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[The Mystery Machine]

DH and I would not have gone out if my baby was 2 months old.
What dh would do would be to bring dinner to me, so we could celebrate but do it comfortably.

I still don't understand the full story, but a newborn trumps dinner out, sorry.

 

[grlpwrd]

Looks like they should have agreed on their methods/rules/etc of attachment parenting before they had babies.

I do think he's taking advantage of the opportunity and starting up his own website, association, and publicity machine is clever. More power to them, but I wouldn't want my marriage scrutinized like that and the kids grow up and they will have the reputation of what their dad brought upon themselves.
That makes me .

 

[Bob Slydell]

I think he's probably an idiot who doesn't even help her out, so I think he's done her a favor by moving out! Only 2 kids to take care of instead of 3! (Putting my flame retardent suit on now!)

Why are you assuming this? Would you make the same assumptions if the sexes were reversed?

 

[Maleficent13]

Well, he's certainly not helping her now, sitting on the stupid roof. My assessment of his character is based solely on this ridiculous idea of advertising his wife's "faults" to the neighborhood, and now, the world. And if she's going along with it (as I am reading she is) then maybe they deserve each other.

I maintain, though, that if my DH thought this was a good idea, he wouldn't have to sit on the roof...I'd move out and he could have the whole damn house to himself, including the bedroom!

 

[Bob Slydell]

Well, he's certainly not helping her now, sitting on the stupid roof. My assessment of his character is based solely on this ridiculous idea of advertising his wife's "faults" to the neighborhood, and now, the world. And if she's going along with it (as I am reading she is) then maybe they deserve each other.

I maintain, though, that if my DH thought this was a good idea, he wouldn't have to sit on the roof...I'd move out and he could have the whole damn house to himself, including the bedroom!

No argument here on this -- I think it's an extremely stupid and unproductive way to solve the problem.

 

[Mishetta]

Well, he's certainly not helping her now, sitting on the stupid roof. My assessment of his character is based solely on this ridiculous idea of advertising his wife's "faults" to the neighborhood, and now, the world. And if she's going along with it (as I am reading she is) then maybe they deserve each other.

I maintain, though, that if my DH thought this was a good idea, he wouldn't have to sit on the roof...I'd move out and he could have the whole damn house to himself, including the bedroom!

Bob Slydell ~ this is exactly what I was thinking! That is why I made that comment.

 

[tjmw2727]

Sorry, but a 2 month old has needs that trumps a grown adult's any day.

I'm glad my husband was enough of a man to realize that.

ITA - who is the baby?

When I saw the story this morning they didn't say the ages of the children. He said something like them being old enough and its time for them to get out of the bedroom at night.

It goes by sooo fast the 2mo will be on his/her own soon enough.

Interesting.

TJ

 

[Bob Slydell]

Bob Slydell ~ this is exactly what I was thinking! That is why I made that comment.

Sorry -- I misread it and thought you were implying that the guy wasn't doing anything before his strike.

 

[DebIreland]

How on earth do you even spoil a newborn baby??? Once I read the ages of the children, I thought he was a moron. 2 years old and 2 months old - they're just babies for heaven sake!

And as for THIS: "Even though our two month old daughter refuses to sleep without my wife holding her, and my two year son won't even attempt to sleep without his pacifier, my wife still refuses to take my advice about how to fix these problems.

The thing is I don't see either of the above examples as problems at all. I see nothing wrong with a baby having a pacifier for security at bedtime and I certainly see nothing wrong with a newborn baby wanting her Mom's touch and scent - she's just out of the womb for heaven sake. Geez, I would never talk to that [unDIS-like word] again!!!

 

[gris gris]

The point I wanted to make though is that I have met plenty of moms who want to do it all (even if they complain) and think that their DH is not capable of helping etc. Eventually the DH loses interest because he's constantly shot down if he tries to help. It's just something I have observed and tucked away for when I have kids.

I had "new mom syndrome" too until DH & I ended up at the marriage counselors and she told me that DH is just as capable of taking care of DD as I am, even if he does it differently. This was the best advice I ever got. Now when baby #2 arrives, I'm looking forward to not being so caught up in the baby stuff and focusing on my entire family, DH included.

kpm76 you sound like you're on your way to being a great parent (I can tell you're already a great wife with the SOX hats !!)

Back to the topic, I think this guy is just being funny and means no harm. If his wife were that upset about it I don't think she'd be on TV with him.

 

[declansdad]

Just curious....why do so many people who have posted in this thread think that with two children under 2, she must be exhausted and he doesn't help. I haven't read anything that stated that they did not share the chores.

 

[Mi3stooges]

I have the solution...they should get a Nanny, right? Then she could do all the childcare, maybe some house work and then the wife could take care of her husband.

I had 3 kids in 3 years. All I ever heard was 'Oh, you'll be changing diapers for 3?" Wasn't bad, for about 9 mos. No, I didn't like the way hubby put them on, or MIL (but she was better than her son!)So youget a little defensive.
I could see if these kids were say 3 and 5 or so, for him to get so bent. When mine were little and hubby wanted private time I was either too exhaushted or looked at the mountain of wash that needed to be folded. Well, to this day, (about 10yrs later) DH does all the wash, so I won't have an excuse!!!

 

[kpm76]

kpm76 you sound like you're on your way to being a great parent (I can tell you're already a great wife with the SOX hats !!)

Thanks I sure hope so!! As I said earlier, I am sure things will change once we are parents and I will say and do things I said I never would But I think I have learned alot from watching those around make some mistakes. There are so many different parenting styles and you have to find the one that works best for your situation, but I always feel sorry for the devoted husbands/dads who get neglected and/or feel like they cannot have a part in their child's life. I think being aware of this now and having dicussions with DH will help to avoid any potential difficulties....my dad was the one that got up with us in the middle of the night for feedings, when we were sick or needed to go to the bathroom etc. We all remember this and I think that is one of the reasons we have such a nice relationship with our dad

BTW, go Sox!!!

 

[Maleficent13]

Just curious....why do so many people who have posted in this thread think that with two children under 2, she must be exhausted and he doesn't help. I haven't read anything that stated that they did not share the chores.

He's not doing too many chores up there on the roof, now is he?

And although I cannot speak to whether or not he helped before he went up on the roof, I CAN attest that having a 2 month old IS exhausting, no matter if he's helping or not (which, again, he obviously isn't as he's hanging out on the roof advertising their personal business).

 

[declansdad]

He's not doing too many chores up there on the roof, now is he?

And although I cannot speak to whether or not he helped before he went up on the roof, I CAN attest that having a 2 month old IS exhausting, no matter if he's helping or not (which, again, he obviously isn't as he's hanging out on the roof advertising their personal business).

No he isn't doing anything up on the roof, I didn't say that he was. Nor did I say she wouldn't be exhausted. There has been nothing said that shows that he wasn't helping out before so why do some people assume he wasn't?? Just because he is a man and men can't possibly know what they are doing when it comes to raising a child????

 

[FSUGrad97]

http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060328/FEATURES01/603280343

After reading this, I can see both sides, but I think this would be best handled in counseling instead of using a web site. He comes off as incredibly petty and immature.

However, if they are doing this for the publicity, then I guess they have succeeded.

 

[Maleficent13]

My personal opinion, and I can't speak for other posters, is that we are so appalled by his display of the juvenile behavior that we DO know about, that it is a small leap to imagine him displaying other juvenile behavior. Again, as I said before, my entire opinion of this guy is based on what I perceive as his "Look at me, what about me, I want some attention too!!!!" mentality as documented by the man himself. Can't get much more egocentric than planting yourself on your roof, leaving your wife to cope with everything, and advertising it so everyone will look at you. If you're egocentric enough to do that...

btw, if the genders were reversed, I'd be just as appalled and feel exactly the same.

 

[NMAmy]

I think you're right. If it were my DH, he had better take a loaf of bread and a bucket to the roof with him...cause he dang sure wouldn't be getting in the house to eat and use the facilities!

I'm with you! Just stay up on the roof then, buddy. What a jerk.

There's a huge difference between a 2 month old sleeping in your bed and an older child. My ex and I were just so darn happy when dd actually went to sleep that we were frankly willing for her to take the bed and we'd have each taken a couch, if necessary. There was no way in heck we were going to move our little insomniac when she actually fell asleep. And since he and I cared for her together, we were BOTH exhausted. (Oh, and I guess I'd better clarify--this situation did not cause our divorce--that was years later and not because I wouldn't leave dd with a sitter. )

 

[FSUGrad97]

No he isn't doing anything up on the roof, I didn't say that he was. Nor did I say she wouldn't be exhausted. There has been nothing said that shows that he wasn't helping out before so why do some people assume he wasn't?? Just because he is a man and men can't possibly know what they are doing when it comes to raising a child????

You are the first to make this assumption. Throughout this thread, many posters have mentioned that their DH's help out and do a good job with their kids, so your arguement doesn't hold water.

 

[Marseeya]

They just had a mini interview with them on our local news. They actually have FOUR kids, not two! The wife was interviewed while holding the infant and she said that she wasn't too thrilled with the website, but she thought everyone would end up taking her side.