Christmas Eve Dinner conundrum

[The Mystery Machine]

I would bring an alternate dish and say "DH, DS, and I don't eat oysters" No harm, no foul

Yes, I would just be honest.

 

[THE HAT]

My db and his family live in Hampstead.....it is very remote and a seasonal area.

I would speak up before hand and say that you 3 don't care for oysters, and then offer to make another dish to go ALONG with the oyster one. If you don't want to say anything before hand then just bring a dish and say it then.

 

[cristit14]

We get together with the in-laws on Christmas Eve and they have this tradition of having Oyster Stew. I told them from the beginning that I didn't like oysters and I would always bring a different kind of stew/soup to share. No body has ever had a problem with it.

 

[GeorgeG]

I hear the Magic Kingdom is really nice on Christmas Eve...

 

[Hoodie]

I'd tell them. Getting really sick off of them could indicate an allergy on your part. Let her know that DS is too young to care for oysters and offer to bring an alternate dish.

I'd rather hear ahead of time if there were allergies/etc. involved.

I'd also not eat the oysters.

 

[NotUrsula]

Tell them well ahead of time that oysters are a problem for your family. If they are only expecting about 20 guests, then having enough for your family and having you not eat it would be a tremendous waste of money. They can save 25% of the price on enough oysters for all who are planning to eat them, a not-inconsiderable expense. Oysters generally do not reheat well, so they won't want to buy more than they need.

(BTW, that casserole can be made with lump crab meat or shrimp, too; that might be more popular AND less expensive for a crowd; or they could split the recipe and make half with oysters and half with a different shellfish. It doesn't call for the oyster liquor so that's easy to do.)

Whatever else you do, bring some good french bread; if the kiddies eat nothing else they can chow down on that. No hostess in her right mind turns down a gift of fresh bread.

 

[minniecarousel]

ugh! No way would I eat anything with oysters in it - can't stand them!

Faced with this situation, I'd call the hostess and say that since the 3 of you won't be eating oysters, you'll be bringing an alternate dish.....and hope she doesn't mind.

 

[mvazul]

I agree with everyone else who said to be honest. First of all, you can't eat them, because they made you sick. Let your family know you're allergic. I am allergic to almost every tropical fruit under the sun (bananas, mango and papaya being the worst). My family puts bananas in every fruit salad and jell-o. They have learned to not be offended when I don't eat those foods.

Also, we believe my daughter is taking on some of my allergies, so we are very careful with what she eats. You could say the same for your son. As far as your husband, he's an adult. He doesn't have to eat something if he doesn't want to. Just explain and take something else - enough for everyone, of course.

Michelle

 

[SDFgirl]

I'd just be honest. And I'd take enough to share because, most likely, you won't be the only ones who don't like oysters...

If I was at that dinner and you brought some alternative besides oysters, I'd get down and kiss your feet!!!!!

 

[2BigKIdz]

YUK Oysters! Might as well be Liver!

1) I would just tell them!

2) That is a ODD dish to make for everybody when many (if not most) people dont like Oysters! Didnt they ask if you liked that?

I completely agree with both. I would never make only one main dish that was oysters unless I knew everyone dining liked them.