I wish you ladies lots of baby dust, whether it comes biologically or through adoption, and if it doesn´t come to you, I wish you peace in your hearts.
DH and I have been blessed with our DD, and although we never thought we would be parents to an only child we feel we have been blessed with her.
Wow. I just happened to see this thread. This truely is a wonderful site. I've been through three IVF cycles. I have a 12-year-old son, the product of my first cycle, I didn't get pregnant the second cycle at all and I got pregnant with twins the third cycle. Unfortunately, one was ectopic and I lost both. Only someone who has struggled can understand the tragedy of that one, I was 12 weeks! On the brighter side, I have a beautiful 6-year-old whom we adopted at 20 days old and we would have never done that if I hadn't experienced that tragedy. Whenever I get sad about those twins, and believe me my husband and I still get sad, I think "God had a different plan, he knew we were supposed to adopt Jonathan". Hope this helps someone.
Lots of pink and blue baby dust to everyone!
I can relate to you. At 6 weeks pregnant my pregnancy was diagnosed as ectopic (through low levels of the Hcg hormone and a tras******l ultrasound), so the doctor performed a laparoscopy to remove the baby. I was devastated, so much that DH and I decided then that we would not have any children, since I would be at a higher risk for another ectopic (endometriosis, previous ectopic, twisted fallopian tubes and PID) and I would never forgive myself if I got another ectopic pregnancy and having to remove a living baby.
4 weeks later AF hadn´t come (and the doctor put me on the pill and you know how that works), so I took a HPT and got a BFP, called the doctor crying since I was terrified of losing another baby, and he said to go see him and probably the BFP was a result of the hormones from the ectopic pregnancy. I get to the office and he tells me that the only way to prove that I am not pregnant is with another tras******l ultrasound, which showed that I was indeed pregnant with a 10 week baby. The doctor´s face was really something! Of course he then said that maybe there would be some problems with the baby because all the drugs they gave me after the laparoscopy and should any problems arise to let the baby go.
7 months later our beautiful healthy baby girl was born, so miracles DO happen.
After doing a lot of research in the internet I thought the doctor was unethical because I hadn´t had any complications with the ectopic so I should have been given a Methrotexate (sp?) shot instead of surgery, but that would have killed my DD who no one had detected at the moment, so we never know why things happen the way they do.
PrincessSuzanne - thanks so much for the adoption information.
jjk1107 - People are very insensitive especially if they never had infertility problems. I have people tell me often too about getting pregnant like it's so easy. They make you feel guilty like if something is wrong with you, when none of this is our fault. I've had to come to terms with that. That's awesome on your adoption, you have something great to look forward to.
I was just browsing the internet earlier on adoption and there is sooo much information out there. Some agencies have pictures of the babies waiting to be adopted. It's so sad
I'm just scared because you hear of scammers or agencies promising you a baby and than nothing. I'm just a very suspicious person, so it's great to hear about all the success stories. I'm interested in adopting from Mexico, Guatemala or other Latin Am countries. DH and I are both Mex-Am and speak Spanish. The traveling part would be closer too. But it is costly, i was reading 10k or more depending where you adopt from. Right now, I'm not working because I had taken some time off to do the treatments so I'm currently looking for new employment. It would be great to get into a company with awesome health benefits and adoption assistance.
For those of you going to WDW soon - I wish I was going too! I could use a trip especially right now. It does make you feel better at least for the time being someplace magical.
DH and I have considered adopting a second child (I am definetly not risking another ectopic pregnancy), but adoption in Mexico is a most difficult process, and we don´t even have a foster system here, so babies live in orphanages and the process can take years, so by the time you get a child, he or she might have been living in the orphanage for 3 years. It is impossible to get a baby, and surrogacy, etc are not used here.
The other thing is that some people would never consider adopted children part of their families, and adoptions are seen almost like a disease and of those few adopted children, many are never told, so all of these reasons make a lot of people want a baby who looks like them (which in our circle would mean not a native looking baby), and forget about chinese, etc babies here. I am so sad, because everyone loses in these ridiculous situations, parents and grandparents miss the joy of a baby and a baby misses the joy of loving parents.
I'm with you on this. I went through a miscarriage in August 2005, and was told by several people "at least you can get pregnant". It felt like my loss was turned into some sort of "trial pregnancy"...a test run, if you will. I'd rather not get pregnant ever then to get pregnant and then have that child die. The hopes are briefly lifted only to be crushed. It was the only time I've been pregnant. The thought of actually getting pregnant now terrifies me because I've already experienced one loss. I mean I want to get pregnant, but am scared of it at the same time because I know what happened the last time. Such a hard place to be.
All that said, both situations of never getting pregnant and getting pregnant but miscarrying are so incredibly hard and there really is no comparison...each person only understands the pain they have experienced and it's just horrible.
I am with you, no one can feel what you feel unless the go through the same. I don´t want to be able to get pregnant if I will lose that precious baby, in my case I would rather not get pregnant at all, but I have never been in the shoes of someone not being able to get pregnant, so definetly don´t know how I would feel if I were in their shoes.
I feel like crying right now as I speak.
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I'm so sorry Nennie!
Hugs to all!
. If you saw the first one when she was pregnant with #16, They paid off all of their bills, never had credit cards and are now living debt free 
. Thay even took the kids to DL last summer. Can't imagine what that cost them.
. You know my husband came from a large family. His father is one of 11 and his mother is one of 7, but back in the day their families were started there was a reason, they needed these children to make a living, and as my mother said there wasn't any birth control, but times have changed ALOT and this isn't necessary.
. I only have to work today and tomorrow and then I am off until next Tuesday, on thursday, I am off to WDW. See I have something to look forward to. That is probably why I am in a good mood today. Well I better get back to work.
