Cranberry & Pineapple Continued.....Again.

[cristit14]

No, the best part was seeing Ryan Reynolds chest! He is so HOT!

He is yummy!

 

[jiminyC_fan]

You know what Jrsy? I had to dig out a kleenex out of my purse at the movie. Tammy was drooling. Gosh, I was so embarrassed.

 

[Jsme]

You know what Jrsy? I had to dig out a kleenex out of my purse at the movie. Tammy was drooling. Gosh, I was so embarrassed.

 

[Jsme]

Yard Sale is over with and boy am I glad. As most of you know my mother and I do NOT get along. She has mental issues and I have never been able to do anything right. Marice and I are so in the same boat. I am very luck that I am in a good strong point that I know she is wrong but she can make me so mad, upset or just down right ticked off at her at times.

We (erik and me) went up in the late afternoon on Thursday. My mother started in on me almost at once. She decided all the problems we have had with MacKenzie is all my fault. I got to here how I am a horrible mother and I am never there for Mac. She went on and on about stuff of this nature. I think at one point she told me that I brush Mac off too much and care about Erik more than Mac. I finally told her that I have tried everything that I know to do and since she is not in the situation or living it she needed to butt out. I said it nicely. But of course the waterworks started. I was ready for it and did not allow this to make me feel guilty. I have to say what I told her worked for at least an hour. Amazing.

Mom and I went to visit a friend of the family. Carrie is 94 and in rehab. She just found out she has colon cancer and due to her age and her health they can not do anything for her but to make her comfortable. I was so happy to see her. She was very confused at times as to who I was but she would get it and we would talk. She is the dearest lady. She has an amazing smucky temperament. I love her so much.

After visiting her I guess mom decided to go for it again. She started off by saying, I know I have not been the best parent. Then she ruined it by, I know I should not say this because it is going to make you mad. Of course I cut her off and told her then she should not say it. I also reminded her of every time she ever said this it was something she did not need to say. Well she told me she did not care that she was going to tell me anyway and I just had to listen. What could I do? lol I mean since I did not have a car and I was in her car, yes I had to listen. Once again she started on how if I would go to Church my family would not have these issues. OMgoodness. I always hate when she goes there. For the record, I believe in God and Jesus. I believe that Jesus was sent to be my savior and I am a Christian. I have asked to be saved and I know I am going to heaven. Now, with that said, I can not stand when people think church will solve all the problems or that this is the only way to heaven. Jeff and I have been very active in a church before and once we did not feel in our hearts this was the church for us we moved to another one. After a while we just gave up. Now I do believe church is wonderful fellowship for people. I also believe it gives you some peace and will help your week. My reply to my mom was, Mom you are right you should not have gone there. I did not say another word. Do not get me wrong I love Church. I have always felt led to be involved and have been highly involved many times in my life. One day we probably will be again.

So, with all of this said, I decided to come home last night. We got up early and went up this morning. Wow my frame of mind was so much better just by coming home.

Sorry to rant but I thought in case if anyone read my facebook comment you would understand more of what I was going or dealing with.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Selena - I did read your FB comment and figured something happened with the yard sale and your mom must have said something. Sorry she couldn't keep her mouth shut especially since you were being so nice and helping her out with the yard sale. Glad you didn't take anything to heart. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who hide behind their church. They think that because they attend a church that it saves them. I have someone here at work who attends church and is very active with the church. She is seen as being very innocent, but I have discovered that she is the one stealing my stuff at work. She has also has lied about several job offers just to get her ahead, she was caught in a lie once about the job offers but she said she confessed and all was forgiven.

 

[Jsme]

Selena - I did read your FB comment and figured something happened with the yard sale and your mom must have said something. Sorry she couldn't keep her mouth shut especially since you were being so nice and helping her out with the yard sale. Glad you didn't take anything to heart. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who hide behind their church. They think that because they attend a church that it saves them. I have someone here at work who attends church and is very active with the church. She is seen as being very innocent, but I have discovered that she is the one stealing my stuff at work. She has also has lied about several job offers just to get her ahead, she was caught in a lie once about the job offers but she said she confessed and all was forgiven.

Oh Heidi how terrible. At least I do not have to deal with my mom but every once in a while. Working with someone like that has to be tough.
I am so glad that I know that my mom is the one with the issues. That does not mean at the time it does not hurt or tick you off. It took me an extremely long time to know that these things are not my fault. Thank goodness that I went to see a professional when I was in my early 20's. She set me free.

Happy Monday everyone.

I ordered another bikini from Victoria's Secret yesterday. lol I could not find any real good deals so I had to pay amost $20 for it. I know that is not much for one from VS but I do not normally spend much for my bikinis.

I want a Bebe tshirt now. I am going to Bebe in the mall today to see about sizing and if I like any of the ones there. Then I might go on ebay to get one. Haven't made my mind up whether to pay the $34 $36 in the store or do it on ebay. Only thing with ebay I would be upset if I got a fake one. That is part of the reason I want to go look at them in the store to make sure that I can compare it to the ones on ebay. Well besides the size I would need. When I was in there on Friday I just glanced and later decided I wanted one.

Did I tell everyone Mac's little job has changed. You know she is working at a seafood and steakhouse restaruant. She has been hostessing. Now they moved her to carside (take out). She still makes minimum wage but she also gets tips. Not like a server would but in the last 3 days she made $52 and some change in tips.

We were a bit worried that this payment (tomorrow) would be tiny since she only worked 15 hours last week and had only 4 hours in this week but Brian, her manager, wound up working her a total of 32 hours this week. Her paycheck should be decent. She owes her insurance on this paycheck. She still owes me $100 for the cruise which I will not make her pay until her next paycheck. She has to take Cooper to the vet and that will be close to $50 since she needs to buy his heartworm medicine. She was real good last paycheck and saved $50 of the check. She has $102 and will make about $275. Needless to say we are going shopping today. Her earphones for her Ipod broke so we are going to buy new ones. Her sunglasses she likes so good broken so we have to get some of those as well. She wants white shorts. I wonder if she will take her broke mom out to lunch? lol

 

[Jrsy Boy]

Selena - I did read your FB comment and figured something happened with the yard sale and your mom must have said something. Sorry she couldn't keep her mouth shut especially since you were being so nice and helping her out with the yard sale. Glad you didn't take anything to heart. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who hide behind their church. They think that because they attend a church that it saves them. I have someone here at work who attends church and is very active with the church. She is seen as being very innocent, but I have discovered that she is the one stealing my stuff at work. She has also has lied about several job offers just to get her ahead, she was caught in a lie once about the job offers but she said she confessed and all was forgiven.

One of my favorite quotes is "Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going to the garage makes you a car."

 

[ImMarcik]

Hi monkeys. I had a busy weekend, got my house cleaned, groceries and bought a new purse and shirt for Vegas. All I have left to do is get a pedi, tan, and pack and I'll be on my way Friday.

 

[ImMarcik]

One of my favorite quotes is "Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going to the garage makes you a car."

So true.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Selena - how nice that Mac can earn tips now. Does she still like it?

Jrsy - I remember you having that quote in your sig.

Marcie - how exciting, Vegas this week!!!!!!!!!

 

[Jsme]

One of my favorite quotes is "Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going to the garage makes you a car."

Yes I agree 100%. When you live in the south you deal with a lot of hypocritewhen it comes to religion. I feel like I can make that statement since I have always lived in the south. We are still the bible belt.

 

[Jsme]

Yes Mac still likes her job. She was getting bored with hosting and is very happy to get moved. She thought she wanted to be a server but now I think she wants to stay in carside. This way she is promised a paycheck if she works and then she can earn a small amount ot tips.

We had so much fun shopping today. Started with Forever 21 and put some things on hold there. Went to Aeropostle and Charlotte Russ, move stuff on hold. Remember Mac was hunting for white shorts. Went to Papaya and I bought a sexy top for the cruise. Wonder what Jeff will think about it. I might have to wait to use it on the October cruise.
Anyway ventured down to Old Navy and could not find one thing. On to Belk Department Store and found a few things but nothing worth the money. Back to Aero for the white shorts and sunglasses Mac had on hold. The shorts are a bit big in the waist. My mom can take them up. Back out thru Forever 21. They had their cami's for $2.50. She bought 3 of them, purple, teal and hot pink. She bought a deep aqua and white dressy tank and a deep hot pink tank, like for dinner. She bought one more cami style tank but it is much loose fitting and more to wear as a shirt. I was proud of her. She only spent $25 at Aero and $35 at Forever 21. We then went to Kohl's where she found a really great pair of earrings that are large circles with hearts and peace signs in the middle of the circle. They are silver. She also found a pair of white shorts that fit perfectly. Now I found a black and white dressy top, a purple dressy top and a purple stylish peasant style tshirt. Oh I also bought a deep teal and deep hot pink tank dressy tank top from Forever 21.

I think I did well. I was able to get 5 really nice tops, 4 of which I can wear to work and a dressy tshirt for $80. Oh yeah I bought Mac some purple glitter nail polish from Forever 21 for her goody bag.

Mac is keeping both pairs of shorts. She is a bit messy and I told her for the prices she needed to keep them. After all on the cruises I am sure she will need 2 pairs.

Marcie the top I bought at Papaya would be perfect for you in Vegas. It is really cute but sexy too. It is one of those tops that has strings at the chest area that ties at your neck. The strings have some really pretty brushed gold and yellowish golden glass beads. The shirt it's self has greens and browns in it. It is really cute. I thought for $18.99 I had to jump at it. Plus those colors would look good for this fall on the fall cruise. But from what I could tell from your coloring it would look great on you.

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Hi guys,

Selena, I just wish your mom would take the attitude that I was brought up with and taught my girls as well....if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. It could certainly save alot of heartache.

Marcie, it seems so funny to read that you are leaving for Vegas on Friday. Good grief girl. You just got back. LOL (I'm jealous, can you tell?)

Don't get me going on church and religion. I see Jrsy's point. I was raised in a Lutheran Church and went twice a week for many years. I moved out here and visited a few churches and didn't really click with any. I find that it is big business here rather than a nice community church. One preached politics. I finally accepted that it isn't a bldg that makes a Christian.

 

[Jrsy Boy]

Don't get me going on church and religion. I see Jrsy's point. I was raised in a Lutheran Church and went twice a week for many years. I moved out here and visited a few churches and didn't really click with any. I find that it is big business here rather than a nice community church. One preached politics. I finally accepted that it isn't a bldg that makes a Christian.

I'm with you, Sandy; I'd never seen so many mega-churches until we moved out here. I never liked going to Tammy's mom's church on Christmas Eve and Easter because it always felt like they were telling me what I had to do to get to Heaven and that anyone who didn't do those things was going to Hell, which is a good way to get my Jersey up if you're going to badmouth my friends...even if indirectly. Fortunately for Tammy, she found a church that she loves right before being diagnosed with cancer, which I find hard to believe was a coincidence. Everyone there was very supportive and Alex loves going there, too. I still can't seem to sit through services every Sunday, which I attribute to being forced to go to an Episcopalian church when I was young.

 

[Jsme]

I grew up in a Southern Baptist Church. I went some Wednesday's and Sunday mornings and evenings. I was active in sunday school and youth group. I loved church and use to know my bible back and forth. There was a joke in sunday school that if we were playing any type of guessing bible questions game there were 2 that could not be on the same team. I was one of the 2. I also helped teach Vacation Bible School when I was older. Goodness I loved VBS.

Then as a married adult we found a church we enjoyed. This was when the kids were young. We went and were very active. Jeff and I taught 3rd grade sunday school, children's church for 1st service. This left us open for 2nd service church which we attended. We also kept sunday night nursey. On top of this in the summers I taught a class in Music camp that my church had and VBS. We were so active and had just asked to be a part of the youth group. I have always felt led to be involved in the teaching of the youth in church. We were basically turned down and told that they did not need us. This was my first bad taste in the church. They needed help but I guess they did not need us. I do not see how we were not good enough. Sorry that still bothers me a bit. Then that is when the preacher started demanding money every Sunday. First it was for a new church van. We had 3 vans and while I did not see the need, I was brought up not to quesiton the pastor. He asked us that the next Sunday's offering was going to be for the Van. The next Sunday came and someone had donated a brand new van. So our pastor took this as a sign that we needed two. Still did not question this too much just thought we might could use other things. Then the next month he decided we needed new hymnals. Now we did need these. My problem was with the fact that the pastor demanded all of us buy one per family member. This was when we lived really closely but we still gave offering every Sunday but we could not afford 4 books. It hit me a bit hard because I did not see why my family of 4 needed to buy 4 books. We would only use 2 books. The last draw was when after we had hit a million dollar building which housed a kitchen, a few Sunday School Classes and a gym he decided we had to have a million dollar camp ground. At this time Jeff and I no longer felt it in our heart to give anything at all. We realized that we no longer needed to be at this church because we did not feel right any longer in our hearts.

We tried a couple of other churches. One we enjoyed until the pastor started preaching things opposite from the bible. Needless to say we left rather quickly.

Since then we have tried a few other churches but nothing that made us feel like it was talking to our heart or that we felt the power of God in.

So, with all that said, I do not need Church to get me to heaven. I know in my heart I am a Christian and I am going to heaven one day. I know sometime in the future we will go back.

So all those attitudes kill me. I have been judged by too many people in my life. I try really hard not to judge someone because I do not feel it is my place. After all I am only human and how can I judge someone when I do wrong as well?

 

[Jsme]

A friend and I decided last night to throw a surprise birthday party for another friend on Saturday!!!

Tonite we decided to do a theme and we decided on Fiesta.

So far this is what we have....

Food: Tacos, taco salads, nachos, salsa and guacomole

Beverages: Beer margarita, beer and tequila.

I have a sombero that I am going to make her wear.

We are looking into a Pinata and feeling it with adult type things.

We are taking her to Charlotte at 1 so I can not do a lot of decorating.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Selena - that party sounds like fun. I will have to think on what else you can do.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Last night we had the craziest storm I have ever witnessed. It happened around 11:00 pm. The wind picked up and slammed our bedroom door, thankfully it woke us up because it was pouring down rain and coming into the window. As soon as we closed the windows, the storm really picked up. It got really really windy and started hailing. It hailed for about 15 minutes and we got about 4 inches of hail. The lightning was really bad and scary. The wind was so bad that it uprooted some of the bigger trees. The hail shredded my flowers and all my tomato plants, I am so bummed. It was the loudest storm I have heard and I was scared as there was also tornado warnings right in our area. On my way to work this morning, I saw a lot of uprooted trees and tons of hail left over. Leaves, branches, etc covered the streets. It appears my work got it even worse because their are park benches and picnic tables turned over and blown away and I guess all the power went out in all of the buildings around here. Some places have power lines that are down and they are asking those people to stay home.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Halloween weekend:

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Pool day:

My niece, Joey and I:

My twin sister, Stacey:

My nephew Tyler and Grandpa:

My parents with their grandkids:

The girls: