Crabby crabby crabby vent about preggos....

[dcgrumpy]

Laurabearz- this is my second. I have an almost 2yo, bottlefed, circumcised, c-section son. I'm already getting flack for not wanting a VBAC.

 

[DocRafiki]

So many of gals that post on these other boards are asking us questions that they should be asking their doctors...... Like I am bleeding on and off, is that bad? The doctor said I have blood in my urine...... why is that?

I hate that! And when people GO to their doctors and THEN go online to ask what it all meant, instead of asking the doctor while they were in the exam room. Why do people act like they understand and not ask questions when they don't?

You should see the pet care boards... much worse. "My cat won't get up and she is having a hard time breathing! What should I do?" very sad for the unfortunate pets being "cared for" by stupid people

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
I hate that! And when people GO to their doctors and THEN go online to ask what it all meant, instead of asking the doctor while they were in the exam room. Why do people act like they understand and not ask questions when they don't?

Oh, I could think of a couple of reasons. Maybe they are afraid to really ask the doctor what something really means. Maybe they got one answer from their doctor, surfed on the 'net and found out the same symptom might be something more serious. Maybe they had the symptoms late at night and don't want to talk to the doctor on call. Maybe they are just scared and want some pixie dust.

Of course they should ask their doctor! That kind of thing annoyed me too, but I can understand the reasons behind it. Especially with those extra-special pregnancy hormores surging though their body .

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

Each childbirth experience is unique and special and the person should do what FEELS right for her.

I, myself, am quite happy with as many drugs as I can get my hands on during childbirth LOL I cannot even imagine going the natural route. My daughter was breach as well and weighed in at a hefty 8lbs 12 1/2 ounces. I had a planned c-section and all was right with the world. She's incredibly healthy and beautiful.
Oh yeah, I TRIED to breastfeed. That lasted her first 2 months. Seems she ate too much and I couldn't produce enough milk. If what they say is correct and babies who are breastfed don't get sick, then 2 months worked perfectly for mine

 

[Planogirl]

I did my research and made my choices based on that info, my health and my beliefs. I had a natural childbirth with an epidural and never breastfed. I feel no regrets whatsoever.

My sister-in-law is one of the more radical people that some here have mentioned. She has a 5 year old son and she still laments having a c-section when she delivered him. It was either that or endangering the baby so I think that she's being ridiculous about it.

Her second she delivered in a tub with no problems. Hey, whatever works IMO.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

12 years ago, when I was expecting my first, I researched the options. I made my choices.

what you choose is not nearly as important as making a choice you feel comfortable with.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Thank you for reminding me why I don't bother with the iVillage, etc. boards! I'm also due in May (5/15), with #3. These decisions are so personal, I don't understand why some people get so worked up over them. I nursed Buzz, bottle fed Belle, not losing sleep either way--what business is it of anyones? Both are great kid (although ironically, Buzz has had MANY more health problems--I think it's just him, not his early feeding methods, but my 2 defy the stereotypes!). The only thing I'm unsure about this time around is, with Belle I had the epdirural (still willing to name a child after the anesthesiologist!). Buzz I had Demerol, but then he came so quick--2 minutes after the shot--that he had to be resuscitated. I like the drugs, what can I say, but don't want to risk that again. So, we'll have to see. P.S. No cutting for Buzz, couldn't bring myself to have it done, but again, not a fanatic about it. My philosophy was, "That's the way God made him!" Bottom line, you have to decide what's right for you, and stay away from the militants who are just going to make you cry (heck, if you're like me, a diaper commercial can make you cry these days, you don't need someone question your judgement!)

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
You should see the pet care boards... much worse.

Um...Doc...since your PM box is full I'll ask here...can you direct me to a good pet care board and/or a German Shepherd website/board? Thanks!

 

[Shannon G]

Haven't been on the boards in a while, but just had to weigh in on this one...

I gave birth to my first child 2 months ago. When thinking ahead to her birth, I figured I'd see how far I could go without drugs, but I wasn't opposed to them if I felt I needed them. Well, when I got to the hospital, things were already very intense - very strong contractions, vomiting, etc. Meanwhile, I'm being told by my nurse that I'm only 4 centimeters & it's likely to be a while. Now, I knew childbirth would be very painful, but I though I had a pretty good pain tolerance. Well, let me tell you, at only 4 centimeters all I wanted to know was when I was going to get my epidural!!! I could tell by the looks I was getting that everyone really thought I was wimping out. Turns out I was progressing very quickly - once the epi. was ordered I went from 5 cent. to ready to push in about an hour! As soon as the epi was administered and I layed back dow, I told the nurse I had to push!

My point (now that I'm finally getting to it) is that, at the time it happened, I'm sure others would have thought I was being a wimp and taking the epi. unnecessarily. From my viewpoint, since I was having such strong contractions at 4 cent., I didn't think I would be able to handle it once it got to 7 or 8 cent. In hindsight, because I went so fast, my contractions were as intense as they usually are at 7 or 8 cent. Having nothing to compare it to, I obviously didn't know this. For anyone who would criticize me for having the epi. - imagine what your contractions were like as you went into transition, and then imagine someone is telling you that this is only the beginning - you've still got a long way to go. Had I known that it was really because my labor was progressing very quickly, and my daughter would be delivered less than an hour later, I would not have had the epi (I really didn't get much benefit from it anyway, since I ws ready to push as soon as it was done).

To make this post even longer...even worse than other moms criticizing you for not b-feeding, how about a man criticizing you? Like he's ever done it? I b-fed DD for 5 1/2 weeks, and I wanted to do it longer. She had other ideas. When she was born, we couldn't even get her to latch on well for 5 days. Before she even left the hospital I had to pump and feed her the b-milk via bottles because she wouldn't nurse, which in turn made her jaundice worse. Once home, I tried faithfully to get her to nurse, and would usually end the effort by bottle-feeding her milk I had pumped. After 5 1/2 weeks, I simply couldn't do it anymore - I was so stressed out and both emotionally and physiaclly drained. Yet a guy who plays on DH's pool league (who had only met me once) had the gall to tell DH that I was just being lazy, and it was all part of being a mom!!! Like he has ever had to go through that? Like I would have been so upset had I simply not wanted to b-feed? Believe me, I know all about the benefits of b-feeding, but sometimes it somply doesn't work out the way we plan.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but sometimes it's nice to vent!!