Chatterbox Hyena Thread (Everyone is Welcome)

[Mkgaapril]

so I was going to go get my travelers checks....tried to this morning at AAA and they were out of the ones I like....so I thought I would run to the bank and get them but now I am just to tired.....

 

[funnygarcia]

sniffle sniffle.. I'm sorry you are going thru this..

 

[Mkgaapril]

it stinks but what do I do...DH will tell if I want him to or not...so ...and she is being wrong...and DH is friends with him....and if its true...if I saw him with someone she would hate me for not telling...so...

but I didn't do this...

 

[Mkgaapril]

ok, so lets talk about something els....

are you getting settled in B???

 

[Mkgaapril]

how long has your DH been sick...? Is he doing ok now?

 

[funnygarcia]

are you getting settled in B???

ha ha ha (said in a very sarcastic tone)

NO


okay, well kinda settled.. if you call hundred books laying behind my couch settled.
As in I settled on just leaving them over there since I have nowhere to put them-- sigh.

 

[funnygarcia]

how long has your DH been sick...? Is he doing ok now?

chronically ill since 1996, ain't life fun?

no it's really not that bad.. we suck it up quite nicely

I guess you haven't heard the whole story... my hubby has kidney failure due to unknown cause (possibly faulty ureter at birth , complicated with high blood pressure as an adult.. killed the rest of the one kidney he had)

My now 12 yr old was 3 months old at the time of dignosis.

Has been off and on dialysis ever since.. had a wonderful 3 1/2 years with a transplant ( iwas his donor, ZERO match excpet for blood type). But it failed.. now we are training to dialyze at home .. short daily. 5-6 times a week for 2 1/2 hours each time.


He also had seizures last fall.. no problems since he started meds.
long history of depression.. off meds now and doing beautifully!! I'm so proud of him

He graduated last year with bachelor's degree for elementary ed, with honors!

He dialyzed three times a week, school and student teaching PLUS had a part time job -- that last year was HARD work!

 

[Mkgaapril]

wow, talk about determination.....hats off to him....is that how you met? since you are a nurse?

 

[Mkgaapril]

is he on a transplant list?

 

[funnygarcia]

wow, talk about determination.....hats off to him....is that how you met? since you are a nurse?

nope, we met thru my ex-boyfriend..we were still friends.. he wanted me to come over to meet E becuase he wanted to date the girl that was hanging around with E.. I was to be the distraction to spirit her away

Worked for me, I got a great husband out of the deal.. not sure how my ex-boyfriend fared though.. he's still single

I finished up my training as an LPN after we started livng together.

is he on a transplant list?

Nope, from what we have read/heard. most people on short daily dialysis prefer it over a transplant.

Transplant meds make you sick sick sick and at risk for cancer and all sorts of wonderful complications (hmm, we've treated your kidney failure.. but guess what?? now you have liver failure congrats!)

anyway, he has been slow to accept the idea of a cadaver transplant. Plus we need good insurance to pursue that route.

You can live just fine on dialysis, transplant is not a "cure" just another treatment option.

 

[funnygarcia]

ewwwwwww, hubby just came in from being outside.. it's yucky out there!

"Like breathing in pea soup"

gross

Looked at the forecast.. it's 91 (very hot for us) with humidity at 67% ,dewpoint of 78, making the air feel like 106.



which means.. you guessed it! thunderstorms tonight
dropping the temp overnight and not as bad tomorrow.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

it stinks but what do I do...DH will tell if I want him to or not...so ...and she is being wrong...and DH is friends with him....and if its true...if I saw him with someone she would hate me for not telling...so...

but I didn't do this...

I know you know this in your brain, but I'm not sure your heart is convinced. She is trying to blame you for her failing as a human being, her dishonesty and cheating on her spouse.

You and your DH gave her the chance to come clean on her own, to do the right thing and tell him herself. She refused.

This is one bad choice in a string of bad choices. First, when confronted with the idea of having an affair, she could have indulged or she could have said, "No, I'm not that kind of person, and I value my family too much to do something like that. This would devastate them."

After beginning the affair, she could have stopped. Every time she saw him, she had to lie again to her family.

When she saw you, she could have stopped the affair and/or told her spouse. She was caught in her lies. Instead she called you and demanded that you become a party to the deception.

You are not that kind of person, and refused. What's more, you gave her fair warning to come clean to her husband, or you would. She still refused.

Upon reflection, she might have thought better of it, and made the call/stopped by to see her husband and come out with everything. Instead, she stopped by YOUR house, being angry/begging/crying/threatening/blaming for you to go along with her affair. "Don't ruin my marriage! Don't hurt my children!" She's already ruined the marriage. She's already hurt the children!

Her kids and husband will not be hurt because your DH told her DH what you saw. They will be hurt because of what you saw, what she did.

DO NOT in your heart think you could have spared her or him or the children heartache by keeping your mouth shut. If she truly loves him, and if he can find any way to forgive her, you might be saving the marriage by bringing the affair into the open and getting them into marital counseling. And if the marriage is irretrievably broken, better to end it now than years from now, and allow him to hopefully move on and find someone who will love him and honor the marriage vows.

Your question was a good one: What would she have wanted you to do if HE were the one cheating?

 

[funnygarcia]

feel better alex?




well I found out some interesting tidbit .....


My son's best friend told us today that he can't get a permit/driver's license or a job (he's 15).. I asked.. HUH??

He doesn't have a SSN, I was like why??

okay I am a dork..not thinking why would he NOT have a SSN?? think harder there...

 

[Alex2kMommy]

And apparently no cake for Mom tomorrow.

My mom is a newly diagnosed Type II diabetic, and struggling with her diet. My DSis is also diabetic, and while I know she "cheats" on her diet quite a bit, she knows what she's doing (she cheats knowingly, if that makes sense); my mom apparently is having trouble keeping track, counting carbs/calories/whatever, it's too mind-boggling. She needs an easier method, so my DSis is trying to find some old WW material to help out.

So DSis recommends just ice cream of some low-fat, low-sugar type. We already get the Dreyers Slow-Churned stuff (awesome compared to other low-fat kinds.) Not sure if that is enough or need something else.

 

[funnygarcia]

He tells me "I wasn't born here"

ohhhhhhhhh, duh. I should have guesed that before



He's an illegal, he moved to the US when he was 2 yrs old.

He was joking that he needs to "marry a white girl"

I was like umm dude, you just have to marry a citizen.

Yeah.. that.






and then I told him.. or we could just adopt you.

He looked at me and broke out in a silly grin

He's a really good kid and I'm glad the boys count him as a friend.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

okay I am a dork..not thinking why would he NOT have a SSN?? think harder there...

was he born somewhere else? I know when the kids were born I was surprised we were required to get a SSN right away, think we had to apply in order to get the birth certificate or something? I didn't have one until I was in HS, it wasn't required. Myyy, times sure have changed!

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Ok I just got my cake done. Trying to figure out where to put the Happy Birthday to so and so. Its for 2 boys ages 2 and 3.

I cant take credit for the idea. I just expanded on it. Mine was to have a monster truck smashing over a flower bed but I saw a cake with a ramp and hot wheels cars under it and had to use that.

 

[funnygarcia]

And apparently no cake for Mom tomorrow.

My mom is a newly diagnosed Type II diabetic, and struggling with her diet. My DSis is also diabetic, and while I know she "cheats" on her diet quite a bit, she knows what she's doing (she cheats knowingly, if that makes sense); my mom apparently is having trouble keeping track, counting carbs/calories/whatever, it's too mind-boggling. She needs an easier method, so my DSis is trying to find some old WW material to help out.

So DSis recommends just ice cream of some low-fat, low-sugar type. We already get the Dreyers Slow-Churned stuff (awesome compared to other low-fat kinds.) Not sure if that is enough or need something else.

Angel food cake is diabetic friendly.
Or maybe some fruit.

Or there are reduced sugar cake mixes, Pillsbury brand-- new to the market.

Has she gone to a dietician yet? Some of the diabetes training materials can make it all seem much to much to cope with the big changes. But there are some great websites and other info that is user friendly.

My BIL cheats all the time, heck hubby never stuck to the renal diet either. (not diabetic.. thank goodness! It's common to be diabetic AND kidney failure... unfortunately uncontrolled diabetes leads to renal disease)


Not sure how much my dad follows diet, sadly he is on insulin now.. and having a lot of highs and lows. But we can't tell him anything.. he gets surly and yells. I predict 5 years he will be on dialysis, he already has had a few problems with blockage in the renal arteries and whacked out blood levels.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Shawna, that is an awesome cake! My boys would go nuts!!!

Can you write on the green flat side of the cake? Is there room? Somebody needs to invent candy letters of the alphabet, you could just press them into the side of the cake to spell out a message!

Though there is an uneven number of cars, that may cause problems...

 

[funnygarcia]

cool cake!

Maybe a sign "Happy smashing birthday" like a banner/finish line at the end of the road? Or in the grassy area....