I used to be a server so I'm very soap box on this subject. Yes, there are really bad servers at there, but 99 percent of the servers out there work there butt off to make every dime they can. When you don't tip a server for whatever reason you are really hurting that server.
Even so, you believe handcuffs are the answer.
The only time I tried to "stiff" a server...was when the server NEGLECTED my table the ENTIRE TIME we were in the restaurant except towards the end.
We were at Shells, were seated and never got a server. I grabbed the first one I saw after a bit of a wait and she didn't know who our server was and opted to assist us and find a manager.
Between her and the manager we were served and it was eventually discovered that our serveer was waiting on a group adjacent to us and was new and was frazzled by what appeared to be a very persnickety group.
I felt she deserved no tip. My DH gave her a little and I highly disapproved. It was HER fault that she neglected us. Noone else's.
I did tip the server in the next section for stepping up to the plate.
Yes--the whole point of stiffing a server is to teach them a lesson.
We weren't in that restaurant and "Busy" isn't an excuse.
I would expect to be properly informed of any delays and not just ignored.
We do tip and we tip well. But if you can't maintain good customer service despite the "flaws" that are beyond the server's control...well, that is a problem.
I'm so sick of that "but it's busy" mentality. Often that just becomes a crutch to hold onto to blame others. A server can still be good and earn their tip even if the kitchen is backed up.
And you know what--even if they have a bad day, the fact that you like that the couple got arrested...what exactly does that prove?
Hurting someone's feelings isn't a crime.