No its definately my fault. I thought it was 30 days out you could cancel and should not have waited, DSIL and family was not going with us this XMAS (just a studio for us). Its kind of complicated-we had a Aug 06 trip they could not go on because of the chemo etc so we re scheduled an even bigger group for next June. Then we watched airfare which has been a total rip off all fall, (we do have AP so that would have helped). Then last week we offered to have all 50 family members on that side for XMAS at our house on Saturday Dec 30 so it would be even harder to get home Friday night and then that large of a party the next day which was the final reason to cancel-plus we felt guilty about going anyway. The trip was planned day by day at 11 months (partly because of AP) well before any of these events. Plus part of the reason for the post was to educate any other members as dumb as I am that may be cancelling in the future (or that week even).
The really good news is she is done with all the treatments and everything looks good and we (15 of us) are Reserving 2 2BR's at VWL day by day at 11 months for 2008 (actaully NY week since its leap year there will no school that week)-2 short years.

Promise not to take anyones ressie for next year-we are banking ahead of time for a change.