. Interestingly enough, I didn't assume that your son threw the fork at another diner like a mini-ninja-in-training, I just assumed that the fork... went flying!

 

[focusondisney]

He didn't throw a fork at someone...

we were trying to get him to eat dinner, he was tired and being bratty...little kids can be that way you know... and when we handed him his fork, he threw it and it just happened to go far enough on another persons table.

trust me, we were shocked that it happened. And like I said, I apologized to the peeps and I walked out with him , back to our hotel, while everyone else continued dinner. I was just trying to laugh about something that happened over a year ago... SORRY!!!

Sounds like you handled it just fine!! Anyone who has raised kids knows that sometimes they do things that catch you off gaurd. If I had been at the other table, I might have reacted put off at first, but if I see you are sorry & trying to control the situation, I would be nice & try not to add to the problem. So I guess if your son needs to throw a fork the next time you're at Kona, hope I'm at the table it lands on!!!!

 

[minkydog]

See, i find that hilarious and can totally relate. I'm glad that woman was so nice about it!
thank you for understanding... that was what I meant when I said "they were not kid lovers". Most people would have said "Hey, it's ok, we understand, been there , done that in similar situations" I know my husband and I would have laughed about it, if it had happened to us, but we are just easy going people. Some people in this world just need to pull their panies down out of their cracks and maybe then they could put on a smile!

Oh, lord, my daughter was a hellion(but in a good way ) Whenever I took her to the grocery store I had to watch her like a hawk. I couldn't let her get within arms length of ANYTHING because if she ever got her hands on something it instantly became a launched projectile. I remember one time she got her hands on a cup of cottage cheese and lofted it right at this rather large lady, where it snugly lodged in her rather ample, jiggly bosom. I was mortified, but really, how can you not laugh? I mean, she was all of 2yo and obviously had an illustrious basketball career in front of her.

 

[manhattan]

I never realized that being able to have a conversation with your child and having good laughs was sooooo wrong! I, like many of you do, still play around with my kids.....it makes me feel good to have a good laugh with my kids. But, OP did the right thing by ignoring the woman. If she had no common sense not to talk about you in front of you, who knows what other short circuitry she had going on in that tiny head of hers. People like that scare the heck out of me, because I truly believe that the elevator does not reach the top floor.

OP - you and your daughter will have a stronger bond than this woman ever will experience with their child, so continue to enjoy the good times with your daughter

 

[princesspumpkin]

Wow, I'm old as dirt... I don't find any of this acceptable!

Dirt here too

 

[sbell111]

People...need to learn to mind their own business. Try not to let their nosey misjudgment bother you.

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

 

[wvjules]

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

Seriously?

First of all, I'm not upset. I was shocked that they were so brazen enough to talk about us in front of us. Its not like it was a whispering, low quiet talking conversation. Woman A, the one talking, was standing right in front of me, the friend she was talking to was sitting right beside me. It was obvious that I was meant to hear it. She wasn't speaking in hushed tones. As a matter of fact I didn't even hear them speaking about ANYTHING until they started talking about us. I think she was talking louder purposely. However, I do not know that for sure but its a pretty good hunch on my part.

 

[luvmy3]

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

Right, like that woman was trying to make sure that the OP didn't hear her. Maybe they all should have left in order to keep their conversation private

 

[wdwmom2]

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

If the Op heard it, it probably wasn't so private!

People talk about all kinds of things on this board, this topic is no different!!

 

[Darsa]

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

Seriously?

First of all, I'm not upset. I was shocked that they were so brazen enough to talk about us in front of us. Its not like it was a whispering, low quiet talking conversation. Woman A, the one talking, was standing right in front of me, the friend she was talking to was sitting right beside me. It was obvious that I was meant to hear it. She wasn't speaking in hushed tones. As a matter of fact I didn't even hear them speaking about ANYTHING until they started talking about us. I think she was talking louder purposely. However, I do not know that for sure but its a pretty good hunch on my part.

LOL, after I read the first quote I said out loud: "Seriously?" It was painfully obvious to me that this person was just being a shrew to you and your DD, no question.

 

[Bluestars]

In the same vein, why is the OP upset over some stranger's private conversation?

Maybe because the strangers were talking about the OP. If someone is standing right next to me and talking about me, I would listen. It is obvious the strangers wanted the OP to hear.

 

[Amelia Peabody]

Well I am older than dirt AND a brat at the same time. When DSis and I were teens, I always stuck my tongue out at her during church ( up front in the choir yet! ) and made her laugh out loud while I looked innocent.

When I was a yound "adult" my DNephew and DNiece knew the rules about waving goodbye when you left a family gathering. Out the car window you make faces, roll your eyes, do armpit farts - as much as you could get in before the car was out of sight. And we did the same back.

Now that I am a grandmother age, I sit in church at the skilled care unit with my mother. I lean past my Dad real slow and stick out my tongue at Mom. Discreetly this time. She will usually do it back - lately though I've gotten the "tsk - I raised you better than that" look. Cracks me up. In fact lots of her reactions crack me up. We act like fools for her - to distract her from reality ( that's another story ) and she loves it. Sometimes we get "scolded" which makes us laugh harder and sometimes she joins in - even better at it than we are.

 

[Debbie7452]

I honestly don't know how I would react if a fork were thrown at me. I'm thinking that I wouldn't take it out on the kids....but I'm also thinking that the parent's would get off scott free either

I had to think about how I would react if the fork landed on my table...I think I would be shocked and then burst out laughing. That would be a memorable Disney moment! We are a SILLY family, though...

My sympathies to the parents of the 4 y.o. I'm sure you weren't having fun dealing with it.

 

[mhsjax]

Well I am older than dirt AND a brat at the same time. When DSis and I were teens, I always stuck my tongue out at her during church ( up front in the choir yet! ) and made her laugh out loud while I looked innocent.

When I was a yound "adult" my DNephew and DNiece knew the rules about waving goodbye when you left a family gathering. Out the car window you make faces, roll your eyes, do armpit farts - as much as you could get in before the car was out of sight. And we did the same back.

Now that I am a grandmother age, I sit in church at the skilled care unit with my mother. I lean past my Dad real slow and stick out my tongue at Mom. Discreetly this time. She will usually do it back - lately though I've gotten the "tsk - I raised you better than that" look. Cracks me up. In fact lots of her reactions crack me up. We act like fools for her - to distract her from reality ( that's another story ) and she loves it. Sometimes we get "scolded" which makes us laugh harder and sometimes she joins in - even better at it than we are.

I am not older than dirt, although kids think I am. I am very strick and run a no non-sense house, they must say please and thany you yes ma'am and yes sir. No talking back. However, DS is now 13 and is starting to mess around with us. I was teasing him the other day about something I was going to do to him. He look at me and said," have you lost your mind WOMAN" I just about died laughing. I was teasing him and picking at him and he new it, so he came back with that. I did tell him that it was in no way ok for him to call me woman when we were having a serious conversation, but in the contest of what we were doing at the time, it was hysterical.

 

[sbell111]

Seriously?

First of all, I'm not upset. I was shocked that they were so brazen enough to talk about us in front of us. Its not like it was a whispering, low quiet talking conversation. Woman A, the one talking, was standing right in front of me, the friend she was talking to was sitting right beside me. It was obvious that I was meant to hear it. She wasn't speaking in hushed tones. As a matter of fact I didn't even hear them speaking about ANYTHING until they started talking about us. I think she was talking louder purposely. However, I do not know that for sure but its a pretty good hunch on my part.

It apparently upset you enough that you are still lamenting over it five days later.

Some people have no volume control. End of story. I'd have laughed about it over a pancake and never thought of it again. Of course, I never would have allowed my girl to tell me to grow up, either, nor would I have stared at the people in the first place.

Why are people constantly shocked when their behavior causes others to react?

 

[wvjules]

It apparently upset you enough that you are still lamenting over it five days later.

Some people have no volume control. End of story.

I must have missed the "upset" tone in my posts.

I didn't realize that there was a time limit on posting things on the DIS. It happened and I immediately thought, "This is a DIS post if I ever saw one."

 

[ols386]

It apparently upset you enough that you are still lamenting over it five days later.

Some people have no volume control. End of story. I'd have laughed about it over a pancake and never thought of it again. Of course, I never would have allowed my girl to tell me to grow up, either, nor would I have stared at the people in the first place.

Why are people constantly shocked when their behavior causes others to react?

Your post doesn't even make sense.

End of story.

 

[mhsjax]

It apparently upset you enough that you are still lamenting over it five days later.

Some people have no volume control. End of story. I'd have laughed about it over a pancake and never thought of it again. Of course, I never would have allowed my girl to tell me to grow up, either, nor would I have stared at the people in the first place.

Why are people constantly shocked when their behavior causes others to react?

It was a private conversation between the OP and her DD. It was none of their business and if they wanted to comment on it they should have done so quietly. Frankly If I saw that situation between a mother and daughter teasing each other I would be more inclined to think wow, how nice to see a mother and daughter actually getting along and having fun. Unlike so many other families out there. I feel bad for kids that don't have parents with a sense of humor. My mom and I used to tease each other all the time. I knew when to tease and when not to, there is a difference.

 

[Metsfan520]

It was a private conversation between the OP and her DD. It was none of their business and if they wanted to comment on it they should have done so quietly. Frankly If I saw that situation between a mother and daughter teasing each other I would be more inclined to think wow, how nice to see a mother and daughter actually getting along and having fun. Unlike so many other families out there. I feel bad for kids that don't have parents with a sense of humor. My mom and I used to tease each other all the time. I knew when to tease and when not to, there is a difference.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[laurie31]

I am not older than dirt, although kids think I am. I am very strick and run a no non-sense house, they must say please and thany you yes ma'am and yes sir. No talking back. However, DS is now 13 and is starting to mess around with us. I was teasing him the other day about something I was going to do to him. He look at me and said," have you lost your mind WOMAN" I just about died laughing. I was teasing him and picking at him and he new it, so he came back with that. I did tell him that it was in no way ok for him to call me woman when we were having a serious conversation, but in the contest of what we were doing at the time, it was hysterical.

This is a great example of the same thing the OP was doing with her DD.

You started playing with your DS and he joined in. He wasn't being disrespectful, he was playing with you.

I do this with my kids too. (but yes, under serious circumstances, they must say ma'am, sir, please, thank you, and talking back shouldn't even enter their BRAIN as a choice! But they are welcome to play with me!)

It apparently upset you enough that you are still lamenting over it five days later.

Umm...she's not lamenting over it, we are!


All the OP is doing is replying to the posts.