Closing threads at OP requests. Agree or disagree?

[Free4Life11]

Posts that go against posting guidelines

Today I quoted a post and said "Then why are you drawn to his threads?" And my post was deleted....

 

[kristen821]

I believe if you start the thread you should let it run--As others have said if you don't want the opinion don't ask for it but by the same token if someone gets nasty for no real reason other than to be nasty I feel that there should be a way out but with that I believe the nasty posters thread should be removed.
Just like earlier today I was jumped on by ppl because I posted a link that contained info that i believed to be relative to the thread started and replies received in regards to the query--At that point it became about whether or not I was in possesion of what knowledge I do have on the subject and whether or not I had gotten it the way I said I did and ppl attributing quotes to me incorrectly--The OP asked me to remove my posts because I was scaring her.
So yes while threads do take on a life of their own you have to be prepared for it and accept the good with the bad because if we remember right they are just opinions and everyone's entitled to one!

I read that post. I agree with you and don't think you were trying to scare her. The way her op was stated made it sound much worse then it was and you were encouraging her to get checked out. In that situation it is more important to be safe then sorry even if it does scare you. It turned out that it wasn't a big deal but if the whole story was told in the op you wouldn't have typed what you did. I don't think you were trying to be mean but you were caring. Sorry just had to put my 2 cents in.

That being said it doesn't bother me if the op wants to close the thread. As long as anyone else that wants to continue the topic doesn't put inspired by or make any more comments about the op they should be able to start a new thread. Sometimes flame wars start out of no where and words get twisted around and some people get offended so if they really want it closed then I say go for it. I personally just wouldn't go back to the thread but some people can't do that i guess.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

No, people flamed you because the OP came in her first post and said that despite her doctor's reassurance a nurse insisted on giving her contrary frightening info. She was upset that the nurse did that - and you did the same thing by continuing to post info that was upsetting to her.

The whole thing was about whether the nurse was out of line. You kept posting exactly the kind of info she was upset that the nurse gave her in her OP. Info that she preferred to get from her Doctor, not from a nurse who was unfamiliar with her case and either igorant of, or uncaring about her anxiety issues.

That is exactly the kind of post I think the OP should be able to lock.

I'll admit yes the Op asked if the nurse should be reported for scaring her and i said no that she was being honest and forthcoming--Other ppl were saying report her she's a terrible person and she should have never said anything to scare you--I didn't feel the nurse was out of line because she told her she may have been at risk-One person even said that if she had been the first responder to the scene and actually dealt w/the guys blood she wouldnt have been at risk at which point I posted the link that dealt with the %age of health care workers who were infected by cutaneous contact like I believed the OP"s situation to be---I didn't feel that ppl should be telling her that she was at no risk of becoming infected because she was scared--That wasnt helping her===Plus she said that she had done research up the wazoo on it so I dont know how anything I had to say couldve scared her----I believe she was looking for ppl to feel sorry for her and her situation which if it had actually been as she had led us to believe it would have warranted sympathy but we find all that had happened was she lent him her cell phone

 

[bicker]

Besides, to those of you who say "offensive" posts should just be removed and the thread allowed to continue, who gets to decide which posts are offensive? The OP? The mods? And then we start the whole "that's not what I meant!!" defense.

The moderators get to determine that -- as they do today. Nothing about that would change.

 

[VSL]

ITA with the OP.

 

[Marseeya]

I agree with Dan. Personally, I think some people overuse it and are a bit too sensitive like in the cases of debates, but not regarding vents or requests for support. I've never requested one of my threads be closed here, but I did once in a different forum because I was being personally attacked. I'm pretty thick skinned, but this went beyond what anyone should tolerate.

 

[bicker]

The really big problems happen when the OP requests that the thread be locked because the opinions aren't going their way. Some folks come to the Internet to get rationalization for unethical actions they plan to conduct anyway, and then get upset when they don't get universal support from the general public. Giving the OP the power to have the thread locked, like this sometimes seems to legitimize poor conduct.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Today I quoted a post and said "Then why are you drawn to his threads?" And my post was deleted....

I don't think that I read that thread, but I don't think it should have been deleted unless it somehow violated board rules OR what you quoted violated board rules, in which case they have to remove that post, too.

 

[CheshireVal]

It is one of my biggest pet peeves about this board.

If you post it, you're putting it out there for the everybody to comment on. It sort of becomes "community property" in that way, because of the the time and thought that other posters might invest in that thread over the course of its life. To have it suddenly closed is very, very, irritating.

 

[phorsenuf]

The really big problems happen when the OP requests that the thread be locked because the opinions aren't going their way. Some folks come to the Internet to get rationalization for unethical actions they plan to conduct anyway, and then get upset when they don't get universal support from the general public. Giving the OP the power to have the thread locked, like this sometimes seems to legitimize poor conduct.

Exactly! Those are the worse. Now if the OP is totally getting bashed, then yeah, that's different but then I would think that would fall somewhere under personal attacks and then the mods should lock them.

Mods - I have a question. If there is a post that starts one way and then turns another (but gets real interesting with different views, not nasty) and the OP shuts it down. Are we allowed to bring that subject back in another thread?

 

[Tigger_Magic]

It is one of my biggest pet peeves about this board.

If you post it, you're putting it out there for the everybody to comment on. It sort of becomes "community property" in that way, because of the the time and thought that other posters might invest in that thread over the course of its life. To have it suddenly closed is very, very, irritating.

 

[Freyja]

I think that they should only be closed when there are obvious violations of board policies and even then I think that the offending posts should be removed and the thread left open whenever possible.

I couldn´t agree with you more.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I have asked for several of my OP threads to be closed over the many years here, but only where they were originally posted in a serious sense (example, birthday of a past deceased President) and some several 'people' (now long gone themselves, thankfully) took the thread down a totally different course, of ridicule and buffoonery. Or, where, again, a benign thread in the OP turned into a free-for-all of accusations, etc. I think over the 7 years I have been here I have asked for 3 of my OP threads to be closed. I do think it a good option to have available, JMO.

Let's hear it for buffoonery!!

 

[luvflorida]

I guess I'm in the minority on this one. Yes, I agree that the OP should be able to ask the mods to have a thread closed. I have done this once in the past.

I posted a thread asking for opinions, (did I do enough, should I do more type of thing), and I have to honestly say that I had no idea how passionate the responses would be. I figured I'd get a little advice and that would be the end of it. Maybe I was being naive, I don't know. It didn't seem like the thread was going to die a natural death, and I was becoming uncomfortable with some of the responses. When I started to receive some nasty PM's, I decided enough was enough, and asked that the thread be closed. It also disturbed me that posters started to attack other posters, and I was just afraid the tone was going to get nasty.

I would have had no problem with someone starting another thread to continue discussing similar issues, but not one that centered on one specific situation, (having nothing to do with my own family). I hope that makes sense.

I agree that sometimes people ask threads to be closed for the wrong reason, (OP gets mad, etc.), but I also think there are valid reasons to ask a mod to close a thread.

 

[RobinMarie]

The really big problems happen when the OP requests that the thread be locked because the opinions aren't going their way. Some folks come to the Internet to get rationalization for unethical actions they plan to conduct anyway, and then get upset when they don't get universal support from the general public. Giving the OP the power to have the thread locked, like this sometimes seems to legitimize poor conduct.

I completely agree with this sentiment. I've seen quite a few passive aggressive posters get upset and requested closed threads when called out.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

Yep...I agree. If it goes astay then let it go and see what happens.

 

[Nancy]

I don't think threads should be closed at the OP's request. If you no longer are interested in the thread or if something offended you, stop reading/posting.

It just seems rather immature when posters do that, it reminds me of a child saying "I'm not having fun anymore, so I'm taking my toys and going home".

Couldn't have said it better myself. When you post on an open forum and something is a bit "not right" and people call you on it...then stop reading and posting to it. It will die a slow death. A moderator will close the thread if it is getting nasty and violates policies, or they will delete individual posts.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Let's hear it for buffoonery!!

I second the motion--aye aye for buffoonery! Is that an actual word? I like it, but I'm terrified to look it up in urban dictionary.com

 

[luvflorida]

I don't think threads should be closed at the OP's request. If you no longer are interested in the thread or if something offended you, stop reading/posting.

The OP can leave the thread, but it can be uncomfortable or disconcerting knowing that people are continuing to discuss something that may be upsetting to the OP. The lesson here, I think, is to be very careful about you post and to be absolutely certain that you're okay with it being discussed.

I understand this better now. This IS an open forum and ANYONE can read it.

 

[dianeschlicht]

The really big problems happen when the OP requests that the thread be locked because the opinions aren't going their way. Some folks come to the Internet to get rationalization for unethical actions they plan to conduct anyway, and then get upset when they don't get universal support from the general public. Giving the OP the power to have the thread locked, like this sometimes seems to legitimize poor conduct.

I agree. If you can't stand the heat don't enter the kitchen!