Co-Worker Trouble--WWYD?

[Christine]

I'd absolutely go to your company's HR and make a complaint. She sounds like a nut job, and when dealing with them it's best to have a paper trail. I'd say, "Co-worker X made some unwanted personal remarks to me and I want her to be notified by her boss that I find that unacceptable."

Better safe than sorry...

I have to agree with this. I know it sounds rather harsh. But she crossed over the line TWICE--the first time by reading your calendar and making comments (which I could have let go). But she crossed BIG TIME when she mentioned this to another co-worker. Way over the line of professionalism and she needs a reprimand.

 

[dcgrumpy]

I wouldn't do anything, I've worked with enough whackjobs over the years to learn to ignore them unless they pose a threat. If I reported every nutjob to HR, HR would think I was the nutjob.

 

[poohandwendy]

I would hand her the business card of a decent shrink. She sounds off.

 

[malificentsman]

I'd milk it and drive her REALLY

Good call, come in the day after the date with John wearing the same clothes you wore the day before with you hair messed up and what not. Tell her you had a wild night and apologize for the way you look!

 

[ducklite]

Well, I didn't need to do anything. Her boss sent her home until she can get a grip on herself, because she apparantly went nuts on one of the field guys this morning about something else.

Our HR director is out today, I wouldn't be surprised if she gets fired when he comes back in, because I know she's already had at least one official reprimand.

RUDisney--My DH is out of town for work, and she knows this, as I alter my office hours slightly when he's here.

One of my coworkers at another job site who I'm tight with (a guy) heard the general scuttlebutt and called me offering to play the part of "John" over the phone to totally whack her out--he can't stand her and would love nothing more than to send her off the deep end and out her office window head first.

Oh, the drama...

Anne

 

[Bob Slydell]

Good call, come in the day after the date with John wearing the same clothes you wore the day before with you hair messed up and what not. Tell her you had a wild night and apologize for the way you look!

 

[ducklite]

Good call, come in the day after the date with John wearing the same clothes you wore the day before with you hair messed up and what not. Tell her you had a wild night and apologize for the way you look!

Oh, now THAT would be funny!

Anne

 

[Quinn222]

I'd go to HR and report what happened. Even though it is sort of funny, it isn't really.

 

[horseshowmom]

Well, I didn't need to do anything. Her boss sent her home until she can get a grip on herself, because she apparantly went nuts on one of the field guys this morning about something else.

Our HR director is out today, I wouldn't be surprised if she gets fired when he comes back in, because I know she's already had at least one official reprimand.

RUDisney--My DH is out of town for work, and she knows this, as I alter my office hours slightly when he's here.

One of my coworkers at another job site who I'm tight with (a guy) heard the general scuttlebutt and called me offering to play the part of "John" over the phone to totally whack her out--he can't stand her and would love nothing more than to send her off the deep end and out her office window head first.

Oh, the drama...

Anne

It sounds like it will be handled now, but if things hadn't worked out like they have, I would probably have looked at it differently than most everybody else has.

I would have gone into her office (after I had the first co-worker comment on it which proved she was running her mouth) and told her that what I had been told (without including their name since this woman is obviously nuts) and that I didn't appreciate it. I would have told her that my husband was fully aware that I was having dinner with a friend and that it wasn't any of her business. Furthermore, she was damaging my reputation by spreading lies about me, and people have been sued for less, and that she'd better hope I didn't hear one more remark from anybody else... (Might be good for her to know that she's not the only one who can "go off".)

We don't have a HR dept. where I work, so that wouldn't be an option for me (otherwise I'd do that too).

 

[Chilehead Too]

I'd milk it and drive her REALLY

OMG I am so with Bob on this.

I go out to dinner with male friends pretty often. (ok, so most of them are gay ) but still I have one good friend that his wife will actually call me and set up the date. People need to mind their own business.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Anne, Anne, Anne, you are such a harlot, must be the jersey part still in you..


She sounds like a complete idiot, I would have to screw with her. Put a framed 8x10 of some hillbilly on your desk and call him John.

 

[ducklite]

Anne, Anne, Anne, you are such a harlot, must be the jersey part still in you..

It's the Manasquan barbie in me

She sounds like a complete idiot, I would have to screw with her. Put a framed 8x10 of some hillbilly on your desk and call him John.

Or better yet a photo of my REALLY HOT and REALLY GAY friend Sergio (yeah, that's his real name!)

Anne

 

[debster812]

I agree with others who have said milk it, and make her crazy.

This happened to me ages ago. I work in a predominantly male industy. There were PLENTY of rumours flying about me and a couple of my co-workers. What no one here at work realized is that BOTH of them were friends of DH's from high school, and he had known them forever.

 

[TerriP]

You could do what my co-worker did when one of our co-workers said they thought she was having an affair...put a lawyer on retainer and threaten to sue the company if they didn't fire the person.

Or, you could do what I would do, have a "Come to Jesus" meeting with her and tell her to stop spreading her lies.

 

[Bob Slydell]

You could do what my co-worker did when one of our co-workers said they thought she was having an affair...put a lawyer on retainer and threaten to sue the company if they didn't fire the person.

That's a tad bit over the top, IMO. Especially since there's nothing illegal or against most company's policies for being in idiot. If so, there'd be a lot higher unemployment rates in this country.

I just realized I should be worried about my DW leaving me -- she's going out to dinner with a GROUP of men on Thursday night.

Oh, wait, no, those are just clients of hers.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Especially since there's nothing illegal or against most company's policies for being in idiot. If so, there'd be a lot higher unemployment rates in this country.

Aint that the truth!
Seems like most in your office know she is a nutjob so just ignore her. It's none of her business anyway.

 

[Daxx]

Seriously, maybe next time on your calendar, maybe put down "dinnerJ" or "dinnerj", so it won't be so obvious you are having dinner with someone. I take it your calendar is up on a wall in your office or cubicle? Maybe keep your calendar in your desk drawer next time, at least when your wacky coworker is around. It really isn't her business who you are meeting with,etc.

There is no reason whatsoever that the OP should do any of these things! This isn't information to hide nor should she feel like she has to hide anything! What right did the coworker have to read her calendar and stick her nose into things that weren't her business!? This is nothing that the OP has to be ashamed of, nor has to hide from others nor has to "shorthand". Hiding her calendar away makes the OP seem more sneaky!

I bet if the OP had "Dr. Appt. 6:30 pm" if the co-worker would've asked "Oh, what doctor? What's wrong?"!!

 

[TerriP]

That's a tad bit over the top, IMO.

Ya think?

The original incident happend over five years ago and for some reason she recently announced at a meeting that she wanted all of us to remember that she does not take gossip lightly and that next time she will sue anyone (along with the company) who speaks of her husband or daughters in a negative way. Can you say "nut job"????

 

[Bob Slydell]

Ya think?

The original incident happend over five years ago and for some reason she recently announced at a meeting that she wanted all of us to remember that she does not take gossip lightly and that next time she will sue anyone (along with the company) who speaks of her husband or daughters in a negative way. Can you say "nut job"????

 

[Daxx]

That's a tad bit over the top, IMO. Especially since there's nothing illegal or against most company's policies for being in idiot.

I don't know ... couldn't it be justified as slander!!?