I need some ideas on what would be an appropriate gift for college graduation.
Some background info: My BIL called two months before the graduation to tell us when the party will be. His reasoning is that he doesn't want a problem with dates like we had with HS graduation parties for our other children. His two oldest kids are the same age/grade as my two. Our oldest two graduated 8th grade on the same day. They had a big 8th gr. grad (friends and family) party. We didn't attend since our daughter had a pool party for her friends on the same day. We did send a card with a check. They didn't even give our DD a card. When these same two kids graduated HS we each had a friends/family party. We all attended each other's party and both graduates received cards with cash. When our younger two were graduating HS they planned their party for the weekend that our child graduated. Their child had graduated a month earlier, but all of the weekends in between weren't good for them to have a party! If I didn't have our party that weekend I would have to wait 3 weeks to have it. The following week was July 4th, and the week after that the same BIL was having a family BBQ. We had planned a much smaller party for this DD, grandparents and aunts/uncles only. Of course, since BIL had called way in advance, they did not come to our party. I had expected this and had planned accordingly! Now our oldest two are graduating from college on the same day. I am not planning a party. (I only 'do' HS grad, not 8th gr. or college grad parties.) I don't know if we will be able to attend as we will probably be moving our DD back home then. I don't want to send a check again, because I know that our DD's graduation won't be acknowledged (since we're not having a party.) I know that this is not my niece's fault and I don't want to 'punish' her. What would be a nice 'token' type gift that I could send to congratulate her.
I just know that if she goes to graduate school there will be another party! Then first job..... first promotion... engagement... shower... wedding
Some background info: My BIL called two months before the graduation to tell us when the party will be. His reasoning is that he doesn't want a problem with dates like we had with HS graduation parties for our other children. His two oldest kids are the same age/grade as my two. Our oldest two graduated 8th grade on the same day. They had a big 8th gr. grad (friends and family) party. We didn't attend since our daughter had a pool party for her friends on the same day. We did send a card with a check. They didn't even give our DD a card. When these same two kids graduated HS we each had a friends/family party. We all attended each other's party and both graduates received cards with cash. When our younger two were graduating HS they planned their party for the weekend that our child graduated. Their child had graduated a month earlier, but all of the weekends in between weren't good for them to have a party! If I didn't have our party that weekend I would have to wait 3 weeks to have it. The following week was July 4th, and the week after that the same BIL was having a family BBQ. We had planned a much smaller party for this DD, grandparents and aunts/uncles only. Of course, since BIL had called way in advance, they did not come to our party. I had expected this and had planned accordingly! Now our oldest two are graduating from college on the same day. I am not planning a party. (I only 'do' HS grad, not 8th gr. or college grad parties.) I don't know if we will be able to attend as we will probably be moving our DD back home then. I don't want to send a check again, because I know that our DD's graduation won't be acknowledged (since we're not having a party.) I know that this is not my niece's fault and I don't want to 'punish' her. What would be a nice 'token' type gift that I could send to congratulate her.
I just know that if she goes to graduate school there will be another party! Then first job..... first promotion... engagement... shower... wedding
