Child Support ?

[cheermom1]

Can you get married at 17 without a parent signature? Is it 16 then? I'm sure states are different but since you can't do so many things legally till you are 18 I'm surprised that you can marry before 18 without parental permission.

If it is 18 but the CP signed I'd say since you are all for it you support them and go get it stopped if possible.

(I'd probably also put that child support money in the bank so I could pay for the annulment if the son came to his senses)

I don't even like to see kids getting married while in college let alone HS for goodness sake!

Yep just the cp has to sign. which I think is sad b/c I think that both parents should have to agree to let their kid get married before 18.

The reason I know is b/c when my bro got married his bride was 16 and her parents just got divorced and the mom signed and the dad was against it but it was legal for just the mom to sign. She only signed b/c the daughter agreed to be a free baby sitter for her mom.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Can you get married at 17 without a parent signature? Is it 16 then? I'm sure states are different but since you can't do so many things legally till you are 18 I'm surprised that you can marry before 18 without parental permission.

If it is 18 but the CP signed I'd say since you are all for it you support them and go get it stopped if possible.

(I'd probably also put that child support money in the bank so I could pay for the annulment if the son came to his senses)

I don't even like to see kids getting married while in college let alone HS for goodness sake!

In SC you need parental permission under the age of 18 however you only need 1 parent's signature (your custodial parent). Girls can get married as young as age 14 and boys as young as age 16 with parental consent.

 

[wtpntigger2]

It specifically states in my divorce decree the reasons for ending child support before the age of 18 and marriage is one of those reasons. And I believe these are the reasons the state says child support is no longer mandated.

 

[horseshowmom]

The NCP has not said anything about CS and I haven't asked them. I am not either parent here--this is a family that I am very close to. I was just curious especially since the new bride made the comment about getting the groom's CS.

Believe me the NCP is beyond livid that the marriage took place! The CP was all for it.

I can understand why the NCP feels that way. Being pregnant doesn't mean they have to marry each other (yes, I know they say this isn't the case - if it's not, the CP is a sorry excuse for a parent for supporting the whole thing.). I deeply question the wisdom of two high school Juniors marrying each other.

Can you get married at 17 without a parent signature? Is it 16 then? I'm sure states are different but since you can't do so many things legally till you are 18 I'm surprised that you can marry before 18 without parental permission.

If it is 18 but the CP signed I'd say since you are all for it you support them and go get it stopped if possible.

(I'd probably also put that child support money in the bank so I could pay for the annulment if the son came to his senses)

I don't even like to see kids getting married while in college let alone HS for goodness sake!

I've got to agree with you.

In Mississippi the parents must sign for you if you're under 21 (not sure if that means both parents though since my daughter was over 21 when she married).

 

[flamingglobessigmund]

The NCP has not said anything about CS and I haven't asked them. I am not either parent here--this is a family that I am very close to. I was just curious especially since the new bride made the comment about getting the groom's CS.

Believe me the NCP is beyond livid that the marriage took place! The CP was all for it.

Doesn't the CS check go to the CP? The money/check/debit card goes to the CP right? Not the 17 yo son.

That little girl might be in for a rude awakening if the CP doesn't want to turn over the CS to them.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I would believe that the 17yo and the custodial parent should start to re-do their budget and the non-custodial parent should be getting their butt into court to negate the child support. Remember, they will have to bring proof of the marriage, and while some courts will go back to the actual date others will use the court date as the stoppage date. Nothing comes without a court date. If I was non-custodial, I would be filing the paper immediately (no lawyer should be needed).

 

[pbthompson]

We were paying child support for my husband's son that had 2 kids before 18. Yeah, they are not considered emancipated if they become parents out of wedlock.

 

[disneychrista]

I hope there is a pregnancy or some other slightly decent reason for getting married at the ripe age of 17 .

I would never "hope" that a 17yo is pregnant.

We were paying child support for my husband's son that had 2 kids before 18. Yeah, they are not considered emancipated if they become parents out of wedlock.

Why would it?

 

[cheermom1]

I would never "hope" that a 17yo is pregnant.


Why would it?

WHY? Really? you have to ask? But since you did I'll tell you, They were ADULT enough to make the choice to have relations so they are ADULT enough to take care of their kid without the help of CS form their parent. Sure their parents can help if they want but it should not be demanded of them!

 

[disneychrista]

WHY? Really? you have to ask? But since you did I'll tell you, They were ADULT enough to make the choice to have relations so they are ADULT enough to take care of their kid without the help of CS form their parent. Sure their parents can help if they want but it should not be demanded of them!

Is/were your step-sons still living at home with their mother? Was mom still paying for their housing, food, etc? This is what the C/S is for.

 

[canopynut66]

I have a question regarding child support. This is not my situation but someone close to me and I am just curious.

The non custodial parent is paying child support for a minor until the minor is 18. If the 'minor' child gets married before they turn 18 is the non custodial parent still obligated to pay child support to the custodial parent as well as continue insurance coverage?

Depends what was agreed upon in divorce also. My ex had to pay support until they turned 21 as long as they were going to college and half the college. If not support stopped at 19 OR if they got married/pregnant whichever came first. Would find out for sure as would have to pay that back other wise

 

[DebbieB]

My brother is paying child support for his 16 year old son. He told me that in PA, you have to continue paying past 18 if they are still in high school. He will turn 18 in December 2012 but will not graduate until June 2013.

 

[disneychrista]

you have to continue paying past 18 if they are still in high school.

This is pretty standard.

 

[cheermom1]

Is/were your step-sons still living at home with their mother? Was mom still paying for their housing, food, etc? This is what the C/S is for.

First this doesn;t make sense. However in this situation the kid is married which mean that he was adult enough to get married so he is adult enough to support himself and his new bride without demanding daddy help.

Still if the kid got preggo then they were adult enough to have relations to get that so they are adult enough to support that kids themselves!

I got preggo at 17 and NEVER EVER thought that either of my parents were obligated or expected to support me and my child! I GOT A JOB!!

 

[disneychrista]

First this doesn;t make sense. However in this situation the kid is married which mean that he was adult enough to get married so he is adult enough to support himself and his new bride without demanding daddy help.

My response was in regards to this post,

We were paying child support for my husband's son that had 2 kids before 18. Yeah, they are not considered emancipated if they become parents out of wedlock.

where sons knocked up a girl, if those sons are living at home, with the custodial parent supporting them ,then child support would still be required.


Since you responded to my question as to why would support stop if the sons were living at home, then I though you were the poster I was responding to.

In the case were a girl gets married then I agree support should stop FROM BOTH PARENTS. I also think if the kids are old enough to be married they are old enough to have jobs and their own place to live.

 

[claudia]

I have a question regarding child support. This is not my situation but someone close to me and I am just curious.

The non custodial parent is paying child support for a minor until the minor is 18. If the 'minor' child gets married before they turn 18 is the non custodial parent still obligated to pay child support to the custodial parent as well as continue insurance coverage?

no....marriage emacipates the child. The non custodial parent will have to file in the court to end the support order though.

 

[southern_redhead]

Wow. Just.......wow. That bride's family must be so proud. "What does your new SIL do for a living?" "Oh, they are living off the child support his daddy/mommy pays." Well, to that end HIS family ought to be ashamed, too.

I know one thing, *my* daddy's wallet would have slammed shut had I done that. It would have also had a closed sign had I gotten pregnant. He would have told me the fun was over, find a job. And rightfully so.

 

[cm8]

Wow. Just.......wow. That bride's family must be so proud. "What does your new SIL do for a living?" "Oh, they are living off the child support his daddy/mommy pays." Well, to that end HIS family ought to be ashamed, too.

I know one thing, *my* daddy's wallet would have slammed shut had I done that. It would have also had a closed sign had I gotten pregnant. He would have told me the fun was over, find a job. And rightfully so.

I know that's right. Too many teens are brought up thinking that someone other than themselves are required to support them and their offspring they chose to have at an early age. MTV doesn't help either showing how "easy" they could have it if they can just make it on the shows

They are sometimes no more capable of taking care of themselves let alone another person. I have seen way too many teens pregnant and dependent on the system or someone else to care from their child. Sooner or later then will wake up and realize that they need to grow-up and become self sufficient

 

[bumbershoot]

Can I say married at 17 and living with the parent

Seriously! When my mom married at 17 in 1961, she did it to get OUT of her parents' house!

If my 17 year old Dd got married in less than a week, the last thing I'd be thinking is, "Oh, now I don't have to pay child support!" I find it sad that people are always looking at ways to get out of it.

It's not the paying parent wondering about this...the OP heard the new wife of the kid with child support talk about using that support, and wondered if it was actually going to work that way.

 

[cheermom1]

My response was in regards to this post,



where sons knocked up a girl, if those sons are living at home, with the custodial parent supporting them ,then child support would still be required.


Since you responded to my question as to why would support stop if the sons were living at home, then I though you were the poster I was responding to.

In the case were a girl gets married then I agree support should stop FROM BOTH PARENTS. I also think if the kids are old enough to be married they are old enough to have jobs and their own place to live.

This is where I disagree as they are ADULT enough to have relations to have a child so they are adult enough to support themselves and their child! AS i said I was 17 when I got preggo and I got a J O B! Not that hard of a concept!