college girls gone wild

[pigletgirl]

Honestly she's still dreaming about it all. Pretty soon once she's there and settled she may change. I sure did. The idea of no house rules and whatnot is super appealing.

With that said, if she does decide to drink she should have people that she trusts to get her from point A to B.


FWIW, alcohol IS NOT allowed in the dorms.

 

[Momvic5]

I must say in defense of the "party girl", that i did my fair share of partying through college. I was in a sorority and my Dh was in a fraternity so we had a good time. With that said, i also graduated with honors for my BS in Chemical Engineering. Still went out in graduate school and graduated top of my class with my MS in ChemE. Just saying that it can be done and partying doesn't always equal failure.

I completely agree too! My dh is Mechanical Engineer and while in college, he had a roommate that was also in the engineering program but was a complete "party guy". His partying never ended...he went straight from one party to another the whole time he was in college. One day a professor sarcastically told him that alcohol kills brains cells, and his reply was, "only the weak ones." He, too, graduated at the top of his class and is now a responsible husband and father.

 

[klacey1]

Why are "coming to her senses" or "dropping out" the only options? I have a DD who is a college Jr, and she's living in an apartment this coming year. But the first two years, there were major instances of roommates doing some MAJOR partying in the city nearby (fake IDs). She had one roommate (a nursing major) that my DD frequently had to clean up after when she vomited. As far as I know, she's still a student, as are the others.

Just started typing out some of the horror stories she told me, but I'll spare you.

A bunch of them moved into a house together this year. My DD got an apartment with a girl who's pretty much not a partyer, like my DD. Don't get me wrong...I don't think either one of them NEVER drinks or attends parties but DD shares a lot with me (like all the nightmare stories from the first two years) and I feel as confident as I possibly can that she's making wise decisions. Her current roommate reminds me of the brunette in "Legally Blonde" who's the stuffy society girl (but I'm warming up to her). DD said that when the roommate gets ready to go out, she puts on pearls.

Good luck to your DD and the roommate situation. There can be a whole lot of drama.

I agree. I had friends in college who went out 3 nights a week and still had decent GPA's. They liked to "party hearty" and made it work. Most of them are very productive in society and decent people (some are not so decent, but that doesn't have to do with college drinking )

 

[arminnie]

Big time partying does not necessaily mean being drunk all the time. I went to a school in New Orleans with pretty strict academic admission standards. Drinking was legal (years ago) 24/7, and we actually were pretty responsible with alcohol even if we did stay out till all hours.

I never made it home to bed before 2am - yet I managed to graduate Phi Beta Kappa in three years while working 20+ hours a week.

I don't know a single person in my class who flunked out. College can be fun too.

A side anecdote - at a college reunion a few years ago my friend (who is really an academic snob with a Phd) told her daughter "I never knew she was smart". (I went to a much better grad school than she did.) I think most people thought me more a party girl than an academic.

 

[DisneyGirl421]

I went to a huge party school, and did my fair share of partying, especially this past year (my senior year).
I was out almost every week Thurs-Sat, but did not always get completely drunk every night. And this was on top of my senior theatre capstone and history thesis. And I still graduated with a 3.15 gpa! ((sciences killed me, ugh))

Everyone is different when it comes to partying. I knew so many people who went out basically every night, but they knew how to balance work and play and most graduated with gpas above 3.0. Some learned the hard way freshman year, but then shaped up for the rest of their years, learning their limits. Its basically a live-and-learn situation.