Childfree (by choice) Disney Lovers!

[CurlyJo224]

I'd rather regret not having kids, than have them and regret it.

 

[MartyM]

I'd rather regret not having kids, than have them and regret it.

DING DING! We have a winner!!


My Yoga teacher once said to the class, when we were talking about kids, "I was never interested in dealing with the day-to-day of having kids, so I didn't think that it was a good idea. I did realize later, though, that most people who have kids aren't interested in that either."

 

[zima-cheryl]

I'd rather regret not having kids, than have them and regret it.

On the very remote, off chance you wake up at 60 & decide you changed your mind you still have the option to adopt or become a foster parent. Once you have a kid there really is no sending it back. How horrible for you & the kid to have to live like that for 15 - 20 years.

 

[marinadca]

I'd rather regret not having kids, than have them and regret it.

Yes!!!

I constantly get the "you'll change your mind"...and since I am 28 and we've been married for 5 years, I get it a lot. I have known since was about 12/13 that I do not want children. If I happen to change my mind once it is "too late" to have one, there are things I could do to have children in my life. However, they cannot be returned. I think way too many people have kids because that is what one "should" do, or its what happens after you get married. Its unacceptable to say you dont like having kids once you've had them...but I am sure a lot more people are unhappy with their choice then are willing to admit.

 

[danijake]

Yes!!!

I constantly get the "you'll change your mind"...and since I am 28 and we've been married for 5 years, I get it a lot. I have known since was about 12/13 that I do not want children. If I happen to change my mind once it is "too late" to have one, there are things I could do to have children in my life. However, they cannot be returned. I think way too many people have kids because that is what one "should" do, or its what happens after you get married. Its unacceptable to say you dont like having kids once you've had them...but I am sure a lot more people are unhappy with their choice then are willing to admit.

I completely agree with you. Many people have children because that's just what you do. For me personally, I figured I'd have kids, and I talked with my husband about it a few times before and after we got married. I started to really think about it, and the more I did, the less I wanted to have children. My mother is currently raising my 14 year old sister, and I've seen a lot that I do not want to go through or think about. Not only do I not want to go through pregnancy or the infant years, but I don't want to go through dealing with schools, bullies, etc. I can't even keep up with my sister in her friends. One minute she's fighting with this girl, then the next minute they're BFFs. No thank you!

I could go on talking about this forever! I'm just happy to know there are others that feel the same way.

 

[CurlyJo224]

DING DING! We have a winner!!


My Yoga teacher once said to the class, when we were talking about kids, "I was never interested in dealing with the day-to-day of having kids, so I didn't think that it was a good idea. I did realize later, though, that most people who have kids aren't interested in that either."

I had an interesting realization a couple of days ago at my retail job.

There was a mom of two young boys who sounded like she was at the end of her rope. They were squabbling, and making enough noise that she was having trouble finding what she needed (and I was having trouble finding what was left of my sanity).

I thought to myself, 'And people think I want to do this?' And then it occurred to me that to the people who tell us, "You'll change your mind," or "It's different when it's your own," or things like that, all of that is worth it. It's a completely foreign concept to these people that to us, it's not necessarily worth it. And they just can't fathom that.

 

[Queen-Bee]

I also get the 'you'll be sorry' speech from people who think they know me better than i know myself.

Im not saying we wont have kids at some point, and while we're both pushing 30 and everyone is telling me time is running out.... we're enjoying it just being us 2... we dont love each other any less because we dont have children.

we lasted 10 years without kids, and thoroughly enjoyed every moment and especially the lay ins on a Sunday morning!

 

[dgbg100106]

I had an interesting realization a couple of days ago at my retail job.

There was a mom of two young boys who sounded like she was at the end of her rope. They were squabbling, and making enough noise that she was having trouble finding what she needed (and I was having trouble finding what was left of my sanity).

I thought to myself, 'And people think I want to do this?' And then it occurred to me that to the people who tell us, "You'll change your mind," or "It's different when it's your own," or things like that, all of that is worth it. It's a completely foreign concept to these people that to us, it's not necessarily worth it. And they just can't fathom that.

I can honestly say that I am 40 years old and husband is 50, we enjoy doing what we want, we want, and not having to worry about children and how to juggle all that goes with it.

We have friends and family that have children, we are god parents, we love kids, we just did not want to give up our lifestyle.

Some people just don't get it, and think we are selfish for not having kids.

To me, it would have been selfish to have them and not cherish them.

To each his own and I wish people would butt out of our business. One nice thing is we are finally getting old enough that people stop asking, and now have moved on to the adoption route.

 

[LaurenM]

We do have a 2 year old, but we choose NOT to bring him to Disney. Most people I know get all huffy and puffy when I tell them that we are planning another Disney trip and we are not taking him with us.

I feel that Disney is a special place for both the DH and myself and we enjoy being just to two of us. we got married on Luau Beach in October and he was there with us. But, he did not go into the parks (he stayed with the in-laws)

Are we really horrible for not taking our child with us? We will take him and his future siblings with us when they are older.

 

[marinadca]

We do have a 2 year old, but we choose NOT to bring him to Disney. Most people I know get all huffy and puffy when I tell them that we are planning another Disney trip and we are not taking him with us.

I feel that Disney is a special place for both the DH and myself and we enjoy being just to two of us. we got married on Luau Beach in October and he was there with us. But, he did not go into the parks (he stayed with the in-laws)

Are we really horrible for not taking our child with us? We will take him and his future siblings with us when they are older.

Not horrible at all! At 2 years old taking him would be more for your benefit than his. He wont remember....and wont be able to eat/do/etc a lot of things. I think its a much better idea to make your kid's first trip on he can remember.

 

[franandaj]

I had an interesting realization a couple of days ago at my retail job.

There was a mom of two young boys who sounded like she was at the end of her rope. They were squabbling, and making enough noise that she was having trouble finding what she needed (and I was having trouble finding what was left of my sanity).

I thought to myself, 'And people think I want to do this?' And then it occurred to me that to the people who tell us, "You'll change your mind," or "It's different when it's your own," or things like that, all of that is worth it. It's a completely foreign concept to these people that to us, it's not necessarily worth it. And they just can't fathom that.

You're totally right! I never understood how my baby was going to have diaper changes, because I was certainly not going to do it! I can't even scoop the cat boxes! That's Fran's responsibility. I can't even imagine what would make having children worth it to me. I don't need to deal with all the other stuff discussed, bullies, keeping them off drugs, raising them with good morals. Heck I don't have time for stuff dealing with medical issues with my partner, much less a kid!

I can honestly say that I am 40 years old and husband is 50, we enjoy doing what we want, we want, and not having to worry about children and how to juggle all that goes with it.

We have friends and family that have children, we are god parents, we love kids, we just did not want to give up our lifestyle.

Some people just don't get it, and think we are selfish for not having kids.

To me, it would have been selfish to have them and not cherish them.

To each his own and I wish people would butt out of our business. One nice thing is we are finally getting old enough that people stop asking, and now have moved on to the adoption route.

Brandi you are right! We are there with you. And if anyone asked us why we don't have kids I could always say, "Fran's been fixed, how could she get me pregnant?"

 

[CurlyJo224]

You're totally right! I never understood how my baby was going to have diaper changes, because I was certainly not going to do it! I can't even scoop the cat boxes! That's Fran's responsibility. I can't even imagine what would make having children worth it to me. I don't need to deal with all the other stuff discussed, bullies, keeping them off drugs, raising them with good morals. Heck I don't have time for stuff dealing with medical issues with my partner, much less a kid!

I have a longhaired cat, and I can barely deal with her hairballs. I'd never be able to deal with a sick kid.

 

[zima-cheryl]

And if anyone asked us why we don't have kids I could always say, "Fran's been fixed, how could she get me pregnant?"

Love it, may have to steal that one!

 

[dgbg100106]

Brandi you are right! We are there with you. And if anyone asked us why we don't have kids I could always say, "Fran's been fixed, how could she get me pregnant?"

Ok this was a great quote to get my day moving better....


And David has been fixed... So how could he get me pregnant!

 

[CruisingGoddess]

I need some AKL childfree advice. We're thinking of staying at AKL for 1 night after a DCL cruise. We won't be going to the parks at all, just DTD, Boardwalk, hanging out at AKL's pool, and watching animals.

I need help picking which room to get. Here's my choices:

Animal Kingdom Lodge: Arusha View
Animal Kingdom Villas - Jambo or Kidani: Savannah View Studio +$11.56

Which room would you recommend? It seems like Kidani is a bit "far" from the action? We certainly don't need the extra space of a studio but for $11.56 more, it sure doesn't hurt but I want to make sure there are no disadvantages with doing a villa.

Thanks in advance!

 

[dgbg100106]

I need some AKL childfree advice. We're thinking of staying at AKL for 1 night after a DCL cruise. We won't be going to the parks at all, just DTD, Boardwalk, hanging out at AKL's pool, and watching animals.

I need help picking which room to get. Here's my choices:

Animal Kingdom Lodge: Arusha View
Animal Kingdom Villas - Jambo or Kidani: Savannah View Studio +$11.56

Which room would you recommend? It seems like Kidani is a bit "far" from the action? We certainly don't need the extra space of a studio but for $11.56 more, it sure doesn't hurt but I want to make sure there are no disadvantages with doing a villa.

Thanks in advance!

My DH and I stay at Jambo House in the Villas and love it...

 

[franandaj]

My DH and I stay at Jambo House in the Villas and love it...

You two get a one bedroom though right?

I like the Villas over a hotel room because you get a microwave and mini fridge.

 

[dgbg100106]

You two get a one bedroom though right?

I like the Villas over a hotel room because you get a microwave and mini fridge.

We have always gotten a one bedroom, but our friends this last time got a Studio...

I like the one bedroom for us..

 

[MapleGirl]

I have a longhaired cat, and I can barely deal with her hairballs. I'd never be able to deal with a sick kid.

Yes. I wouldn't want to deal with a sick whiny kid. I just don't like kids (and I don't think that makes me a bad person). I think they are loud, messy and irritating and they give me migraines. However, it's the entitled parents that really tick me off. I just want to tell them to get over themselves and control their little snowflakes. Ugh. So not my thing. The world needs less people, not more. I dream of a day when it is considered out of style and socially irresponsible to have children. When people ask me when DH and I are having kids I smile politely and tell them we are happy being a duo. People don't usually push.

We're headed to WDW in October to celebrate my 30th birthday. I am so excited!!! It will be a short trip (just 3 nights) but we'll be there for the Epcot Food and Wine Festival and MNSSHP. I'm also looking forward to getting some Epcot 30th Anniversary merch. Huzzah for DINKS!

 

[zima-cheryl]

So next Wednesday (8/1) is national non-parents day.

Our local 'Couples Without Kids' group is going out for supper at a very nice
local place to celebrate. I called today for our reservation & the girl asked if the group was celebrating anything, so I told her yes & what.
To her credit, she just said, that's great, we'll note you are a meetup group celebrating that night & see you next Wednesday.... she never skipped a beat.