Christmas candy in an Easter basket...

[mumom95]

Umm, the thought comes when someone thinks of you and gives you a gift. :

So you are saying the actual gift doesn't matter?

 

[Magic Mom]

You should take a stand and tell them to never buy your child anything again. That will teach them.

 

[happygirl]

Umm, the thought comes when someone thinks of you and gives you a gift. Those grandparents could have easily not given him a thing, and then I'm sure someone would complain about how unthoughtful they were instead of how cheap they were. Granted a 3 year old doesn't need a bag of M&M's but that wasn't the problem, the problem was that that 3lb bag wasn't filled with pastel colored candy and have a bunny on the package, so the OP though she'd comment on just how cheap her IL's are, not that they gave her child candy, talk about shallow and petty. I totally agree with the pp, no wonder the next few generations are growing up with an entitlement mentality

Well said

 

[hucifer]

talk about shallow and petty. I totally agree with the pp, no wonder the next few generations are growing up with an entitlement mentality

OMG, I make fun of my inlaws frugality, and suddenly I'm shallow and petty and my son has entitlement issues.

Seriously, that's funny stuff. You gotta love the DIS!

 

[luvmy3]

So you are saying the actual gift doesn't matter?

I didn't say that
In this case, it was candy given on Easter. Millions of kids in this country got baskets filled with it and more from their family members, so no it didn't really matter that the gift wasn't themed correctly.

 

[happygirl]

OMG, I make fun of my inlaws frugality, and suddenly I'm shallow and petty and my son has entitlement issues.

Seriously, that's funny stuff. You gotta love the DIS!

No, one said you were shallow or petty. In my opinion your son will have entitlement issues if you keep acting like the things people give him aren't good enough for him. That is what entitlement is

 

[iwrbnd]

I actually think it's kinda funny and would have gotten a good laugh about it! But, seriously, candy is expensive!

 

[luvmy3]

...is what you get when you have cheap in-laws. A 3-pound bag of Christmas M&Ms. Because it was on sale.

My son doesn't know the difference, but really? I mean...really?

OMG, I make fun of my inlaws frugality, and suddenly I'm shallow and petty and my son has entitlement issues.

Seriously, that's funny stuff. You gotta love the DIS!

I don't see the humor

 

[akcire]

...is what you get when you have cheap in-laws. A 3-pound bag of Christmas M&Ms. Because it was on sale.

My son doesn't know the difference, but really? I mean...really?

Just think, in another 8 months you can gift them back to your in-laws for Christmas...maybe even include some nice bright pink Peeps....imagine the possibilities

 

[happygirl]

i don't see the humor

ita

 

[shortbun]

I feel ya OP and I think it's funny!! You could tell them they only have a few more years until he's hip to what holiday it really is!!! I could tell by your post you were amused. I hope they're saving their money for his college fund. Oooo, I LOVe the idea of re-gifting at Christmas, don't you? Who's really going to eat those M&M's anyway?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'll say it. I totally agree with the OP. I think it's tacky and cheap. I would never say anything to them, and I'm sure the OP didn't either, but it wouldn't stop me from having my (silent) opinion, either.

Me too!

Not something I'd admit to them publicly--nothing wrong with saving a buck. The trick is to not look tacky and cheap while doing it.

And I wouldn't communicate it to the kids either.

For many--it is obvious that regardless of the gift, there was thought. For others--it seems they are figuring...eh...what difference does it make, I'll just give this and they darn well better like it.

Having had numerous occasions where I have received pure crap from a relative--it is touching when they actually put thought into a gift and it is obvoius when they don't and extremely hurtful.

I find a particular response a bit ironic about entitlement given other threads reciting their opoinios about what other folks must do with their hard earned money.


It is not entitlement to expect people to put thought and effort into giving to others. It isn't like the OP stated that her son can only eat Godiva chocolate bunnies. That would be entitlement.

 

[tluvstink]

I'm going to go out on a limb here. I'm willing to bet the OP was gracious when she saw her son's gift.

I think she came here to vent to her dis "friends"

Terri

 

[It'sWDW4me]

...is what you get when you have cheap in-laws. A 3-pound bag of Christmas M&Ms. Because it was on sale.

My son doesn't know the difference, but really? I mean...really?

Are your in-laws the people who gave a kid bacon for Christmas?

This ranks right on up there with that. DS and I spent 2 hours shopping for an Easter gift for his 5 year old half-brother! (I don't usually use that term. DS and I just call him his brother) I can't imagine spending less time and energy than that on grandkids. That's what I think the OP is most irritated with - the complete lack of time, thought, consideration involved. I mean really, how long does it take to walk past a clearance table - "ooo, Christmas M&M's $0.50, woohoo, John's Easter gift done!" That takes no thought or effort. IMHO, a gift is all about the thought and consideration - "hmm, John really likes Legos. Does he have this set? ooo, this looks interesting. Maybe he'd like something for outside. He does like baseball - maybe a new mitt?" Seriously. Which scenario sounds like a gift and which sounds like the quickest end to a perceived obligation? If you feel obligated to get me something, anything, then, please, do me a favor and don't!

OP - well, at least you seem to have a sense of humor about it! Sorry that your in-laws are so darned thoughtless.

 

[MosMom]

Not something I'd admit to them publicly--nothing wrong with saving a buck. The trick is to not look tacky and cheap while doing it.

Exactly.

Yes, you are ungrateful. Shame on you. Hahahaha I swear I'm going to start a database of the holier than thou's. Then whenever they complain I'm going to post that they need to be grateful for whatever stale Christmas candy is thrust upon them.

I'm sure the other holier than thou's will do it for me though.

 

[tiggger1]

I'll say it. I totally agree with the OP. I think it's tacky and cheap. I would never say anything to them, and I'm sure the OP didn't either, but it wouldn't stop me from having my (silent) opinion, either.

I agree with you!!!

 

[busyshrew]

OP - I completely agree with you. Yes, it's the thought that counts. And when you get a bag of candy from Christmas at Easter... well, I doubt very much that any "thought" went into it.

Here's mine: MIL gave me a birthday gift - that happened to be a raffle gift she had won in a golf tournament and shown me 3 months before (and complained bitterly about). My DH was *shocked* when he saw the present. I still laugh about it! And no, I don't hate my MIL - I have a great deal of affection for her.

Kudos to you too, for keeping a good sense of humour about all of the negative posts. It was pretty clear to me that you were just venting a bit and not seriously upset or anything.

 

[cabanafrau]

3 pounds is actually a buttload of candy though, regardless of the season. I would understand though, if the chocolate was stale

P.S. Could be worse. One time my in-laws gave their other son's children a whole decked out basket with not only chocolate, the other goodies and stuffed anumals but movies, my kids got a Cadbury egg from the bag that I gave the in-laws three days beforehand.

Yeah, that kind of inequality in giving speaks volumes to kids. Could be worse, could be that unequal between siblings. That's destructive.

I agree w/ It'sWDW4me, it's not so much about what's given or how much it cost. Something as tiny as picking a certain candy because it's wrapped in a blue or purple wrapper & it made me think of you says I know you like blue, purple, whatever & I thought of you & wanted you to have this. It works with kids and adults. It makes people feel really good to know why someone gave them a gift.

 

[hucifer]

I'm going to go out on a limb here. I'm willing to bet the OP was gracious when she saw her son's gift.

I think she came here to vent to her dis "friends"

Terri

Yep.

Are your in-laws the people who gave a kid bacon for Christmas?

OMG, no! But that's hilarious.

Yes, you are ungrateful. Shame on you.

Holy cow! This is one divided thread.

 

[Wishing on a star]

OMG!!!

This is too funny! Reminds me of the inlaws Christmas Gift threads!!!

Hey, the candy doesn't bother me as much as what else my MIL put in my sons Easter Bag (along with the cheap dollar store crap candy...)

My son, who has visual-spatial and therefore hand-eye coordination issues got (camo colored easter eggs hidden in completely obscure, impossible to find places - with MIL demanding... "Did you find the last egg??? Did you find the last egg yet????)

Plus, a cheap dollar store RUBIKs Cube to frustrate him... and cheapy cheap lightweight plastic yo-yo's that do not even work... to FURTHER frustrate him.

Needless to say, immediately upon walking in the door yesterday afternoon the whole mess was dumped in the trash..

Honey, the wrong color of M&M's is the last of my MIL candy/gift issues....

PS: Sorry if it sounds like I am ranting... But MAN it feels good to actually voice this and get it off my chest!!! Now maybe I can just laugh about it and move on!!!