Crushes and the internet

[MrIncredibleFL]

Don't take your love

Away from me

Don't you leave my heart

In misery

If you go

Then i'll be blue

Cause breakin' up is hard to do

I'll never leave ya darlin.

 

[Aidensmom]

whisper it in my ear, I won't tell a soul

It's aidensdad

 

[imsorry]

It's aidensdad

aawwwhhh!

 

[Briarmom]

It's aidensdad

WHAT!!??

 

[imsorry]

Bob, is that you:?

 

[Southerngirl]

Internet "affairs" are actually a very serious problem today.....These relationships can begin as fun but end up seriously hurting marriages. Internet "flings" are one of the largest sources of counseling for marriage therapist and clergy.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

Have you ever had a secret crush on someone that you only know on line?

A secret crush? No, not a secret.

 

[I <3 Eeyore]

Have you ever had a secret crush on someone that you only know on line?

No, I prefer to confine those to real life but I've certainly witnessed them often enough. They're usually not very subtle about it.

 

[2BigKIdz]

Yes this has happened to me. I was going to play an on-line game with a guy I "met" on another message board as we were both up late at night. We exhanged IM's. I told him I was married, etc. The first couple of times were okay but then he started calling me "sexy" and things like that (he has never seen me and doesn't have a clue what I look like and I never gave him ANY indication that I was interested in him in any way!). He hounded me on IM with all sorts of personal information and problems, I would just not respond. I finally just stopped using that IM name all together. One day my husband accidentally signed into that name and that guy sent an IM something like "hey sexy haven't talked to you in awhile". Thank goodness I had told my husband about it and he new what was going on.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Have you ever had a secret crush on someone that you only know on line? A friend of mine recently admitted that someone she goofs off with on another bulletin board has become somewhat of a nuisance. At first she was fine going back and forth with him, but she thinks it is getting out of control. She also posts on another board that he "followed" her to, and she's getting a little freaked. I told her to just ignore him, change user names etc. But I am quite curious if this is happens more than we know. I am VERY careful about the info I put out there and this just confirms my stance.

It depends who it is. People who are creeps usually don't hide it well online at least not for long.

For example, I used to post on another site. There I began chatting with a guy who became a really PITA. He would not stop IMing me, he'd send me like 20 emails a day. The final straw was when I finally managed to block him from all internet services I used, and closed my account with that site, he got one of my friends screen names from a quote in my AIM signature that had her name in it...and he IM'd her and started bugging her about where was I...

That guy became a creep after a few weeks of chatting with him.

Meanwhile there are guys on this and other sites I chat with often, and have never once felt like we were anything more than online buddies. I've met several of them IRL also, at various meets and never felt threatened by them in real life either.

I think anyone who starts to form an actual crush...I don't mean thinking "he's a nice guy" "he's cute" etc.; I mean an all out crush...on anyone they meet online needs to take a few steps back and realize that online friendships are not usually the same as real life friendships. Flame me for that if you want, but personally, I don't think I'd ever date anyone I met online. Some people do and whatever floats their boat. However, just be aware that people can hide behind a screen and make you think they are something they aren't. And you don't get any visual clues as to what is really up with them or who they really are.

Sadly, I think it happens a lot. I think a lot of people have an easier time making someone online out to be what they want them to be, instead of who they are. When you are just typing, it's easy to pretend that this person is the man/woman of your dreams because you don't have to see them in reality. So you form a crush on the fantasy personality you yourself put behind the screen name. That's when you need to be really careful. I think this happens a lot more than we know...