Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[mking624]

I've gotten the one about WDW too! A friend of mine and I went down a couple of years ago. We were on line for a ride and this woman behind us was making comments about people who come here without kids and make the lines longer!
Like there are SO many of us that it was keeping her little darling off the rides!!!

Oh yes, I can see the logic of how only 2 people (me & DH) take up SO much more room than a family 3, 4, 5, etc. Simple math, don't you get it?

 

[Muushka]

Just had to tell you that my childfree best friend was asked at a party recently "Where do your kids go to school?" AHHHHHHH!! HOw could someone just ASSUME like that? And if she was suffering with infertility this could be downright painful.

You think that's bad?? Wait till you look a little older and they ask you how many GRANDCHILDREN you have . I swear, I never wanted to hit someone for a comment, but that one came very close! (Of course I think she started having babies at a young age and just assumed that everyone else in the world did)

 

[goofygirl]

The question I hate is WHY aren't you having kids?? I've never heard anyone ask a pregnant woman WHY she IS having a child, have you?

Yeah! I know what you mean!

Around Mother's Day, some stranger always wishes me a Happy Mother's Day- they assume I'm a mother. I usually say, "Well, I'm not a mother but I do HAVE a mother, and I'll be spending a happy day with her!"

 

[Hixski]

Yeah! I know what you mean!

Around Mother's Day, some stranger always wishes me a Happy Mother's Day- they assume I'm a mother. I usually say, "Well, I'm not a mother but I do HAVE a mother, and I'll be spending a happy day with her!"

You are a cat mother just like I am a dog mother. My dog gets me a card for Mothers Day. He even takes me out to dinner. Actually DH takes me but it is from the dog. We just don't go out on Mothers Day. Too busy. We usually golf on Mothers Day. We can get a tee time anywhere since all the fathers have to stay home with their wives. I even get a discount since they assume I am a mother. Works out very well for me.

 

[goofygirl]

*bump*

I love my cats more than anything in the world. No, they can't buy me presents but that's not important to me.

I actually celebrate "Gotcha Day" with my cats, it's June 4. I adopted them June 4 2004. I buy them special treats and toys.

 

[luvwinnie]

Yeah! I know what you mean!

Around Mother's Day, some stranger always wishes me a Happy Mother's Day- they assume I'm a mother. I usually say, "Well, I'm not a mother but I do HAVE a mother, and I'll be spending a happy day with her!"

I just tell them that the only kids I have are furry with 4 legs.

 

[goofygirl]

bump!!

 

[Fitswimmer]

I'll be in Vero Beach this year for Mother's day-with my mother. I will also have my DN there, and since her own mother chose a drug dealer boyfriend and substance abuse over her children-I'm the closest thing to a mother she has. We're planning a lovely day and a nice dinner, and I'll have flowers in my mother's room when she checks in.

I'm kind of glad to miss Church that day though, I get tired of the "Mother worship" that goes on. I can't imagine what it must be like for someone who didn't choose to be child-free. All of that makes me feel inadequate and I chose my life!

 

[goofygirl]

since her own mother chose a drug dealer boyfriend and substance abuse over her children

Oh boy. I see that parenthood didn't make HER a better person.

I'm kind of glad to miss Church that day though, I get tired of the "Mother worship" that goes on.

I was in church last Mothers Day and it really was not much different than any other service. But then again, its not a Catholic church.

 

[dolcezena]

I love my cats more than anything in the world. No, they can't buy me presents but that's not important to me.

Yup, I get presents from my furbabies - last Christmas they "bought" me a cappuccino machine - the most expensive present under the tree! All they got DFi was a pair of socks & a Hickory Farms sausage!

BTW Goofygirl, felt my heart crack when I read your post from a couple of pages back - made me remember how brutal it was for me many years ago when my ex boyfriend & I chose to place the child we had for adoption - then he decided he wanted a family & our relationship was over. (There was more to it, but that was probably the "straw" so to speak.) I knew then I didn't want kids & I still don't - he decided he did. C'est la vie.

You WILL find someone who shares your feelings! I did - DW hating or not, I'm keeping him! (Besides, I've brainwashed him into going next year - guess the near constant playing of Disney movies finally worked!)

 

[dolcezena]

I've gotten the one about WDW too! A friend of mine and I went down a couple of years ago. We were on line for a ride and this woman behind us was making comments about people who come here without kids and make the lines longer!
Like there are SO many of us that it was keeping her little darling off the rides!!!

Hmmmm, I wonder if maybe those little darlings will grow up & want to do Disney THEIR way, instead of their mommy's way....like I do!

 

[goofygirl]

Bump!

 

[plgrn]

I was at our tiny rural area's post office this week and an elderly man (70's at least) came in to get a form to put his mail on hold. On his way out, he ran into someone he knew (small town!) and he told them he was getting his mail put on hold while he were on vacation. When asked where he was going, he told them "Disney World." They replied "oh how fun! To take the grandkids?" He was like. "No, just me and my wife. We go all the time."

That's me in fifty years!

 

[Hixski]

I was at our tiny rural area's post office this week and an elderly man (70's at least) came in to get a form to put his mail on hold. On his way out, he ran into someone he knew (small town!) and he told them he was getting his mail put on hold while he were on vacation. When asked where he was going, he told them "Disney World." They replied "oh how fun! To take the grandkids?" He was like. "No, just me and my wife. We go all the time."

That's me in fifty years!

That will be DH and I too. That is why we bought into DVC. WDW, Vero Beach, DCL cruises, Hilton Head........of course we have heard we shouldn't buy into DVC without kids either. No one can figure out why you would buy a Disney timeshare when you don't have children. Clueless people. I will be 83 and DH will be 84 when our first one runs out. I will be 93 and DH will be 94 when our second one runs out. Plenty of time for lots of childfree vacations.

 

[goofygirl]

Yup, I get presents from my furbabies - last Christmas they "bought" me a cappuccino machine - the most expensive present under the tree! All they got DFi was a pair of socks & a Hickory Farms sausage!

BTW Goofygirl, felt my heart crack when I read your post from a couple of pages back - made me remember how brutal it was for me many years ago when my ex boyfriend & I chose to place the child we had for adoption - then he decided he wanted a family & our relationship was over. (There was more to it, but that was probably the "straw" so to speak.) I knew then I didn't want kids & I still don't - he decided he did. C'est la vie.

You WILL find someone who shares your feelings! I did - DW hating or not, I'm keeping him! (Besides, I've brainwashed him into going next year - guess the near constant playing of Disney movies finally worked!)

Wow. I am so sorry that you had to go through carrying and giving birth to a child that you didn't want. That's like my worst nightmare. Plus to have your boyfriend change his mind on you like that! Insult to injury!

I gave up on the idea of finding a compatible CF guy. I just don't believe it will happen.

 

[goofygirl]

That will be DH and I too. That is why we bought into DVC. WDW, Vero Beach, DCL cruises, Hilton Head........of course we have heard we shouldn't buy into DVC without kids either. No one can figure out why you would buy a Disney timeshare when you don't have children. Clueless people. I will be 83 and DH will be 84 when our first one runs out. I will be 93 and DH will be 94 when our second one runs out. Plenty of time for lots of childfree vacations.

By the way, my grandmother who is in her 80's goes to WDW without kids. She lives in FL so she goes with Florida resident rates.

 

[dolcezena]

Wow. I am so sorry that you had to go through carrying and giving birth to a child that you didn't want. That's like my worst nightmare. Plus to have your boyfriend change his mind on you like that! Insult to injury!

I gave up on the idea of finding a compatible CF guy. I just don't believe it will happen.

I really have to think about how to respond to this....

The best thing I can come up with is what my counsellor at the time said - I wasn't having an unwanted pregnancy, it was an untimely one.
Seriously, being pregnant & giving birth was an experience I'm so grateful for having experienced. HOWEVER - I am also NEVER regretful about my decision to place him. Having a child is one experience - raising one is an entirely different one! Neither me nor my BF at the time wanted children - the experience changed both of us, just not in the same direction. We're still good friends now & still know we made the right decision.

As for not being able to find a CF-minded guy, well, I think that sometimes guys say/act like they want kids, because (as we all know) society expects people to want to be breeders. Honestly, there's not ONE person in our circle of friends that is panting to become a parent. There have been a couple that dealt with it when it smacked them upside the head, but did they want it? No.

There's plenty of men out there that don't want kids - even some that are somewhat normal! I used to feel like I should have a tattoo..."NO, I DON'T WANT KIDS" - felt like that would expand my dating pool! But, as always seems to happen in life, I found mine when I wasn't looking.

 

[goofygirl]

But, as always seems to happen in life, I found mine when I wasn't looking.

Oh people say that all the time. Maybe it happened in your life, but it doesn't happen in mine. I stopped looking, and do you know what happened? Nobody came. Guys don't just come knocking at your door. It's like getting a job. You have to go look for a job. You can't sit around and wait for one to come along.

 

[luvwinnie]

It's happening again. I have a part-time coworker who is newly pregnant and she said, "Havinga child is THE most wonderful thing"...I said, "Yes, IF YOU WANT IT". She started with the "you might change your mind" stuff and I just said "No, that won't happen" and changed the subject. UGH. I don't even want to talk to her now about ANYTHING for fear it will go back to that. I'll be 39 in June, trust me, I am NOT changing my mind!!!!

 

[goofygirl]

It's happening again. I have a part-time coworker who is newly pregnant and she said, "Havinga child is THE most wonderful thing"...I said, "Yes, IF YOU WANT IT". She started with the "you might change your mind" stuff and I just said "No, that won't happen" and changed the subject. UGH. I don't even want to talk to her now about ANYTHING for fear it will go back to that. I'll be 39 in June, trust me, I am NOT changing my mind!!!!

39??? Holy smokes, dontcha know that you're supposed to hear that biological clock ticking and want a baby soooooo baaaadly? LOL!

Did she plan to get pregnant, or did she change her mind once the pee stick showed 2 lines? Maybe she's trying to convince herselfthat it's a wonderful thing.