Childfree (by choice) Disney Lovers!

[franandaj]

So while I enjoy my childfree life...my own body clock is kicking again...and I am getting baby fever....seeing pics of my new niece have not helped this...we are still not sure if we will have kids or not..

I'm certainly not meaning any disrespect to your feelings, but I just never "got" the whole kids thing. : The idea of changing diapers always repulsed me, I can't even do the litter boxes! Friends of mine just had a baby and the father tells me he has to change his shirt 3X a day sometimes because Elwood throws up so often. Ewww! I guess there are rewards to having children, but from my friends that have kids, I only seem hear about the negatives, so it has only reinforced my lack of desire to procreate.

 

[zima-cheryl]

I guess there are rewards to having children, but from my friends that have kids, I only seem hear about the negatives, so it has only reinforced my lack of desire to procreate.

I am with you there. Friends, family, co-workers... seems like all anyone ever does is complain about the kids. How tough it is, no time for themselves, how expensive it is, etc., etc, etc. Very, very rarely do I ever hear parents talk about anything happy or positive about their kids.

Personally the idea of taking care of a kid exhausts me. Plus I know I'm too high maintenence to have a kid... I can barely handle a husband & pets. It takes a lot of 'me' time to keep the tank on the emotional positive side. I hate to think how poor a person & parent I would be if I had to be responsible for another person or two.

 

[lakelandgal70]

I am with you there. Friends, family, co-workers... seems like all anyone ever does is complain about the kids. How tough it is, no time for themselves, how expensive it is, etc., etc, etc. Very, very rarely do I ever hear parents talk about anything happy or positive about their kids.

Personally the idea of taking care of a kid exhausts me. Plus I know I'm too high maintenence to have a kid... I can barely handle a husband & pets. It takes a lot of 'me' time to keep the tank on the emotional positive side. I hate to think how poor a person & parent I would be if I had to be responsible for another person or two.

Yeah there is no way I could take care of a kid. I have a hard time taking care of this small house, DH and 4 dogs. Now if say someone close to me had a kid I would be a great godparent lol. Have all fun with the kid then give them back. hahahaha

 

[Dax]

Yeah there is no way I could take care of a kid. I have a hard time taking care of this small house, DH and 4 dogs. Now if say someone close to me had a kid I would be a great godparent lol. Have all fun with the kid then give them back. hahahaha

Godparent maybe...You would be an "aunt" though...

 

[franandaj]

Have all fun with the kid then give them back. hahahaha

That's the ticket! :

 

[CurlyJo224]

I have pondered what the mix of DH and I's genetics would look like, or thought up different names, or looked at cute clothes.

But then I figured it out: I just want a doll!

 

[ChiCat]

I am with you there. Friends, family, co-workers... seems like all anyone ever does is complain about the kids. How tough it is, no time for themselves, how expensive it is, etc., etc, etc. Very, very rarely do I ever hear parents talk about anything happy or positive about their kids.

Personally the idea of taking care of a kid exhausts me. Plus I know I'm too high maintenence to have a kid... I can barely handle a husband & pets. It takes a lot of 'me' time to keep the tank on the emotional positive side. I hate to think how poor a person & parent I would be if I had to be responsible for another person or two.

Bwahaha I usually hear the opposite, it's all sunshine and rainbows when you have kids, but then I think to myself what kind of person would really admit it out loud having kids was one of the biggest mistakes of their life

Wellllll I work with this guy who does say that! His kids are early twenties, his daughter has always been a good kid, and is almost down with college but he says she's a spoiled brat. And his son sounds like the spawn of Satan! Anywho he openly admits that having kids was the worst decision of his life.

I get the baby itch from time to time like tonight when I was watching Away We Go. But then I have to remind myself that it's probably not a good idea to make such a life changing decision based on a movie. I can't come up with reasons to have kids. I LOVE my life and don't want to change a single thing about it. I feel very fulfilled and happy. I know that can change but I've never had a serious case of baby fever ever, just small twinges from the occasional movie or the cute baby outfit I see at Target

I truly believe my husband would make an amazing parent, moreso than me. And I personally believe had he married another girl he would have had them. When I first met him he told me that was his game plan, and when I told him I didn't want kids he was stunned. I don't think he knew to many women who felt that way. I don't know what happened but he eventually changed his mind and now when I joke about having kids he's like no dice sister!

 

[franandaj]

Bwahaha I usually hear the opposite, it's all sunshine and rainbows when you have kids, but then I think to myself what kind of person would really admit it out loud having kids was one of the biggest mistakes of their life

Wellllll I work with this guy who does say that! His kids are early twenties, his daughter has always been a good kid, and is almost down with college but he says she's a spoiled brat. And his son sounds like the spawn of Satan! Anywho he openly admits that having kids was the worst decision of his life.

I get the baby itch from time to time like tonight when I was watching Away We Go. But then I have to remind myself that it's probably not a good idea to make such a life changing decision based on a movie. I can't come up with reasons to have kids. I LOVE my life and don't want to change a single thing about it. I feel very fulfilled and happy. I know that can change but I've never had a serious case of baby fever ever, just small twinges from the occasional movie or the cute baby outfit I see at Target

I truly believe my husband would make an amazing parent, moreso than me. And I personally believe had he married another girl he would have had them. When I first met him he told me that was his game plan, and when I told him I didn't want kids he was stunned. I don't think he knew to many women who felt that way. I don't know what happened but he eventually changed his mind and now when I joke about having kids he's like no dice sister!

From your siggie, you folks are young to make that decision, but I knew back then I wasn't interested. When I was under 30 I was married to a man and could have had kids, but couldn't see it happening. I suppose we could do it now, but at 57 and 46, I don't see a reason. We could be dead before they are of age! I hope not, but we aren't the picture or health so we're better off taking care of our cats and ourselves than worrying about sperm donors and all that jazz. I have a couple friends who each one of the couple had a kid. They have two boys and each of the boys is just like their mother. The two of them raise the kids right and they are great parents, but we aren't. We're good with our kitties, and we'll stick wiht what we know!

 

[zima-cheryl]

I'm pretty much the opposite of folks. I thought I had the baby itch once, for about 5 minutes. But then I realized it was just indigestion! One good burp & I was all set.

 

[zima-cheryl]

http://disneyparks.disney.go.com/bl...ingdom-park/?CMP=SOC-WDWFY11WDW_SocMedBFB0037

I soooo want to be a mermaid!!
I really hope this goes over well & they decide to keep it past July 2nd.

 

[SkullAndBone]

Ohhh, it's good to know we are not the only ones!!..

 

[JennyMP03]

I am with you there. Friends, family, co-workers... seems like all anyone ever does is complain about the kids. How tough it is, no time for themselves, how expensive it is, etc., etc, etc.

And in the same breath these people will ask, "When are you going to have one?" Well, I don't know, you aren't making the best case for it!

Disney World was the most luxurious vacation I ever had and it made me realize I always want my vacations to be about me and my husband. And yeah, maybe life in general. Selfish, maybe, but I'd rather be honest about it than have a child that would get less than 100% of my devotion.

My kitty cat demands all of my devotion, anyway, and she isn't inclined to share

 

[zima-cheryl]

And in the same breath these people will ask, "When are you going to have one?" Well, I don't know, you aren't making the best case for it!

No, no they don't sell it very well do they?

Selfish, maybe, but I'd rather be honest about it than have a child that would get less than 100% of my devotion.

I don't think selfish.... I never use that word about our choice. Self aware, yes, but not selfish. Selfish are all those people who want you to have a kid for what ever motivation of their own even thought hey know you don't want one.

 

[franandaj]

I think the ones who are selfish are the ones who have the kids and don't realize they have made a commitment to that kid when they brought it into the world. I know that I never could have given a kid the proper attention, heck I have a hard enough time with my spouse!

 

[zima-cheryl]

heck I have a hard enough time with my spouse!

Isn't that the truth!?!?!
And I bet most days he dresses & feeds himself!

 

[franandaj]

Isn't that the truth!?!?!
And I bet most days he dresses & feeds himself!

Actually she's been disabled with severe RA for over 10 yrs, so helping her with her shoes and socks is one of my daily tasks. She can feed herself...if the drive through counts!

It all works out, but there are definitely challenges. Much as if I were taking care of a small child!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Actually she's been disabled with severe RA for over 10 yrs, so helping her with her shoes and socks is one of my daily tasks. She can feed herself...if the drive through counts!

It all works out, but there are definitely challenges. Much as if I were taking care of a small child!

Wow... I had no idea. You are so sweet to take such good care of her!

 

[franandaj]

Wow... I had no idea. You are so sweet to take such good care of her!

After all these years it's just become our routine. I'm lucky because through her and her family's good fortune I don't have to work a real job so taking care of her is all I really have to worry about. Well and the cats.

 

[HockeyKat]

After all these years it's just become our routine. I'm lucky because through her and her family's good fortune I don't have to work a real job so taking care of her is all I really have to worry about. Well and the cats.

Still, a lot of people wouldn't have stood by her through all of this. I agree with Cheryl, you are definitely sweet!!

 

[franandaj]

Still, a lot of people wouldn't have stood by her through all of this. I agree with Cheryl, you are definitely sweet!!

Awww, thanks. But so rarely do you find someone so compatible, where you complete each other's sentences and share such a strange mix of interests, it was easy to stick around. Now the part when the in laws went all senile and crazy THAT is the part I should really be commended for sticking through!