co-ed sleepover for 19 kids... all ages 6 - 8?

[matthew&haleysmom]

I know several parents who had coed parties for their elementary school children, HOWEVER...the boys always had to leave about 10. and the sleepover was just for the girls.

This is what we did for DD's, 8, birthday party last year. She had 10 girls stay over. There is 1 boy she plays with all of the time and wanted him at her party. We invited him and his mom picked him up at 10. The had a lot of fun. All of the girls dressed up as princesses and they made him dress up as a king! It was too funny to watch.

My DH and DS, 4, hid in our bedroom. DD wants another sleep over next year. DH & DS both said they are staying at my moms house.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

the co-ed part doesn't bother me - but 18 sure is a lot!!! I would do it if I knew the parents and knew I could trust them.

we have done it with 12 at that age and 3 adults to supervise. That was bad enough when they all got loud and wanting to run up and down stairs.

 

[Papa Deuce]

At that age it would not bother me but I cannot imagine arriving, dropping off my kids and not knowing. I always call ahead and get all details so that I know what is going on.

I am surprised the host parents did not inform all the parents, didn't someone get a clue when the batman and princess sleeping bags were piled up next to each other

As for a co-ed sleepover for teens - back in the day that was referred to far differently than a slumber party
Now my 18 year old is in a co-ed dorm...........The director of housing asked us parents at orientation "Have any of you hosted a 9 month slumber party?"

As I said, we just figured it was like all the other ones - about 8 girls. My kids were at that house since 3PM today so we never saw anybody else at the event. The "sleepover" didn't start until about 7PM.

My wife will have a discussion with the parents tomorrow, I am sure. My wife and the mom are somewhat friendly, though not exactly friends. I don't think this will be a problem in the future; my wife will handle it.

 

[KikiFan]

I'm in charge of lock-in's at our church and that typically involves about 25 teens in the house. (Our church has a house located on the property that's the teen center) So the co-ed part doesn't bother me.

The fact that you weren't told in advance and so few chaperones would really be a deal breaker for me. When we have 20-25 kids we always have 4-6 chaperones. 2 males and 2 females or 3 and 3.

 

[mamacatnv]

As I said, we just figured it was like all the other ones - about 8 girls. My kids were at that house since 3PM today so we never saw anybody else at the event. The "sleepover" didn't start until about 7PM.

My wife will have a discussion with the parents tomorrow, I am sure. My wife and the mom are somewhat friendly, though not exactly friends. I don't think this will be a problem in the future; my wife will handle it.

Papa Duece I didn't mean to come across as judgemental I have a teen, I assume nothing This would be a classic example of something he would have known the details of but would wait to share until after the event.

I think the hosting parents should have informed all parents involved strictly as a courtesy.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Papa Duece I didn't mean to come across as judgemental I have a teen, I assume nothing This would be a classic example of something he would have known the details of but would wait to share until after the event.

I think the hosting parents should have informed all parents involved strictly as a courtesy.

Understood, and thanks.

 

[lovesmurfs]

I'm a fan of the "one kid per year of age" when planning a party. Many 6-year olds I know are way too immature and not ready for even being at an overnight, let alone a big party like that.

This must be a case of the parents being afraid to say no to their children. I just can't imagine such a large group of kids in my home.

 

[shortbun]

I think I agree, but still we should have been told about the co-ed part.

Yeah, I think the host parents failed on both levels and I would question their judgement from now on. Fwiw, I did not allow my son to attend co-ed sleepovers after he reached the age where kids he knew were discussing 'sex.' At 1st grade a couple of the boys were pretty regularly talking about sex and what it involved. Thus ended the co-ed sleepover. Sad but true. One of the mothers pushed it until they were about 9 and found two kids spooning on the floor at her home. My question - if you're smart enough to know to have them sleeping in different rooms, why have the sleepover without telling parents?

We have sleepovers here a lot. Six is about where it becomes less than manageable. As they've gotten older, I've reduced the number to ttl 4.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Yeah, I think the host parents failed on both levels and I would question their judgement from now on. Fwiw, I did not allow my son to attend co-ed sleepovers after he reached the age where kids he knew were discussing 'sex.' At 1st grade a couple of the boys were pretty regularly talking about sex and what it involved. Thus ended the co-ed sleepover. Sad but true. One of the mothers pushed it until they were about 9 and found two kids spooning on the floor at her home. My question - if you're smart enough to know to have them sleeping in different rooms, why have the sleepover without telling parents?

We have sleepovers here a lot. Six is about where it becomes less than manageable. As they've gotten older, I've reduced the number to ttl 4.

Maybe they just didn't tell us.... Our kids sleep there, and their daughter sleeps here so often I can only guess that maybe it just slipped her mind.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I said yes because those kids will entertain each other...and if there is a brother and sister living in that house...it'd only seem fair to let them each have friends over to avoid them bothering the other

 

[Planogirl]

I see nothing wrong with the coed part at that age but I think that they need more adults including a few willing to stay up all night. That;s a lot of kids.