Christmas drama ALREADY!!!!!*New Update*POST 86*

[disneystacy]

***UPDATE***


My sister called me last night (I *think* my mom told her to let me know what the plan was for Christmas, not sure though) anyhoo.....

Everyone is coming to my house Christmas Eve, my sister did ask if we could start early as her inlaws don't like to be out late (that was fine). My sister is also preparing Christmas dinner at her house. I didn't say a word about who was going etc, just that we were sorry we couldn't make it.

I also told my mom that I am not buying any gifts for my sisters inlaws, that I didn't feel it was necessary and something I didn't want to start doing. If my mom has the burning need to buy a gift for them, thats on her.

My mom now feels bad , she really doesn't want to go to my sisters house for Christmas dinner, but she doesn't want to hurt my sisters feelings by staying with me, my brother and her grandkids.
I keep telling her that my sister is the one who has obligations to her hubbies family, my mom needs to do what makes her happy. I think she should just be honest with my sister.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Nice to have things figured out, eh?

I am happy you are allowing your mom to make up her own mind and then letting it go. Keep your thoughts to yourself about what mom should do.

Keep it up and will get easier as time passes.

 

[robinb]

***UPDATE***


My sister called me last night (I *think* my mom told her to let me know what the plan was for Christmas, not sure though) anyhoo.....

Everyone is coming to my house Christmas Eve, my sister did ask if we could start early as her inlaws don't like to be out late (that was fine). My sister is also preparing Christmas dinner at her house. I didn't say a word about who was going etc, just that we were sorry we couldn't make it.

I also told my mom that I am not buying any gifts for my sisters inlaws, that I didn't feel it was necessary and something I didn't want to start doing. If my mom has the burning need to buy a gift for them, thats on her.

My mom now feels bad , she really doesn't want to go to my sisters house for Christmas dinner, but she doesn't want to hurt my sisters feelings by staying with me, my brother and her grandkids.
I keep telling her that my sister is the one who has obligations to her hubbies family, my mom needs to do what makes her happy. I think she should just be honest with my sister.

I'm glad to hear that things are working out for you . May I suggest two things? (1) Buy your sister's in-laws a little something to open up since everyone else will be opening gifts. A box of nice chocolates should do the trick and won't break the bank. (2) Just sit back and let your mom make her own decision. I know you're trying to help, but your talk about your sister's Christmas obligations will not make the decision any easier for her.

 

[disneystacy]

I'm glad to hear that things are working out for you . May I suggest two things? (1) Buy your sister's in-laws a little something to open up since everyone else will be opening gifts. A box of nice chocolates should do the trick and won't break the bank. (2) Just sit back and let your mom make her own decision. I know you're trying to help, but your talk about your sister's Christmas obligations will not make the decision any easier for her.

Honestly I don't think opening gifts will even be a issue, we usually open gifts late in the evening and I don't think they will still be at my home since they don't stay out late(per my sister). I think I am going to stick with not getting anything....like I said, I don't want to start doing this, I have enough people to buy for.

 

[SDSorority]

Honestly I don't think opening gifts will even be a issue, we usually open gifts late in the evening and I don't think they will still be at my home since they don't stay out late(per my sister). I think I am going to stick with not getting anything....like I said, I don't want to start doing this, I have enough people to buy for.

 

[disneystacy]

OP again

Plans have changed again.

My sister called my mother crying on Thanksgiving not understanding why everyone can't be together. Apparantly my sisters inlaws have declined the invitation to my home for Christmas Eve, saying its too far(45 mins) and that she should be with her family. (maybe I miss judged them ).
Now it seems my BIL feels bad about leavinghis parents alone and I guess he is fighting with my sister(he is a jerk). My mom explained that she needs to figure out what they are doing and let everyone know. Families split time all the time and she needs to get used to it. Sooooo my sister called yesterday and this is the "new" plan:

My sister and BIL will spend Christmas Eve Day with his parents, then they will drive to my house spend Christmas Eve with us, sleep over my house, have breakfast, then they will drive back to the inlaws and have Christmas dinner.

Hopefully this plan will stick. I did go out a buy a Rib Roast and it won't feed everyone if plans change again gotta love family!